Item description for The Velveteen Principles: A Guide to Becoming Real Hidden Wisdom from a Children's Classic by Toni Raiten-D'Antonio...
Overview A philosophical guide based on the timeless children's classic The Velveteen Rabbit looks at the principles found within the Rabbit's quest to become Real and the wisdom that it can bring us. 50,000 first printing.
Publishers Description In the tradition of The Tao of Pooh, a noted therapist shows how the wisdom of a children's classic can lead to a life of love, fulfillment and purpose. Who wouldn't want to go back to when life was simple and a stuffed animal could fix all your problems?
Botox parties. Extreme Makeovers. "Reality" TV. These are just some examples of how we have lost sight of something so basic yet so essential to true happiness: On our way to becoming status-seeking super-humans, we forgot how to be Real.
This charming gift book guides readers down a simple path to reclaiming joy, fulfillment and individuality, using an unconventional source-the children's classic The Velveteen Rabbit. By sharing the timeless insights and poignant quotes from the popular children's book, the author identifies 10 keys to becoming Real, with the promise that when you become Real you will love and be loved with all your strengths, weakness, faults and gifts. As the Skin Horse explains to the Velveteen Rabbit:
"Real isn't how you are made . . . It's a thing that happens to you. . . . Generally by the time you are Real, most of your hair has been loved off, and your eyes droop and you get loose in the joints and very shabby. But those things don't matter at all, because once you are Real you can't be ugly, except to people who don't understand."
Destined to be a classic in its own right, The Velveteen Principles delivers a simple yet profound message for the ages.
Citations And Professional Reviews The Velveteen Principles: A Guide to Becoming Real Hidden Wisdom from a Children's Classic by Toni Raiten-D'Antonio has been reviewed by professional book reviewers and journalists at the following establishments -
Library Journal - 11/15/2004 page 76
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Est. Packaging Dimensions: Length: 8.22" Width: 5.34" Height: 0.83" Weight: 0.8 lbs.
Release Date Oct 1, 2004
Publisher HEALTH COMMUNICATIONS #647
ISBN 0757302114 ISBN13 9780757302114
Availability 0 units.
More About Toni Raiten-D'Antonio
Toni Raiten-D'Antonio, is a well-known psychotherapist with a thriving private practice in Suffolk County, Long Island. She is a professor of psychology and social work at Empire State College. Prior to becoming a therapist she worked in television and theater as both a performer and producer. She has two daughters and lives in New York with her husband, the Pulitzer Prize-winning writer Michael D'Antonio.
Reviews - What do customers think about The Velveteen Principles: A Guide to Becoming Real Hidden Wisdom from a Children's Classic?
Transformational Awareness Feb 1, 2007
This is an excellent resource for people desirous of personal transformation. The writer makes a powerful and thought provoking case for becoming "real". As you read this book, you will discover the areas in your life where self-objectifying has been the order of the day as well as the areas in which you have suppressed the true desires and dreams that are meant to be fulfilling in life and bring true happiness, peace and contentment. The book is not full of technical terms but packs a powerful punch as it awakens situational awareness and highlights poor mental-models that have blocked the progression of becoming real.
Not a childrens book Jan 4, 2007
Very interesting book we used in college. Opens your eyes and very thought provoking. Read this and start your journey to be Real.
What an incredible book! Apr 28, 2006
This is one of the best books I have read! The Velveteen Rabbit has always been a favorite, but this is a must read for every adult. Love is the center of everything, and this author hit it right in the head. Kudos!
Okay read but light on substance Jan 3, 2006
You cant say this is a bad book certainly but unexciting and pretty basic stuff as I guess we should expect based on the title. It offers good advice, certainly not new. An easy read for sure but not a page turner
Velveteen reality Sep 12, 2005
I found this book almost by mistake, and when it arrived I began reading immediately. It is one of the first books in a long time that I was compelled to read in one sitting. Author Toni Raiten-D'Antonio's writing is clear, compassionate, accessible and stimulating. It didn't hurt that the text was crafted around the children's story, 'The Velveteen Rabbit', one of the stories from my childhood that I loved dearly. I recall both the book and the film, and being moved to tears each time, both with the rabbit's becoming real, and the realisation that this reality came with a heavy cost.
'The Velveteen Rabbit' is a short children's story written in 1922 by Margery Williams. Simple in plot and idea, it nonetheless contains wisdom beyond its seeming simplicity. The issues brought up are those that concern children and adults in many ways, and Toni Raiten-D'Antonio taps into the key issue - living a life that is real, not fake or phony. Some authors in the area of vocational discernment and personal fulfillment talk about living an authentic life; this is another term for what is here meant to as being real.
What does being real mean? For the Velveteen Rabbit, being real was a goal to strive for, not in a material sense (the rabbit did exist), but in a spiritual and emotional sense. The rabbit was one of many toys in the boy's room, many of which were flashier, more complex, brighter, shinier, or just 'more' in some way than the seemingly cheaply constructed Velveteen Rabbit. Yet the wise old horse, the Skin Horse, loved so much that his fur had rubbed off, inspired the rabbit by his acceptance, sense of self, and grace he extended, even sometimes to other toys that did not seem to deserve it.
One of the key concepts in the story that Raiten-D'Antonio highlights is that 'real' isn't a product, but rather a process. 'It doesn't happen all at once,' the Skin Horse tells the rabbit. It is a process that can be slow, it can be painful, and it can lead where one doesn't expect. But the first concept is that being real is possible - Raiten-D'Antonio states that from the moment the rabbit realised that `real' was a possibility, the rabbit was on the road to becoming real.
For us as human beings, becoming real is not something we're likely to find in a self-help video or encounter workshop, going in as one thing and coming out as another. There is no `eight-minute abs' variant for becoming real. Nor is being real always pretty. Again, according to the Skin Horse, 'It doesn't happen to people who break easily, or have sharp edges or who have to be carefully kept. Generally, by the time you are Real, most of your hair has been loved off, and your eyes drop out and you get loose in the joints and very shabby.' However, these are things that matter only to those who don't understand (which, unfortunately, is much of our society). Raiten-D'Antonio coins the term 'United States of Generica' (U.S. of G., for short) for the kind of plastic, flashy society that runs on media-hyped images of what good and desirable should be.
Raiten-D'Antonio is a therapist, having left the more glitzy world of television behind - once a mover on the corporate ladder (even if the intention was to produce PBS/educational 'worthwhile' television), she found herself in a place personally and vocationally that was inauthentic, and worried that by the time she would be permitted to do what she wanted to do, she might not be herself any longer. The culture in which we live has misplaced values (she highlights the fact that we pay more attention to models than to Nobel Prize winners; even the term 'model' has implications beyond what in fact they are), and it is a struggle, a process, to become real - real to oneself and real to what is truly important in life.
One of the tasks toward becoming real, according to Raiten-D'Antonio, is to learn empathy, and in particular self-empathy. The Skin Horse had great powers of empathy. The rabbit grew in this during the course of the story. Empathy and self-empathy an important principle, as are all twelve principles gleaned from the story. Being real is meaningful, as Raiten-D'Antonio describes in her epilogue, and leaves a legacy more lasting and real than stocks, bonds, real estate, etc. 'If you become more Real in your own life and bring that to your relationships, you are practically guaranteed to leave behind an inspiring example for others.'
The transformation of the rabbit from toy to real is dramatic and poignant, and has lessons that can help transform our lives, too. This is a remarkable book, one that will stay with me for a long time to come, long after the whiskers have faded, the tail has become unsewn, and the fur has been loved off.