Item description for Midlife Manual for Men: Finding Significance in the Second Half (Life Transitions) by Stephen Arterburn...
Overview A fresh and funny--yet utterly serious--book about men and midlife, from the bestselling author of the EVERY MAN'S BATTLE series, Stephen Arterburn. Written for every man who is in or near midlife, it examines five roles men inhabit throughout their lives--that of He-Man, Son, Husband, Provider, and Father--and shows how God uses those roles to build the qualities that make a truly good man. This practical and encouraging book gives men the tools to make the rest of their lives matter.
The authors, both in midlife, speak men's language. They're straightforward, not sugarcoating the issues of aging, fear of death, and feelings of loss or failure. They offer hope and show readers how they can live God-honoring, significant lives. This is a book that pastors will want their men's ministries to read, accountability groups will discuss, and wives will buy for their husbands.
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Studio: Bethany House
Est. Packaging Dimensions: Length: 9.1" Width: 5.9" Height: 1" Weight: 1.015 lbs.
Release Date Feb 28, 2008
Publisher BETHANY HOUSE PUBLISHERS #7
ISBN 0764204238 ISBN13 9780764204234
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More About Stephen Arterburn
Steve Arterburn is host of "New Life Live!", a radio and television program distributed across the country. He is a best-selling author with more than eight million books in print. He is also founder of Women of Faith(R), a conference attended by more than four million women since its inception. Steve also serves as the teaching pastor of Heartland Church in Indianapolis, Indiana.
Stephen Arterburn currently resides in Laguna Beach Los Angeles Lagun, in the state of California. Stephen Arterburn was born in 1953.
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Reviews - What do customers think about Midlife Manual for Men: Finding Significance in the Second Half (Life Transitions)?
Demystifying men & midlife Nov 13, 2008
Reviewed by Tammy Petty Conrad for Reader Views (11/08)
First I have a confession. I am not a man. But if you've got a man in your life, not only should he read this, but you should too. Even if he's not to this point of his life yet, he will be someday. Of course we've heard of the famous midlife crisis and those red BMWs that get bought on a whim. But the authors try to explain what is actually happening during this part of a man's life and what to do about it to make it a positive, empowering experience.
First, the style is light and entertaining, which will draw in those who may be reluctant to read about a topic many believe to be depressing. Both of the men are in their fifties and have experienced various parts of what the book talks about. Stephen Arterburn has his own faith-based ministry, including a radio program. John Shore is an accomplished author. Together the two of them try to dispel some of the myths and reveal some of the mysteries about men during this time of their life.
With the average life expectancy increasing, midlife is much different now than it was for our dads. And that is the great news. We have more life to live and can benefit greatly from the information which is given within these pages to make this time much more bearable and even rewarding. But for many men, they can't help but look at the years and "...mortality kicks in with an urgency it previously lacked."
The authors give details about the different types of behaviors often displayed and explain the negative aspects of them, although we all probably could recite them ourselves. A great deal of the book is devoted to the life roles men play: Son, Husband, Provider and Father. They have established a four-step process in every chapter on each of the roles. First they look at the negative aspects in "Good Riddance," then the good ones in "Pure Gold." Next is "Movin' On," which helps to take the good things and create a life of our dreams. Last is "Things to Do" with specific suggestions and exercises.
Readers are encouraged to talk out their issues with someone they are close to rather thank keeping them bottled up or hitting the bottle to avoid them. As men of faith the authors relate much of their text to how God would want us to be. They say that "Middle age isn't about being weakened or confused or getting used to your limitations or any of that nonsense...is about earning the right to finally understand what it really means to say that you are made in God's image." The book goes on to talk about the role of a husband and I enjoyed the comparison of relationships with fine wine. I have to wonder though -- What is the percentage of relationships that are better over time, versus wines better over time? We've all heard of both wines and relationships that soured unexpectedly. But maybe if more of us considered relationships from a more Biblical perspective we'd be better off. "Your life is the medium through which God the Master Artist reveals the full scope and breadth of his creative, infinitely compassionate genius. And he just spent the last chunk of your life painting your life and marriage with his hues, textures, shapes, and perspectives. Middle age finally provides enough distance to view and understand it as the masterful work it is."
And then they turn around and tell us middle age is all about "...finally giving yourself permission to relax and just have some flat-out fun..." Hence the red BMW!
