Item description for Help! I'm Married to a Homeschooling Mom: Showing Dads How to Meet the Needs of Their Homeschooling Wives by Todd Wilson...
Overview Dads are rarely addressed in homeschool matters. Wilson offers this down-to-earth, humorous book filled with practical ideas on how dads can meet the specific needs of homeschooling moms.
Publishers Description If you are a homeschooler, or are married to one, you know it's true This special breed of wife and mother is a largely unsung hero...that is until Todd Wilson decided to raise awareness, raise eyebrows, and raise some laughter. Sprinkled in between the seriously practical side of this book to husbands are Todd's own humorous cartoons. You'll need one for every homeschooling friend and church library
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Todd Wilson (PhD, Cambridge University) serves as the senior pastor of Calvary Memorial Church in Oak Park, Illinois. Todd has spent over a decade in pastoral ministry, previously serving on staff at College Church in Wheaton, Illinois, and Bethlehem Baptist Church in Minneapolis, Minnesota. He is the cofounder and chairman of the Center for Pastor Theologians, a ministry dedicated to resourcing pastor theologians. Todd and his wife, Katie, have seven children.
J. I. Packer (DPhil, Oxford University) serves as the Board of Governors' Professor of Theology at Regent College. He is the author of numerous books, including the classic best-seller Knowing God. Packer served as general editor for the English Standard Version Bible and as theological editor for the ESV Study Bible.
Dane C. Ortlund (PhD, Wheaton College) is the executive vice president of Bible publishing and Bible publisher at Crossway. He serves as an editor for the Knowing the Bible series and the Short Studies in Biblical Theology series, and is the author of several books, including Edwards on the Christian Life. He lives with his wife, Stacey, and their five children in Wheaton, Illinois.
Lane T. Dennis is president and publisher of Crossway Books and Good News Tracts. Dr. Dennis earned his BS in business from Northern Illinois University, an MDiv from McCormick Theological Seminary, and a PhD in religion from Northwestern University. Before joining Good News Publishers in 1974, he served as a pastor in campus ministry at the University of Michigan (Sault Ste. Marie) and as the Managing Director of Verlag Grosse Freude in Switzerland. He is the author and/or editor of three books, including the Gold Medallion-award-winning book Letters of Francis A. Schaeffer, and he is the former Chairman of the Evangelical Christian Publishers Association. Dr. Dennis serves as the Chairman of the ESV (English Standard Version) Bible Translation Oversight Committee and as the Executive Editor of the ESV Study Bible. Lane and his wife, Ebeth, live in Wheaton, Illinois.
Reviews - What do customers think about Help! I'm Married to a Homeschooling Mom: Showing Dads How to Meet the Needs of Their Homeschooling Wives?
Warning! Read this review! Feb 28, 2007
I wish I could give this book negative stars. Better yet, I wish I could protect the world from it. If you're a fundamentalist christian, with strong roots in the Dark Ages, it may appeal to you. But it represents almost every horrible stereotype I had heard about homeschoolers (before I became a homeschooling parent myself). First off, this is a deeply christian book. I knew that upon reading it from one of the reviews here, so I was prepared to bypass this (we are a deeply spiritual family - but not of the christian sect. I like to keep an open mind). But I agree with the reviewer who mentioned this book was scary.
The book speaks for itself:
"You are the head of your family, the king of the castle, the captain of the ship...But since it's God's idea, you're stuck with it. To be the head means to be responsible. You're responsible for the household's safety, tangible needs, spiritual training, and (gulp) education. Repeat after me, 'I am responsible for the education of my children.'"
"What our wife needs is a 'lead dog.'...Dad, you are that dog. Your wife is counting on you to lead and so is God."
"Whether your wife wants to admit it or not, she is the weaker partner. Picture an exquisite, fragile work of art, like a cut glass case, the kind that will shatter into a million peices if handled harshly, and that's the idea behind the word 'weaker.'"
"When your wife becomes frustrated over little things, you'll complain to yourself and God, wishing that she would buck up and be tougher. You fail to remember that the reason she is acting weaker is because she is weaker."
