Item description for Soul Repair: Rebuilding Your Spiritual Life by Jeff VanVonderen, Dale Ryan & Juanita Ryan...
Overview Experts with training in counseling, pastoral care, and clinical nursing help individuals rebuild their spiritual lives, leading them to a more meaningful relationship with God.
Publishers Description Do you fear that God is angry with you? Do you wonder if God is really for you? if God really loves you? Deep down many of us believe that we are not good enough, and never will be good enough, to have a meaningful relationship with God. This is because we have been spiritually trained in ways that have left us with distorted and inadequate spiritualities of four different kinds: abusiveanorexicaddictivecodependentAnd we are left with a toxic combination of fear and shame. We may try to get it right. We may try to control ourselves and others. We may try to please God and to earn God's love. After a while we find ourselves exhausted and discouraged, and we may feel even more alienated from God.Jeff VanVonderen, Dale Ryan and Juanita Ryan understand this problem because they have been there both personally and professionally. And they are prepared to help you rebuild your spiritual life. If you find yourself living out a burdensome and unfulfilling spirituality, this book is for you. If you are longing to have a relationship with God that works, this book can show you the way.
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Studio: IVP Books
Est. Packaging Dimensions: Length: 8.52" Width: 6.06" Height: 0.8" Weight: 0.83 lbs.
Release Date Oct 1, 2008
Publisher IVP-InterVarsity Press
ISBN 0830834974 ISBN13 9780830834976
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More About Jeff VanVonderen, Dale Ryan & Juanita Ryan
Jeff VanVonderen is an internationally known speaker on addictions and church and family wellness. He has worked as a counselor in both residential and out-patient treatment settings, as well as in the religious community, taught at the college level, and is the author of several books including Families Where Grace Is In Place. He makes his home in California.
Jeff Vanvonderen currently resides in the state of California.
Reviews - What do customers think about Soul Repair?
Wonderful book that explores difficult topics with intelligence May 3, 2010
I can hardly say enough good things about this book. It was of immense help to me as I emerged from a 6-year long "dark night" of spiritual dryness. I could hardly believe how accurately the authors described my particular situation, and their recommended solutions were very appropriate.
Companion & Toolbox in One Book Nov 9, 2009
Companion Written by 3 people who have experience in counseling and psychology as well as having taken the journey themselves in the church and on to healing - this book offers their experience, strength, and hope in a very accessible style. The book provides the means of indentifying where one is at on the journey, what one is probably feeling, afraid of, etc. and suggestions of how to move forward and what that might look like - with all of the understanding and gentleness one would expect from someone who has been through it all and come out clean. Because they have been there, the authors are able to correctly identify the pitfalls and sore spots with the courage to face what's ugly and at the same time affirming the presence of grace that is 'tailor made' for each journey. They remember well what it is like to be faith-blind. These are most welcome companions on a most difficult journey.
Toolbox The book is well organized and the chapters are broken down into digestible bites with questions for reflection at the end of each section. This makes it an easy volume to work with - and the progression of the chapters are well-paced and thorough, following a pattern without tangents. The tools offered in this book are identifying abuse, identifying the fallout, finding compassion for self, what is involved in overcoming obstacles to trust, letting go of what doesn't work, finding what does work, taking responsibility, and finding community. There is nothing I wish were different about this book. It's not too long, not too short, makes nothing too heavy and takes nothing too lightly. It is very well-balanced in its delivery and approach to the realities of the healing process, offering hope and a way through the impossible paradoxes of spiritual woundedness.
Background I have been reading books on understanding and recovering from spiritual abuse for 15 years. I have also been following the work of Dale and Juanita Ryan HOPING for a book of this kind from them. They are the only Christian authors I know of who have addressed the journey of finding God all over again. I consider them faithful and true doctors of the church.
Of all the books I've read over the years, this is the best and most concise - the ONLY one I would recommend. I have been very encouraged!
I Need Help to Recover from Spiritual Abuse Sep 3, 2009
Soul Repair is an excellent companion book to The Subtle Power of Spiritual Abuse. Where this book let off, Soul Repair picks up. Knowing that I came out of two spiritually abuse groups has done little to touch the grief. This book provides practical ways to begin to deal with the painful acknowledgement of such deceit. You are not alone.Soul Repair: Rebuilding Your Spiritual Life
Hope for the Spiritually Hurt Mar 20, 2009
The authors of Soul Repair have provided insightful examples from their own lives as well as the lives of others to explain how spirituality can become distorted and destructive instead of comforting and helpful. Using Scripture, they clarify the differences between the God of the Bible and "gods-who-are-not-god" that too many of us unwittingly follow instead, leading us into unhealthy relationships with God and with other Christians.As a therapist, I appreciated the numerous real life stories that can be found within these pages. They opened my eyes to my own distortions and unhealthy spiritual tendencies and increased my awareness of how easily people can be led astray by false ideas about God. But the best part is the message of hope that can be found throughout the book. For those who have become discouraged or frustrated in their relationships with God and the church and want to grow closer to the God of love and grace found in the Bible, this book is for you.
Honest, wise, and practical--a rare treasure Nov 18, 2008
One of the many things I like about SOUL REPAIR is the honesty of its authors. For example, Dale Ryan talks about a time when he was experiencing distress over God's silence toward him:
"While God still seemed to have nothing to say, his followers could not stop talking. Everyone had something to say, a verse to read or advice to give. . . . The advice was glib, dismissive and shaming. . . . I put these people on a list of people not to be trusted again with my spiritual struggles. . . . I was still pretty sure I knew what God would say to me, if anything. God would surely browbeat me by saying something like, 'Think of everything we could have gotten done while you wasted all this time! I've been here all along. Where have you been?' These were the messages I expected to receive. But if God had spoken too soon, too glibly or in such a shaming manner, I know what I would have done. I would have added God's name to the list of people who could not be trusted with my spiritual brokenness" (pp. 114-115).
For many of us, God has at times seemed silent, distant, and uncaring, leaving us feeling alone, confused, and perhaps angry or fearful. The authors have experienced these feelings at times in their own spiritual journeys, but they do not give us quick fixes or tell us what to do more of. They know from experience that increasing the amount or the intensity of our spiritual practices--praying more, reading the scriptures more, going to church more, serving others more--tends to do nothing but leave us exhausted. Instead, they help us rest--by learning how to recognize and say no to the false gods that we may be unknowingly serving, and how to say yes each day to the God who daily offers us love and grace.
As a spiritual director, I've found SOUL REPAIR to be a rare treasure. Free of religious jargon, it provides wisdom and practical tools for me as I help others to draw closer to God and as I seek to be honest in my own relationship with God. But I have at least one other reason for loving the book: I sometimes pick it up and open it at random just to enjoy the waves of grace that flow from every page of text. SOUL REPAIR is a must-read for those who want to follow Jesus more closely and are willing to do some honest self-probing. It is also for ministers, spiritual directors, therapists, leaders of spiritual formation groups, leaders of support groups, and anyone else who provides spiritual support to others.