Item description for To Love, Honor, and Vacuum: When You Feel More Like a Maid Than a Wife and Mother by Sheila Wray Gregoire & Carla Barnhill...
Overview This is no "women's lib" book. Nor is it a five-step program for becoming a human doormat. To Love, Honor, and Vacuum encourages women to deal with their hectic lives by prioritizing relationships and fostering responsibility and respect in all family members. When women apply these real-world, real-life insights, they will discover what it means to love and honor in spite of the vacuuming.
Publishers Description Sheila Wray Gregoire, a syndicated writer and popular speaker, helps women to grow and thrive in the midst of their hectic lives, even if their circumstances never change.
Citations And Professional Reviews To Love, Honor, and Vacuum: When You Feel More Like a Maid Than a Wife and Mother by Sheila Wray Gregoire & Carla Barnhill has been reviewed by professional book reviewers and journalists at the following establishments -
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Studio: Kregel Publications
Est. Packaging Dimensions: Length: 8.46" Width: 6.32" Height: 0.6" Weight: 0.53 lbs.
Release Date Jun 10, 2003
Publisher Kregel Publications
ISBN 0825426995 ISBN13 9780825426995
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More About Sheila Wray Gregoire & Carla Barnhill
SHEILA WRAY GREGOIRE is the author of numerous books, including The Good Girl s Guide to Great Sex and To Love, Honor and Vacuum. Her refreshing approach to difficult relationship topics has made her a popular speaker across North America and earned her an online following in the hundreds of thousands. She and her husband, Keith, both avid birdwatchers, are now empty nesters. They're hitting the road in an RV, pulling over for speaking engagements, free wifi, and rare hawks."
Reviews - What do customers think about To Love, Honor, and Vacuum: When You Feel More Like a Maid Than a Wife and Mother?
Exactly what I needed (new mom encouragement) May 22, 2008
As a wife, grad student, and new mother, it seemed my joy in life was getting lost in exhaustion. I have a great husband, an exceptionally "easy" baby, supportive grandparent-care, and flexible hours...and I was still running out of steam. Reading this book may not have changed what I have to accomplish in a day, but it refreshed my perspective. In this book, Sheila Gregoire gave me encouragement, specific and useful tips on how to simplify and prioritize life, and (perhaps what I needed most) sympathy coupled with hope. Sometimes all I need is someone to tell me that "yes, it IS hard!! But you're doing okay."
As an example, the day after I finished reading the book, I still had to: get everyone ready for the day, express milk, work all day in the lab, go to the gym, come home, do laundry, cook dinner, wash the dishes, pick up the house, entertain my 6-month old while doing all of this, feed and bathe the baby, put her to bed, express more milk, start another load of laundry... But this time, I did all of my morning chores with some fun music on, had lunches ready from the night before, took care of my evening housework with a timer on to finish in a hurry, and had time to go for a walk around the neighborhood with my daughter and my dog while the casserole was in the oven. It was one of the best days I've had in a very long time, although almost nothing besides my attitude (and a few organizational tips) had changed! I even had enough energy left to get romantic with my husband (and I can tell you, he appreciated it!).
An inspirational and warmly positive source of sympathy Feb 3, 2004
...To Love, Honor, And Vacuum by Sheila Wray Gegorie is an emotional and spiritual "self-help" instructional to balancing the challenges of marriage, housekeeping, and financial difficulties while maintaining respect for oneself and mutual respect in one's lifelong partnership. Written from a specifically Christian perspective for women who feel "more like a maid than a wife and mother," ...To Love, Honor, And Vacuum is an inspirational and warmly positive source of sympathy and practical advice.
One of the Best Books I've Read in a Long Time Jan 25, 2004
I admit I rarely read books that are targeted at married mothers. I'm not married and I'm not a mother. Go figure. But since I moved in with my parents and two younger brothers a few months ago (got laid off, minimizing expenses while looking for a job, you know the drill), my healthy, if distant, appreciation for home engineers has developed into downright deification. As an adult member of the household, I'm frequently overwhelmed by how much needs to be done on a daily basis.