"She is weaker and knows it (even though she might not admit it)."
"...you need to saddle up next to your weaker vessel and say, 'Come on over here little lady, and I'll take care of ya."
All that said, there is some great general advise in these pages. It is mostly applicable to the 'school-at-home' variety (as you read about him being the 'principal', the 'school room', and about not only Curriculum's but grading papers (yikes!)... If you're of the unschooling variety, it's not quite as relevant. It's also not very relevant if you're not christian (he says on more than one occasion that all this is impossible to do without God).
"The most important time your wife needs is time alone with God. If she's going to do her job well, she's going to need to stay close to God."
"Homeschooling is a prayer-sized job...It can't be done as God intended it without prayer."
"Dad, your single greatest need is to have a growing relationship with God...If this need isn't met, then the work of the previous chapters can't be accomplished...It's like trying to cut a stack of wood with a chainsaw before you pull the cord. You've got the tool but no power. God is the power. Plug in." The work of the previous chapters is about listening to your wife, understanding her, etc, etc. To suggest to people that these goals can not be achieved with the power of a god is misleading and potentially damaging, in my opinion.
Aside from these quotes and ones like it, the book has some good advice to offer. So if none of this turned your stomach, by all means, get the book, you just may love it.
Relationship solutions not educational or organizational solutions Nov 10, 2006
As a homeschooling wife I recommend this book for what it does:It really helps my husband understand me and my job better, but it doesn't do anything else.
If you're struggling or feeling overwhelmed, understand that this book addresses branches -make sure you deal with roots first. Two common root problems with homeschooling are not addressed here, and based on the content of this book, might need addressing in the author's home.
The first is educational philosophy. The author and his wife appear to be homeschoolers mimicking school at home (known the homeschool community as "school at homers"). For an outstanding argument why it is not a great idea to homeschool this way, "I Saw the Angel in the Marble" by Chris and Ellyn Davis is the best place for every single homeschooler to start. If you buy only one book on homeschooling ever-that's the book to buy. It compares the educational approaches and the pros and cons of each while addressing the underlying philosophies of each and how they affect your life.
The second is child training. There was precious little as to the training of children in life skills like chores. It is critical for a homeschooling household that every single person contribute daily to the upkeep of the home. Every child with normal physical and mental development should begin training for chores by age two. That's right-two. This book seems to only focus on Dad helping Mom, rather than Dad and kids helping Mom. Dad should be helping Mom train the children to have a sense of personal responsibility and a strong work ethic while helping with household duties. Chore charts, family work projects, teaching organizational skills, and the like are missing.
If these two major issues are effectively addressed in your home, this book is very good at helping your husband understand that you work 24-7 and he needs see know that he is not "off work" when he comes home. While it doesn't directly say so, it shows Dad that Mom is always thinking about the wants and needs of everyone else all day long year in and year out. Dad should spend some time thinking about Mom's wants and needs. The empathy and respect for Mom's tough schedule is the book's strength. There are very good communication skills for men.
My Husband Actually Read It! Oct 7, 2006
My husband does not enjoy reading homeschooling theory, how-to type books, but he read this one and enjoyed it! I read it too and thought it was very funny! It's a pretty quick read and the cartoons are hilarious!
Great! Aug 23, 2005
This book was very funny and well worth it. It is written in short chapters, so husbands can easily read it a few minutes at a time. I could do without the assumption that all homeschoolers are Christian, and without a few of the bible verses, though. However, we still enjoyed this book a lot as a good, realistic glimpse of what life for other homeschooling families is like.
review from a homeschooling mom Nov 27, 2004
Todd is one of the funniest writers I have ever read! He has a true gift and luckily we are all able to benefit from that. I bought both of Todd's books for my husband and ended up reading them too. I found myself laughing all through the book. We now get his weekly emails, and even though it's for dads, moms get a lot of it too. It is refreshing to have a voice out there helping dads (and moms) be the best they can be. So if you want to have a laugh and read something that makes you think about the priorities of raising your kids, read Todd's books. You won't be disappointed!