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Frustratingly Unsatisfying Aug 10, 2008
Trading My Sorrows is a slim book that begins promisingly enough with the author's first nervous visit to sex change surgeon Stanley Biber. In a prologue that has elements of good melodramatic storytelling Walt Heyer paints a picture of intrigue and promises to reveal how he got to that precipitous point in his life. In chapter one Heyer states, "... to know myself as an adult, I need to know who I was as a child and what happened to me during my formative years." Unfortunately no real introspection happens as the author does not subscribe to theories that childhood experience, corporal punishment and family dynamics have any consequences on subsequent development. Jungians would find a great deal here for understanding but Heyer is quick to point out that he no longer plays the "blame game" so we are left with a sketchy account of a willful child who seemed to believe he deserved the severe punishments he got from both parents.
There is precious little literature available on regret after a surgical change of sex making a study of the subject difficult. Most transsexual autobiographies are glowing reports of achieving a harmony of body and spirit, so Heyer's book is a rarity, he not only changed sex surgically, he de-transitioned to live as a man again. Do we get any insight here of how it felt to hormonally change, what feelings or sexual experience he had post surgery, or how he came to grips with the realization that the surgery was a mistake? No. Heyer is in a position to expose some of the superficiality of surgical sex changes by speaking candidly about his experiences and his feelings, but this book does not even attempt to go there. Perhaps Heyer can't do that because he has gone from one addiction to another (including religion) so no real introspection takes place.
Discussion of sex and sexuality is startlingly absent considering the author has had the experience of living in a male body, a hormonally and surgically feminized body, and a finally as a man without male organs. If the author's goal is to convince others considering a surgical change of sex to reconsider, as he states repeatedly on-line and in his YouTube videos, he certainly doesn't offer any details that would have that effect. Instead we are constantly reminded of "God's healing intervention" perhaps causing some readers to wonder why his "God" didn't intervene before Heyer had his genitals removed.
Aside from the author photograph there is one grainy photo of Heyer as a small child. No pictures of Heyer's female persona are included that would help flesh out the sketchy details of his account. His contempt for homosexuals suggests that there is a great deal of unresolved hatred brewing in Heyer despite all his professed Christian charity.
Wow !! Great Book ! Apr 25, 2007
Trading My Sorrows by Walt Heyer is an inspiring true story of one man's incredible journey.
There are actually several stories in this one dynamic little book. There is the story of Walt Heyer,a man who loved God, but struggled against insurmountable confusion brought on by a childhood of abuse.
There is the story of a people who reached out to Walt with the compassion, love and grace of Jesus. A people who walked alongside Walt, crying with him in the valleys of despair and rejoicing with him on the mountaintop of victory.
And lastly, there is the story of a big God, Who promises never to leave or forsake us. A God Who loved Walt with an everlasting love, and waited patiently for Walt to embrace the man He created him to be.
This is a book that must be read and a story that needs to be heard. I was amazed that through it all, Walt Heyer never lost his honesty, his integrity, his sense of humor and his love of the Lord.
Walt Heyer's story should be featured on Oprah or made into a movie...it is incredible !!!
Couldn't put it down! Apr 23, 2007
All I can say is WOW. Walt Heyer paints a picture of his life with all its twists and turns with honesty and openness. "Perseverance" hardly begins to describe it. Is there a word that tells of more determination? And what a beautiful ending! I won't spoil it for you, read to the end and enjoy the tears of joy at the rewards of hanging in there.
Bitterness in a GOD package. Feb 11, 2007
One of Walters sources ,Mc Hugh, said in 1977 that his intent was to close John Hopkins SRS procedure long before any examination had been done into GID. This from a man who believes in an invisible god that speaks for child abusing priests . Some would call that insane but then I guess Walter has a different standard of insane. We can only agree on one thing , psychiatrists are frauds. At best a diagnosis by them would be surface and without meaning and their ignoring Heyers mental illness and allowing him to undergo sex surgery with those issues outstanding are an actionable crime in my eyes . Mc Hugh is trying to pass on a condemnation that truly belongs to be placed on his own profession, not sexual reassignment pioneer Dr Biber, or any surgeon that performs that operation . Heyers own statements prove that his diagnosis was totally without taking his true mental state and drug abuse into account at all.
Renee Richards feeling she was a second class woman was a reflection of her place in society after SRS and her wish she had been born later because of that. Kind of hard to be one of the most widely publicized " transsexual freak" in the world isn't it ? What chance did she have ? None of course. She was more an example of societies intolerance than of the procedure she underwent.
Dr Paul Walker is obviously not claiming transsexuality does not exist , but that a false diagnosis is possible if it does not take a patients entire mental history into account . This is not backing Heyers point yet he quotes it . It again condemns psychiatry for their incompetence yet Heyer makes conclusions from that that suit only his Christian views . Diagnosis and surgery are two separate practices yet Heyer blends them as if they were one in the same.
On Heyers conclusion and appeal. Heyer thinks that because he was misdiagnosed by psychiatry that patients should again be referred to self same idiots who misdiagnosed him in the first place . What he hasn't done is show in any way that these same quacks who claim they can "heal" gender identity disorder have done anything of the sort so he is no better . Like the Christian Ex Gay Movement Heyer seeks to place his religious insanity in place of the facts. The mass of destruction that Christian movement has caused is well documented and should be available to every reader as a balance to all Heyers insane religious claims. I feel for him as I feel for anyone who does not question their own motives and tries to place the blame for their own irresponsible actions at the feet of others.
And sadly for Heyer , the bible is a fraud. Created by man and not god it is falsely claimed as "the word of god ". Their is no such thing as divine inspiration , unless someone cares to provide me proof of that. Too bad Heyer didn't clear that and the thousands of other factual Christian discrepancies that are passed off as fact in court. The idea that Heyer thinks he could trap Dr Biber by tossing facts about his inability to change genetics smells of utter bitterness and the weakest of arguments. The book should end not with Heyers conclusions but with data proving that Christianity can cure anything. Of which there isn't shred of proof. To me , Heyer is covering one mistake with another. If to cure yourself of an mental illness you have to believe in another mental illness (religion) then excuse me if I pass by anything you he has to say. Religion is a fraud as is Heyer.
God's Power is so Awesome! Sep 15, 2006
Walt's life is an amazing testimony to the power and grace of God! I couldn't put this one down.