Item description for Boiling Point: Understanding Men and Anger by Stephen Arterburn & David A. Stoop...
Overview In this book, men will find the help they need to reimagine a positive image of their masculinity, while their loved ones will find advice on reaching a man at his boiling point.
Being a man in the twenty-first century isn't easy. In fact, trying to live up to a masculine ideal that may be nothing more than myth has left many men frustrated and angry. Often unable to express their emotions, these men appear buttoned-up until a seemingly minor setback unleashes a torrent of rage that can destroy personal and professional relationships.
Does this sound familiar? The mistakes of other drivers fill him with road rage Setbacks at work send him into a tailspin Unmet expectations in his relationship leave him seething Holidays and other occasions are filled with tension instead of joy
Suppressed anger, when it finally boils over, scalds everyone involved-including loved ones, co-workers, and even strangers.
Christian counselors David Stoop and Stephen Arterburn offer solutions in this trade paper version of The Angry Man. They show what happens when men's deep-rooted anger starts to ruin relationships, jobs, and health, and they help sufferers find their way back from the brink. Men will find the help they need to reimagine a positive image of their masculinity; their loved ones will find advice on reaching a man at his boiling point.
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Studio: Thomas Nelson
Est. Packaging Dimensions: Length: 8.44" Width: 5.52" Height: 0.63" Weight: 0.51 lbs.
Release Date Jul 29, 2005
Publisher Thomas Nelson
ISBN 0849905451 ISBN13 9780849905452
Availability 0 units.
More About Stephen Arterburn & David A. Stoop
Steve Arterburn is host of "New Life Live!", a radio and television program distributed across the country. He is a best-selling author with more than eight million books in print. He is also founder of Women of Faith(R), a conference attended by more than four million women since its inception. Steve also serves as the teaching pastor of Heartland Church in Indianapolis, Indiana.
Stephen Arterburn currently resides in Laguna Beach Los Angeles Lagun, in the state of California. Stephen Arterburn was born in 1953.
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Reviews - What do customers think about Boiling Point?
What a Big Help! Sep 1, 2009
This book has been a great help! My husband is a very angry man and I was sure it had something to do with his past. Now I'm sure it does and it has nothing to do with me. I'm so thankful to the Lord for this book and for giving the person who wrote it the wisdom to do so.
Every since I read the book, I'm more compassionate and understanding with my husband. It seems now I'm able to focus more on how I handle and respond to different situations when it comes to my husband. I also have a clearer understanding as to what kind of boundaries I need to have in place and how to carry them out.
A lot has been cleared up by reading this book (still reading). For example, there were times when I felt I was going crazy. But in actuality, it explains in the book that that's one of the behaviors to look in an angry man. He will turn things around and make it seem like you're the crazy one or you'll begin to feel that maybe it's you.
Good book for any one who is dealing with an angry man. Great insights! Can't wait to finish reading it. Hard to put down. Thanks!!!!!!!!!
Psyco Babble dripple Oct 5, 2005
amazing, anyone, as Arterburn proves, can write a book on pyschology, even non degreed, soap opera psychologists. Arterburn who hails from Laguna Beach - predominately gay -, creator of "women of Faith", and now is writing a book for women to help men get in touch with their angry roots. Now call me 'homophobic', but I question Arterburn's sexual preference.
I don't care which way he goes, but writing a book with zero statistical data, studies, or empirical data to support his therories is soley speculation at best. Lots of empty "studies have shown", "reports of", but no footnotes, no references, nothing!
I wonder if Arterburn wasn't hurt himself by an angry man and felt the compulsive need to write this worthless book.
I read this book because it was a gift from my sister-in-law, who herself is divorced from what I call a very selfish, immature marriage. I won't be writing any books however, because I'm intelligent to know I can't substantiate my claims, and realize you can't pigeon hole every 'angry' man into one root cause.
For me, my anger stems from wasting time on this far reaching, psycho-babble BS from a non expert wanna-be.
"The tear in the masculine soul." Sep 6, 2005
Many men are burdened with anger and fear, and harm themselves and others as a result. Even professing Christians lash out at their loved ones, or hold their rage inside until they suffer a physical or mental breakdown. Why are men this way? What can the women who love them do to help? "Boiling Point" provides answers to these questions. It's a Christian book, but non-believers will benefit from its insights and principles, which are applicable to men regardless of their beliefs.
This review's titular quote from Catholic priest Ted Dobson is used by Arterburn and Stoop to describe the damage done to men by the lack of a father figure. According to the authors, due to an absent or passive father boys often grow up without proper instruction on how to be a mature man. Without that key role model, they fail to internalize male attributes during their formative years. These boys grow up to be men who suffer from an emotional deficit that they will try to fill with possessions, achievement, and power. But nothing can quell their sense of loss and inadequacy. Therefore, they continue to stew in a perpetual state of anger and fear. Add external pressures from work and family, and men are, well, at the boiling point. At this stage, anything can cause a meltdown. Jobs are lost because of screaming matches with the boss, and relationships are destroyed by attempts to medicate with secret addictions to sex or narcotics. Is there a way for males to deal with their issues and become the men they want to be?
The past can't be changed, but there's still hope in the present. "Boiling Point" was written for women who are married to an angry, fearful man. That's because wives are usually the victims of their husband's issues, whether emotionally or physically. However, a man's wife is also his best hope for healing. To this end, the authors use examples from men's lives to show women how to recognize the warning signs in her loved one. Helpful tools are provided that will help her grasp the situation and lovingly encourage him towards wholeness. For example, each chapter concludes with a section called "Think About It; Talk About It with Him," which contains various types of questions geared towards this goal. The authors admit that the positive conversational examples are best-case scenarios, so it will usually take time and patient effort to see good results. Of course, he must ultimately desire to heal and change as well.
Men shouldn't be put off by the book's focus towards a woman reader. Like Secret deodorant, "Boiling Point" is strong enough for a man, even though it's made for a woman. The authors caution men to avoid the trap of isolation, and exhort them to seek help from trained counselors and other men who can bear their burdens. I saw myself in some of the stories, and the root causes of my anger and fear (along with my inferior responses) were clarified. I was encouraged along the path of dealing with my past hurts and present issues instead of letting them rule me. And the cautionary tales warned me of the consequences of not doing so. For that, I commend the authors.
"Boiling Point" is a necessary book for angry, fearful men and the women who love them. Read it and get help before it's too late.