Item description for Holding Hands, Holding Hearts: Recovering a Biblical View of Christian Dating by Sharon L. Phillips & Richard D. Phillips...
Overview What does the Bible say about dating? Nothing. And Everything! This book offers a biblical view of relationships and provides insight on issues of commitment, attraction, and more.
When you date someone, you?re more than just holding another?s hands; you?re holding that person?s heart.
Publishers Description What does Scripture say about dating? Nothing--and everything This book offers a biblical view of relationships, nd discusses attraction, first dates, commitment, and more.
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Studio: P & R Publishing
Est. Packaging Dimensions: Length: 8.5" Width: 5.54" Height: 0.41" Weight: 0.5 lbs.
Release Date Jan 1, 2006
Publisher P & R PUBLISHING #97
ISBN 0875525202 ISBN13 9780875525204
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Biblical advice given with Christian love and wisdom Feb 14, 2007
Well, I just finished Holding Hands, Holding Hearts and I'm still convinced it's by far the best book on Christian dating for adults that I've read so far. In fact, after I finished it I gathered up some of my other books on Christian dating and singleness along with their receipts to return them to the book store. This book offers sound advice based on Biblical principles with the much needed Christian love and wisdom.
Best Christian Dating Book I've Read Jan 11, 2007
The title says it all. This book is Biblical, practical, and balanced.
As for being Biblical, the whole first half of the book is devoted to clearly and succinctly outlining and explaining the three Biblical perspectives for viewing everything, (including dating): Creation, the Fall, and Redemption. They discuss not only what these things mean, but what they mean for dating and/or marriage.
It offers solid advice from a couple who actually remembers what it was like to be single and has been working with young adults in the transition from dating to marriage for many years. As a result, this book is balanced. On the one hand, it avoids the extreme of simply slapping a Christian label on an otherwise worldly practice of just going with the flow without discipline, without any sense of commitment or purpose. And on the other hand, it avoids the extreme of telling Christians that the only way they can be godly is by adopting the cultural practices of the 18th century. (Some of the books out there make one seriously question whether the author is more concerned with Biblical principle or the cultural standards of an arbitrarily chosen time and place.)
Without reservation, I would recommend this book to any young person with dating/marriage on their mind.
Clear Biblical Thinking and Practical Application May 20, 2006
The dating versus courtship arguments in my opinion, have largely fallen into two inadequate camps. Courtship (often) is defended as the preferable option because it was the norm in Biblical culture. Our modern context is usually written off while the cultural practice of the past becomes the normative Biblcal command for us now. I had trouble making that leap. And I found that many who "kissed dating good-bye" made it into a Biblical command, rather than what it is, a wise application of Biblical principles. The other side, who "gave dating a chance", often failed to wrestle significantly with the Biblical material and empahsized following Biblical principles within the flawed system of dating.
Thankfully, into this debate comes a third and welcome approach. Richard Phillips and Sharon Phillips are both aware of the modern context that singles live in, but also have attempted to create a thoroughly Biblical rationale for single males and females to follow as they "date". Holding Hands, Holding Hearts is all that a book on practical theology should be. It is grace-based, well thought out, Scripturally supported and developed, and it gives practical applications for its readers. (While I believe all theology is practical, many books fail to thoroughly examine the practical outworkings of theology in day-to-day life).
The book is divided into two parts. Part I is called A Biblical View of Dating and Relationships. In this half, the Phillips spend a significant time explaining why we are what we are and how that affects our relationships. It uses the classical set up of categories for mankind - Creation, Fall, and Redemption. All three need to be understood BEFORE a model of relationships is developed, and the Phillips do this in a clear, Biblical and understandable way. The second half is titled Biblical Wisdom for Dating and Relationships. It takes the Bibles teachings on marriage and works backwards from them. The patterns that God desires in marriage do not magically appear once one is married, and this book describes how a couple can and should learn, grow and prepare for the roles they are called to if the Lord calls them to marriage.
One highlight that I have not seen in any dating/courtship book before is the section on idolatry in our hearts. Here's a sample: "Different people have different idols as we saw in Genesis 3, the woman's idols will often be relationship-oriented; she desires to possess him as the key to her happiness....Similarly, Genesis 3 tells us that men will often be motivated by idols eternal to the relationship: money, power, excitement. Whatever they are, the point is that idols must be served, and the dating or marriage partner must be coerced into contributing to that service. This, by the way, is often what the world means by 'compatibility'. The key to a happy relationship, the experts tell us, is to find a companion who worships the same idols as you do, or whose idols are at least not in conflict with your own. This is a fool's paradise, for sin and idolatry never truly produce harmony but always strife." (pp. 61-62). This section, in addition to many others, has what many other Christian books on the subject lack, a proper understanding and focus on the heart, as well as practical guidlines for conduct based on that understanding. Pastor Phillips is definitely a shepherd, and a man who "has no need to be ashamed, rightly handling the word of truth" (2 Tim. 2:15 ESV).
If you are a single adult, and want to have the best theological and practical undestanding of how to keep Christ at the center of your dating relationships (or your courtship relationships) - this is the book for you! It is easy to read, Christ-honoring, and very practical. It also is very pastoral, and has the benefit of both male and female input, and all this from two people who worked with hundreds of singles over the years.
As one final note, my girlfriend(now fiance) and I read this together, and it was a great resource and catalyst for our thinking as we sought the Lord's will for our relationship. Check it out and buy a copy for a single friend!
Wow. Best book I've read on dating for adults! Feb 23, 2006
This is a fantastic book. The Phillips worked with the singles ministry at Tenth Presbyterian Church in Philadelphia, and they have a real love for singles and lots of practical, wise advice. I wish I had read this book when I was in college; it would have saved me a lot of wasted emotion and wondering why guys were so frustrating!
The authors recognize that it's hard to "kiss dating goodbye," so instead they help singles navigate the tricky road of getting to know a potential mate. They spend time talking about what should be expected from both men and women in a relationship, and they tackle the issues that are prevalent - men not wanting to define the relationship or be willing to commit, and women expecting too much or pressuring the guy for more commitment than he's ready for. They help the reader see what qualities men and women should look for in the opposite sex, and how to be properly choosy without expecting perfection.
All in all, a very useful and practical book. I hardly ever give a book five stars, but this one deserves all five.