Item description for Healing The Hurt In Your Marriage (Focus On The Family Marriage) by Barbara Rosberg...
Overview All marriage relationships face hurts and conflicts on several levels, but not many know how to deal with them effectively--and so they don't. The Rosbergs walk couples through a step-by-step process of understanding different styles of conflict resolution, encouraging them toward forgiveness and healing.
Publishers Description All marriage relationships face hurts and conflicts on several levels, but not many of us know how to deal with them effectively--so we don't. Healing the Hurt in Your Marriage walks couples through a very manageable step-by-step process of understanding different styles of conflict resolution and then encourages them toward forgiveness and healing.
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Studio: Tyndale House Publishers, Inc.
Est. Packaging Dimensions: Length: 8.5" Width: 5.28" Height: 0.57" Weight: 0.6 lbs.
Release Date Dec 1, 2006
Publisher Tyndale House Publishers
Series Focus On The Family Marriage
ISBN 1589971043 ISBN13 9781589971042 UPC 700001001043
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More About Barbara Rosberg
Rosberg coaches and encourages women through A Woman's Legacy.
Barbara Rosberg currently resides in West Des Moines, in the state of Iowa.
Reviews - What do customers think about Healing The Hurt In Your Marriage?
More biblical truth less opinion please! Oct 28, 2008
I did not see alot of advice filtered through Gods word or the Holy Spirit. You can not base your advice on everybody loves raymond episodes.Everyones situation is different. My advice to anyone who would buy this book is dont waste the time or the money. Pray seek Gods face and stick to what the bible says and trust the Holy Spirit for his guidance! No offence to the writers but you are missguided and from listening to your program on the radio you come off as a little judgemental.
Its ok, But I needed it earlier. Sep 29, 2008
This book is ok. It can help if your marriage is almost over or if your partner will talk. In all other cases it will not help much. But, it is a good read.
Healing the Hurt May 23, 2007
If you are looking for a Christ centered book to help with your marriage then this would be a good choice. This book uses readings from the Bible to help support how a Christ centered relationship will enrich your love of Christ and in turn will deepen your love for your spouse. When a couple has a Christ centered marriage they lead their children to Christ.
An Important Book for Both Engaged and Married Couples Jun 27, 2004
In HEALING THE HURT IN YOUR MARRIAGE, Dr. Gary and Barbara Rosberg are on a mission: to divorce-proof America's marriages. "You and your marriage are the devil's intended victims...Satan would like nothing better than to discourage you, debilitate your marriage, and add another crippled or broken family to his ledger," write the Rosbergs. As hosts of the nationally syndicated radio program "America's Family Coaches...Live!" they've heard myriad tales from wounded couples teetering on the brink of divorce, and have helped them put their marriages back together.
The authors believe that after the honeymoon fades and "the Novocain of naïveté wears off" many marriages suffer from unresolved conflict that causes hurt and anger. "If we do not learn to close the loop on our conflicts, our marriages will be at risk for sliding toward disconnection, discord, and possibly emotional divorce," write the Rosbergs.
The book is salted with scriptural models for resolving conflict, diagrams, and anecdotal stories modeling problems with hurt and anger. There's Zach, who lets his mother run his life, and his wife Jan, whose anger over the situation is eating her up. Laura's husband is a workaholic, and she cries herself to sleep over his neglect. Jack works the night shift, and comes home unexpectedly to find his wife in the arms of a man from their Bible study group.
Every spouse will hurt their partner in some way, believe the Rosbergs. "It's not a question of if, only when." What separates those who head for divorce court and those whose marriages last is how the couple will resolve the conflict and hurt that they feel, they believe. The Rosbergs see three things that keep couples moving in the right direction: the couple acknowledges that they will cause each other pain from time to time, the couple learns what to do when conflicts and pain occur, and the couple puts God's plan for resolving conflict into practice.
With this in mind, the Rosbergs give readers a biblically-based plan to carry out all three steps, beginning with the idea of "the loop." The loop of conflict begins when your spouse offends you in some way. Until it is resolved, the loop remains open. At some point you reach the fork in the road --- the choice to close the loop or leave it open. Once forgiving love is exercised, the loop is closed.
Forgiving love, as seen by the Rosbergs, is a six-stage process: preparing the heart, diffusing anger, communicating concerns, confronting, forgiving, and rebuilding trust. Each stage is explored in detail, and includes examples of couples working through that particular step. Although the Rosbergs encourage couples to say no to divorce, they are also realistic, giving some examples of couples who don't make it. "Reconciliation can occur only when both spouses want it and pursue it through whole forgiveness."
The Rosbergs also look at the origins of marital conflicts, including family background differences, personality differences, values differences, and differences between the sexes. They also examine various types of anger (situational, displaced) and our responses to anger (protecting ourselves, exploding, denying, stuffing). Healing is hampered when pride, guilt, laziness, shame, and fear throw a "red light" that stops us on our journey toward resolution, they write.
"Unless you and your spouse learn how to work through your hurt and anger, you will likely find yourself on an emotional roller coaster that never slows down," write the authors. "Unresolved anger evolves into bitterness and resentment." The unresolved conflicts are part of the "open loops," and closing every "loop" as soon as possible is vital to divorce-proofing your marriage, they write.
They also examine cultural messages about conflict resolution, including messages from the media, advice from friends and family members, and instructions given by the church. Some of the most enjoyable illustrations in the book are when characters from the television sitcom "Everybody Loves Raymond" are used to illustrate five common conflict resolution styles. The couple writes with one voice, occasionally switching to first person accounts when they share personal marital anecdotes, which makes for a smooth read. Their plan for resolving conflict and managing anger and hurt flows in an orderly and logical way, with plenty of subheads to help the reader stay on track.
With virtually no Christian extended family left untouched by divorce, the Rosbergs have a ready-made readership. Engaged couples will find this book a great discussion starter, and married couples could find it a marriage-saver.