Item description for Getting to the Other Side of Grief: Overcoming the Loss of a Spouse by Susan J. Zonnebelt-Smeenge, Smeenge de Zonnebelt & Robert C. De Vries...
Overview It's something no married person wants to imagine. Yet each year, eight hundred thousand individuals mourn the passing of a husband or wife.
Coming alongside the grieving spouse, psychologist Susan Zonnebelt-Smeenge and pastor/professor Robert De Vries provide much-needed support from a unique perspective--empathy. They each suffered the loss of their spouse at a relatively young age. Throughout Getting to the Other Side of Grief, the authors share their stories as living proof that if worked through properly, grief will lead the way to a fresh new life.
Beginning with the premise that a full resolution to grief is possible, the authors extend this lifeline to readers: Complete healing doesn't happen without intentional effort (time alone doesn't heal), and this intentional effort, for complete success, must combine Christian faith and sound mental health practices. In offering these interwoven disciplines, the authors give readers the benefit of both the male and female perspective.
Readers will find getting to the other side of grief
Publishers Description The authors, a clinical psychologist and a pastor and professor, offer comfort and guidance to those mourning their spouse's death. Both suffered the loss of a spouse at a relatively young age, and their empathy, combined with psychological insights, biblical observations, and male and female perspectives, help readers experience grief in the healthiest, most complete way.
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Studio: Baker Books
Est. Packaging Dimensions: Length: 0.75" Width: 5.5" Height: 8.75" Weight: 0.7 lbs.
Release Date Oct 1, 1998
Publisher Baker Publishing Group
ISBN 080105821X ISBN13 9780801058219
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More About Susan J. Zonnebelt-Smeenge, Smeenge de Zonnebelt & Robert C. De Vries
Susan J. Zonnebelt-Smeenge is a clinical psychologist at Pine Rest Mental Health Services. She is also a certified social worker and a registered nurse. Robert C. De Vries is professor of church education at Calvin Theological Seminary and regularly conducts workshops and seminars on issues relating to adult education, youth ministry, and bereavement.
Susan J. Zonnebelt-Smeenge currently resides in Grand Rapids, in the state of Michigan. Susan J. Zonnebelt-Smeenge was born in 1948.
Reviews - What do customers think about Getting To The Other Side Of Grief?
If you are a DEVOUT Christian then this is for you...If not... Dec 27, 2006
...then you need to look elsewhere. I ordered this book for my mother and eventually returned it. It piles on the religion thick and heavy. If you are a devout (read: VERY RELIGIOUS) person, this is the book for you. If you are simply spiritual or just not terribly religious, this book borders on being offensive. There are a lot of other terrifically helpful books available for newly widowed spouses that don't push the religion aspect as heavily as this one does.
Beware - Punishing Theological Views Jul 18, 2006
My husband had only been gone for a handful of days when I ordered this book. I read all the reviews here and thought that the "religious" aspect would somehow be acceptable, perhaps very helpful. I was stopped dead in my tracks when I read the following:
"At its very nature death is demonic, and you cannot explain the demonic. Death happens. It is not really God's fault, nor yours, nor that of your spouse. Death is the devil's calling card."
Are you kidding me? I lost my husband! He died! In the context of searching for spiritual understanding, the idea that the devil is responsible for my beloved husband's death is absurd. Even if the practical, therapy half of this book might be helpful...it is made null and void in my mind by allowing such utterly nonsensical and antiquated thinking to prevail.
I quote further:
"Lazarus will come storming from the tomb. Death can't hold him back with the power of Christ on his side. Jesus is weeping because sin has broken this world, and death is a symbol of that brokenness. Even though he has the power to fix it, Jesus grieves."
Am I to believe that my husband's death is punishment for "original sin"? The message here is that we, "man", are the cause of the curse of death, through sin we have brought death upon ourselves and only at the second coming of the Messiah will we be "resurrected".
If these ideas bring comfort to those who grieve the loss of a spouse, then this is a good book to read. I write this only as a warning to those who might have different "religious", spiritual or "Christian" beliefs, or those who may be seeking spiritual guidance. The opinions set down in this book can be very discomforting and offensive.
Religious and psychological view points make for somewhat disjunctive information May 20, 2006
Although this book is well written, be aware that the religious component is at least 50% . I didn't realize the Christian view on death would be so prevalent, and I should have paid more attention to the authors, one being a pastor...But, I wish it had been made more apparent to me before I purchased the book that the theme would encompass both religion and psychology working to explain the grieving process. But the psychological information is very helpful. And if you're a Christian, the religious component is comforting.
Comforting for greiving spouses Mar 20, 2006
This is a very good book for grieving spouses. It addresses many aspects of the spousal grief process and offers encouragement. Perspectives are provided from the widow and the widower; which happen to be a clinical psychologist and a pastor respectively.
Caring, Persuasive, Positive Apr 26, 2005
I ordered this book without reference due to its use of both the psychologist and the theologist perspective. I have found it the most important of the many books I have received or purchased since my wife died suddenly, leaving me with two young children and a seemingly endless set of questions and emotions. The authors manage to share with you some of their experiences in losing a spouse while providing a well researched handbook for getting on a path through the darkness. It is at once an account of their own grief (I find I need to know more and more about how others dealt with the situation) and a list of practical advice and activity that move you through the shock to a constructive grieving process. No prescriptions here, but some very sound questions to be asking yourself, backed up by research and scripture. I have to thank them for going through the effort of writing this down and sharing so much of themselves as well as their beliefs and knowledge.