I do think readers of both sexes will benefit form "Midlife Manual for Men" by Stephen Arterburn and John Shore and it is a great one for sharing between couples in a relationship. Knowing the what, and the why of things, makes it so much easier to deal with and benefit from. And besides, since we're all going to live to 100, we have so many more years to enjoy the good life so read on!
Good Challenge to Evaluate Your "Second Half" Oct 15, 2008
"Mid-Life Manual for Men" is a good challenge for men to evaluate what they want to do for the second half of their lives and look for significance instead of just material and career success.
Arterburn goes over the various chapters and roles in a man's life:
1. Son 2. Husband 3. Provider 4. Father 5. Etc.
The author shares his own struggles in successes as he himself is going through the second half of his own life. While the book is targeted towards Christians, any man looking for signifance in his second half will benefit from the book.
Read, enjoy, and be challenged!
this is a great book!! Jul 25, 2008
This book spoke to me! Well written, easy to read, and very applicable, a must buy for every man who is hitting the half-way point in life. I would say it is one of the top 5 books I have read in 2008. Get this book!!!
Helpful information and practical tips for coping with life's uncertainties and unexpected happenings Jul 14, 2008
Stephen Arterburn --- founder and chairman of New Life Ministries, the nation's largest faith-based broadcast, counseling and treatment ministry --- has penned another dynamic resource that men born between 1946 and 1964 will find encouraging, practical, inspiring and so, so funny. Arterburn, who has written over 70 books, has teamed up with fellow author John Shore to bring respite, relief and welcome reassurance to men everywhere.
Whether or not an individual man is struggling with the stereotypical midlife issues, this text will be earmarked for years to come. Men will discover commonalities with one another on such themes as being a middle-aged male, harboring a he-man of the universe mentality, being a son, a husband, a provider and a father, and facing forward into the future with courage and confidence.
Arterburn opens the book with an admission. His marriage of 17 years had ended; he was 46 years old and, in his words, "...as miserable as he'd ever been in his life." He writes that he was without hope and tells of being stripped of everything, including pretense and superficiality. It was just him and Jesus "fellowshipping in suffering." Fast forward six years later. Remarried and the father of a one-year-old son, Arterburn offers perspective and wise counsel for facing hard times, looking at himself accurately, and moving ahead with faith and integrity.
As Arterburn and Shore point out, midlife isn't what it used to be. In the year 1800, the life expectancy for an American man was 35 years; today it's 76. The sheer increase in time factor leaves more for men to "reflect upon, adjust, or change our lives." The authors cite some characteristic "symptoms" of midlife transitioning...or midlife "crisis-ing." Men might experience depression, feel acute irritability, engage in too much "partying," unwise or extravagant spending, have an obsession with sex, or have an affair.
In their He-Man of the Universe chapter, Arterburn and Shore afford readers a comical yet all-too-accurate portrayal of the "he-man" mentality, to which most men battle against succumbing. Referring to these not-so-healthy-attitudes, they list some "good riddances" with both clarity and comical asides.
* Getting rid of unceasing expectation of oneself * Finishing off a crippling sense of entitlement * Making peace with emotions by not suppressing them * Casting off the lone ranger mentality of not needing anyone
On the positive flip side, they suggest the following "he-man pure gold" recommendations to be adopted in place of the above.
* Understanding the proper use of power * Understanding how important responsibility is * Understanding how to grow bit by bit toward maturity * Understanding how challenges and bravery fit in this world
With keen wit and fun-loving personal tale-telling admissions, Arterburn and Shore offer their readers both helpful information and practical tips for coping with life's uncertainties and unexpected happenings. Readers --- males and the females who love them --- will appreciate this filled-to-the-brim manual for midlife.
--- Reviewed by Michele Howe
So much said without much said Apr 14, 2008
I had high expectations for this book because I got some great insight from one of Steve Arterburn's other books. Unfortunately I found this one very dissapointing. (So much so that I chose to leave my copy finished in a hotel room.) There are some choice nuggets in it, but by and large it says a lot without saying much at all. Rather than challenging guys of my age it seemed to just go soft on us, and challenge us to get in touch with our inner boy. I hungered for more. It was also very light on sharp biblical advice - which I'd hope for from these Christian writers. Arterburn is a talented writing who has a very easy-going readable style. But here he felt more like a good buddy that didn't want to rock the boat than the mentor or the coach he had permission to be when I bought his book.