Item description for More Than a Match: The Five Keys to Compatibility for Life by Michael Smalley, Amy Smalley & Mike Yorkey...
Overview You?ve searched a lifetime for that special person, but how can you be absolutely certain that you?ve found ?The One?? And more important, how can you hold on to that love for the rest of your life?
More Than a Match explores the ?compatibility factor,? demystifying the science behind matchmaking and giving you the tools you need to find the love you want. You?ll learn how to apply the specifics of good compatibility to a prospective date or mate, as well as how to break things off when you find yourself in the wrong relationship.
But since great relationships aren?t built on compatibility alone, marriage experts Michael and Amy Smalley also delve into the ?forever factor,? giving you the skills you need to turn your romance into a lifelong love affair. You?ll learn how to deal with conflict, how to develop a healthy sex life, and how to recover when you inevitably hurt one another.
Fantastic marriages begin long before the exchange of the rings; they start when two people in search of love commit themselves to learning to how to love well?and forever. Because finding and keeping the love of your life is about much More Than a Match
Publishers Description Prepare Yourself for Lasting Love You've searched a lifetime for that special person, but how can you be absolutely certain that you've found "The One"? And more important, how can you hold on to that love for the rest of your life? "More Than a Match" explores the "compatibility factor," demystifying the science behind matchmaking and giving you the tools you need to find the love you want. You'll learn how to apply the specifics of good compatibility to a prospective date or mate, as well as how to break things off when you find yourself in the wrong relationship. But since great relationships aren't built on compatibility alone, marriage experts Michael and Amy Smalley also delve into the "forever factor," giving you the skills you need to turn your romance into a lifelong love affair. You'll learn how to deal with conflict, how to develop a healthy sex life, and how to recover when you inevitably hurt one another. Fantastic marriages begin long before the exchange of the rings; they start when two people in search of love commit themselves to learning to how to love well...and forever. Because finding and keeping the love of your life is about much "More Than a Match."
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More About Michael Smalley, Amy Smalley & Mike Yorkey
Michael and Amy Smalley hold master s degrees in clinical psychology from Wheaton College. Michael is the Director of Marriage and Family at The Woodlands United Methodist Church in Texas. For the past ten years, they ve spoken to audiences around the world, sharing practical, refreshing advice for finding a love that will last a lifetime. They also have authored or coauthored several relationship books, including "The DNA of Relationships, Men s Relational Toolbox, " and "Don t Date Naked. " Married for ten years, Michael and Amy live with their three children in The Woodlands, Texas."
Michael Smalley currently resides in Branson, in the state of Missouri.
Reviews - What do customers think about More Than A Match?
Definitely worth a read! Dec 26, 2009
I don't think I've ever read anything more transparent in my life. How's that for an opening line? Honestly, what more could you expect from a book that includes information about one of the author's previous engagement! I have to say, I wasn't always comfortable with the level of transparency (I think they were a little too frank at times), but in this world of so few real life mentors, I do understand the reason for it. Had I not been reviewing this book for WaterBrook, I would not have finished it.
Now, that makes it sound like it wasn't a good book. That's not true. It was a very good book and has so many things in it that I think any couple, dating, courting, engaged, or married- doesn't matter- I think they all could benefit from much if not most of the book. Furthermore, I can even see it being an excellent guide (removing all sexuality from it) to investing in friendships even if you're never going to be romantically involved and/or if you are of the same gender. There is much wisdom in learning from the mistakes and successes of others, and this book shares them from the standpoint that compatibility is a good thing to consider in a relationship, but it is not a guarantee for success.
This is the kind of book I'd recommend for couples that are about to become engaged. He's ready to pop the question, they both know it, but as much as you love and respect each other, do you know how to work together as a team? Are you ready for how the other person lives in day-to-day life? Do you have any of the major risk factors for divorce (or misery in marriage if you are one of the rare people left for whom divorce is never an option)?
I agreed with every principle promoted in the book (as far as I remember). However, several of their conclusions or methods I take issue with. Anyone reading the book who knows me knows what I think of recreational/serial dating especially when not ready for marriage. I hold very strong convictions as to how I think Paul has instructed wives in Titus chapter two. However, the principle behind their variances of method don't negate that we are on the same page principle wise.
Note: To those who are sick to death of reading how women should submit and ignoring the man's admonition to serve and love as Christ loved the church- you'll love this book!
One particularly beautiful story was especially meaningful for me. Early last spring I added a huge section to one of my novels involving foot washing between a newly married couple. It was beautiful in my eyes, but nagging doubts have plagued me for months. Am I being silly? Surely people will read it, roll their eyes, and close the book. Then I read how his wife, before they started seriously dating, confessed that she'd given her virginity to her previous fiancee. Mr. Smalley's response? He washed her feet. If you read nothing else, the book is worth it just to read that section. The symbolism and words that he shared with the woman who is now his wife was probably the most romantic thing I've ever read. Not to mention very validating to me as a writer. ;)
Good premarital book Dec 13, 2009
More than a Match: The 5 Keys to Compatibility for Life is a book unlike any I have read before. Not only does it speak to compatibility and making love last, it also touches on how to deal with conflict and break things off when necessary. The authors use their professional knowledge and personal experiences to paint a relate-able picture of relationships and the parts that make up the whole. The stories and advice are poignant and memorable.
This would be a great book for anyone in their twenties or preparing to be married. This won't replace premarital counseling, but would be a nice compliment to it. The skills the authors detail are meaningful and necessary to a happy marriage. And the stories they share can be candid, but are all too often left unsaid before marriage.
More Than a Match Dec 12, 2009
More Than a Match by Michael and Amy Smalley is an excellent read for any couple considering marriage. The Smalleys use many illustrations and stories from their own experience. They are very straight forward and the reading is enjoyable. Beginning with 5 keys to compatibility, they move through a lot of pertinent topics such as what to look for in a guy/girl, how to handle a relationship that is not working out, and a lot of time is spent addressing the physical relationship. There is also a section on divorce risk factors. At the end of each chapter questions are given that provide a good review of what has been written. Because of their candor and easy style of writing, I think that this book would be very appealing to young couples today and I highly recommend it.
This was book was provided for review by WaterBrook Multnomah
I wish I had read this book BEFORE getting married... Dec 12, 2009
More Than a Match is a great book for couples considering marriage or in pre-marital counseling. Michael and Amy Smalley share their personal story, including Amy's prior engagement, and help the reader to clearly and carefully examine the relationship that is looking like it's leading to marriage. This book helps couples to build relationships that will last a lifetime.
More Than a Match Dec 9, 2009
This is a great book for engaged Christian (and non Christian) couples. The Smalleys walk you step by step through the dating and engagement process. They cover issues from making sure you are compatible enough to date each other to handling conflicts and on through to the first night together as man and wife. They cover these issues with their own personal insight and lots of humor. Do be advised though that they do cover the subject of s*x. Even this subject is covered with Christian insight though so no worries. I think this book would make a good gift for engaged couples.