Item description for Taking the War Out of Our Words (3rd Edition) by Sharon Strand Ellison...
Whether we are dealing with a rude clerk, our child saying, "That's not fair!," our spouse ignoring us, or an uncooperative co-worker, in our struggle to respond effectively, we often become defensive - sometimes without even realizing it. Despite good intentions, we can become manipulative and controlling, even with those we love most.
In this groundbreaking book, Sharon Ellison takes us to the root of our communication problems. She shows us how defensiveness functions in our lives and can lead to hurtful power struggles, outlining the six basic patterns we use:
Using her Powerful, Non-Defensive Communication process, you can express yourself with a compelling blend of vulnerability and honesty. Learn to:
* Ask disarming questions that prompt others to drop their defenses and open up
* Give direct feedback to others without being judgmental
* Express your own beliefs, feelings, and ideas passionately without being adversarial, so you can be heard and respected
* Set firm boundaries that create security and clear expectations.
"Taking the War Out of Our Words" provides us with vital tools for healing conflict, enhancing self-esteem, becoming more open and spontaneous, strengthening relationships, transforming organizations, and guiding the way toward peace in our global community.
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Est. Packaging Dimensions: Length: 8.9" Width: 5.9" Height: 0.8" Weight: 0.9 lbs.
Release Date Apr 9, 2007
Publisher Wyatt-MacKenzie Publishing
ISBN 1932279628 ISBN13 9781932279627
Reviews - What do customers think about Taking the War Out of Our Words (3rd Edition)?
good ideas, delivery not as strong as I had hoped Jul 13, 2008
I applaud the author's efforts to share methods that allow people to communicate more effectively. That said, I found this book to be a boring read. I expected better from someone who makes their living in communications. I bought the book is hopes that it might offer some new ideas for my husband to deal with a problem boss. The suggestions made didn't really help in his situation. The whole feeling of the book was very scripted - lots of "he said", "she said", "he should have said", "she should have said" - it just didn't engage me.
The best advice from the book - ask questions, lots of them, try not to make them judgemental or leading, and don't assume you know the answer before you hear it.
Best book I've ever read Jun 9, 2008
I think this book is just absolutely wonderful, so easy to read and so direct. She uses real life examples and everything. I absolutely loved it!
Such a good book, has made a huge impact in my life Nov 22, 2007
This book has changed the way I interact with my fellow woman/man. I, too, had fallen into the defensive behaviors that the book describes. All my conversations *were* battles. I hadn't realized that was what was keeping me from resolution in so many areas of my life. Although not a fix-all, it has taught me how to deflate hot conversations so that we can come to agreements, how to find out what conversations are really about, and has made me a calmer person as a result. If you're truly ready to change, this book is for you and you won't be dissappointed. - Maggie