Perhaps that's why TO LOVE, HONOR, AND VACUUM strikes me as one of the best books I've read in a long time. Written by home schooling mom and entrepreneur Shelia Wray Gregoire, the book is chock full of practical tips for doing everything around the home from cleaning to keeping spending in check to stoking the romantic fires. A lot of her suggestions aren't necessarily rocket science, but she presents them in a fresh way and gives the business of running a family a new spin.
One feature of the book that I found especially insightful is a section profiling one day in the life of three women living at three different points in American history. These short fictional accounts reveal that while women over the years share many of the same concerns about the welfare of their families, the tangible nuts and bolts of running a household have evolved significantly. This will be an epiphany for the many modern women harboring guilt-inducing notions that the housewives of earlier generations were better at running their households despite the absence of the time and effort saving conveniences that clutter homes today. On the contrary, Gregoire convincingly points out that these technological advances have actually added more lines on today's to-do lists.
And while all of this is helpful, the real value of Gregorie's book is in its discussion of the principles that should guide the division of labor in the home.
As the back cover says, this is no "women's lib" book and Gregorie does not fail to mention biblical verses referring to wives submitting to husbands. Nevertheless, she does a masterful job of exposing how commonly held ideas about gender roles within the home are of a cultural construction and not a biblical construction. Furthermore, she points out that these traditional gender roles aren't effective for many families existing in our modern economy. With this in mind, she suggests innovative ways to devise a truly harmonious living and working environment.
This harmonious environment is ultimately the goal of everything that TO LOVE, HONOR, AND VACUUM proposes.
"As you change your emphasis to people's comfort, rather than keeping up appearances, your attitude toward housework will probably change as well. Having the 'perfect house' as a standard can be very debilitating, constricting our ability to share with others. Maybe you'd like to invite that new couple over after church, but you can't possibly let them in your home right now because there are still crumbs on the counter from breakfast and the kid's toys are lying on the stairs.
When we think this way, we are putting things ahead of people. Creating a family friendly home means creating a home where people feel comfortable. Pastor Kevin Dowling, a friend from our hometown says that Christians should aim to be hospitable, not to entertain. Our aim is to share our homes and our lives, not to put on a show. So instead of putting your energy into keeping a perfect home that few see, try creating a comfortable one the people feel welcome in."
And, as a result, TO LOVE, HONOR, AND VACUUM offers encouragement for the overwhelmed, freedom from perfectionism, and a vision of life dominated by care, not precision.
--- Reviewed by Lisa Ann Cockrel
Creative ideas for today's overworked Moms Nov 20, 2003
Stay-at-home and working moms often feel stressed about house chores, their spouse and their children. If you're a stressed-out mom and are feeling disconnected from your role of wife and mother, it's time to rearrange your priorities and focus on what's most important in your life.
"...To Love, Honor, and Vacuum," by Sheila Wray Gregoire, is just the book to help stressed-out moms learn how to improve their lives. It gives many examples, helpful tips and ideas, includes things to think about, and provides checklists to help manage your stressful life.
MyParenTime.com recommends this book -- although the book contains Christian-based ideas, this book is appropriate for Moms of all faiths. "When you feel more like a maid than a wife and mother," the suggestions in this book can help you change that :).
Purposeful Home Management Sep 22, 2003
In "...to love, honor, and vacuum," Sheila Wray Gregoire shares with women a direct, no-nonsense approach to managing their homes. The strength of the book lies where Gregoire places the responsibility - with women's sinful thought patterns. After documenting historical precedent and identifying modern myths, Gregoire challenges women to examine past choices, identify root fears, choose God's truth and implement pragmatic changes. In so doing, she provides women with a Biblical methodology to exchange worldly inefficiency for purposeful living.