Item description for The Most Important Year in a Man's Life/The Most Important Year in a Woman's Life: What Every Groom Needs to Know/What Every Bride Needs to Know by Robert Wolgemuth, Mark DeVries & Bobbie Wolgemuth...
Overview A "flip-over" handbook for brides and grooms presents a twelve-month plan for facing the challenges of a new marriage, from fighting fair and dealing with money matters to developing sexual intimacy and managing in-laws, in a guide complemented by encouraging and humorous anecdotes.
Publishers Description Your marriage could be one of history's great love stories As newlyweds, it's time to ensure that your marriage can meet the challenges it will face right around the corner. Cultivating good habits during these first twelve foundational months of your marriage and knowing what to focus on will set the stage for years to come.Robert and Bobbie and Mark and Susan know that there's a big difference between preparation and actual experience. This is your guide to actually dealing with all the things that come after 'I do.' In this unique flip-over format, the chapter topics are the same but one half is written by men for the husband, and the other half is written from a women's perspective for the wife. As a couple, you'll each progress through your part of the book and meet somewhere in the middle. Become an expert on what really makes your spouse happy, and enjoy the benefits of a great partnership. Take an honest look at the family you grew up in: its unwritten codes, how it has shaped you, and the ways it affects your relationship with your mate. Learn how to speak each other's 'language' and appreciate the qualities each of you brings to your marriage.You'll also get an eye-opening look at communication skills, secrets for a great sex life, budget basics, dealing with in-laws, navigating tough times, and much more. Above all, you'll cultivate a spiritual unity that draws the two of you closer to each other as you draw closer to God. Start reading, and make this first year together what it was meant to be: the most important year in your life.
From Publishers Weekly The Wolgemuths (he's an author and owner of a literary agency; she's an
author) and the DeVries (he's a pastor and author; she assists him in
premarital counseling and marriage retreats) offer here a two-in-one,
flip-over-format volume aimed at newlywed Christian couples. Recognizing the
success of their own marriages, the authors decided to share their experiences
and advice with couples in that make-or-break first year of marriage. Both
"books" have the same layout and cover topics such as money, sex and in-laws,
but they cater, thematically and tonally, to the gender of their audience. The
man's chapter on sex, for instance, playfully employs a baseball metaphor
throughout: the male authors fondly recall boyhood discussions of "getting to
first base," and offer suggestions for how husbands can please and love their
wives without immediately going for the "home run." The woman's sex chapter, on
the other hand, skips the metaphors, and instead gently explains that
communication is key in the first year, and that the wife needs to teach her
husband how to satisfy her. The authors consider "normals"-things one spouse
grew up thinking was natural but might seem strange to the other (such as the
belief that no house is complete without "a really big dog," the conviction
that husbands should make more money than their wives, or the assumption that
being late is fine). Addressing these "normals" help spouses understand why
their partners behave the way they do, which in turn can ease conflicts.
Boldly, the authors address the sometimes controversial Biblical principle of
submission: "No relationship, in fact, can succeed without submission," they
claim. It needs to happen voluntarily (neither spouse can force their partner
to submit), and when both people actively and humbly work to yield to each
other, "the marriage always wins." And the secret ingredient to successful
marriages? Friendship: "it is only in the fields of friendship that the
long-term passion and intimacy you long for can grow and flourish." Each book
is neatly wrapped up with a "Meet in the Middle" section, which offers
questions and exercises the husband and wife can work through together to
continue to build upon the lessons they've just learned. (May) Copyright 2003
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Est. Packaging Dimensions: Length: 9.1" Width: 6.1" Height: 1.3" Weight: 1.15 lbs.
Release Date May 1, 2003
Publisher Zondervan Publishing
ISBN 0310240069 ISBN13 9780310240068 UPC 025986240066
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More About Robert Wolgemuth, Mark DeVries & Bobbie Wolgemuth
Robert Wolgemuth is a public speaker and best-selling author of over 20 books, including five Silver Medallion Award winners. A consultant for national organizations including DreamWorks and Focus on the Family, Wolgemuth is considered an expert on family values, effective communication, leadership, listening skills, and relationship-building. He's a 1969 graduate of Taylor University and a recipient of an honorary doctorate (LHD) from the same university in 2005. Wolgemuth is the father of two grown daughters, two sons-in-laws, and five grandchildren. After almost 45 years of marriage, he was widowed in 2014. He is now remarried to Nancy DeMoss Wolgemuth.
Robert Wolgemuth currently resides in Nashville, in the state of Tennessee. Robert Wolgemuth was born in 1948.
Reviews - What do customers think about Most Important Year In Womans/Mans Life?
A Useful Resource for Newly Marrieds Mar 23, 2006
Susan and Mark DeVries and Bobbie and Robert Wolgemuth have put together not only a helpful first year companion for newly marrieds, they've done it with creativity.
This one book is really two books in one. From one side, women can read about what to expect, how to handle, and generally what constitutes a good first year in a Christian marriage. From the opposite side of the book, men develop the same type of material. Then, in the middle, are questions and ideas to bring the two sides together. They tackle topics from a balanced, Christian perspective and give tremendous insight into both sides of the marriage relationship.
The only issue I had with the book was that from the woman's perspective (yeah, I peaked in on that side :) there is great emphasis placed on the woman's ability to change the man. Though typical of our culture today, I think this is the only (though not necessarily insignificant) unbalanced part of the book. I would have liked to have heard on both sides of the book how both the husband and wife provide complimentary change into each other's lives. This then focuses on mutual change, dreams, and submission.
Even with that problem, I think I could recommend this book to newly married couples as a good guideline on how to build a strong foundation for a life-long commitment to an imperfect person.
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Good for Groups Feb 27, 2006
My wife and I have started a small group of young couples using this book. It is biblical and practical, gives useful fodder for conversation and discussion. I recommend it.
excellent for pre-marital Feb 16, 2006
My fiance and I each bought a book to read for our pre-martial counseling. Even though we haven't even started meeting with the counselor, we have had many deep discussions brought on by this book. Its been excellent in helping us think through things that will affect our marriage.
GET THIS BOOK! Nov 8, 2005
We read this before we got married and found that there were several "aha" moments and things we hadn't thought of. It's a great eye opener and I HIGHLY suggest reading it and talking through your marriage or pre-marriage!
Informative book, poor bound Aug 18, 2005
This book was recommended to me by another person and both parts of the book lived up to the recommendation. Although the material in the book was good, the binding of the book was of poor quality. It appeared a cursory inspection of any book would have found the page misalignments, which made reading several pages very difficult, however the book was permitted to go to retail sales.I can only beleive the alignment error was noted and ignored and that leaves a bad experience upper most in my mind.