Renate Stendhal, born and raised in Germany, is a writer, editor, and translator. She lived in Paris for twenty years as a cultural correspondent for German radio and press. She has translated into German the works of Gertrude Stein, Audre Lorde, Adrienne Rich, and others, and she is the co-author (with Kim Chernin) of "Sex and Other Sacred Games". She is a consultant in creativity and writing in Berkeley, California.
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Offers a powerful common sense viewpoint Nov 14, 2002
Love's Learning Place: Truth as Aphrodisiac in Women's Long-Term Relationships by spiritual and psychological women's counselor Renate Stendhal, is a human sexuality self-help guide for lesbian women in long-term relationships. Focusing on openness and truth as the key to keeping sexual desire alive, and enhanced with anecdotes from lesbian couples, Love's Learning Place focuses on the simple yet profound idea that communication matters, and takes the lead in debunking pervasive myths - such as the idea that one should "just know" what feels good in sex, or that sex should come automatically and instinctively. Although written especially for women in lesbian relationships, Love's Learning Place offers a powerful common sense viewpoint applicable to all long-term sexual partnerships.
A great book for any couple Nov 12, 2002
This book is based on the relationship issues of lesbian couples but it deals with a question asked worriedly by people of all sexualities: What do you do when you and your lover are having problems with your sex life? It is a scenario many of us have gone through; we meet someone and the sex seems great. Time passes and the relationship becomes more serious but the sex just is not what it once was. What now?
Stendhal brings up the idea that we, as a society, are forced to conform to a mainstream conception of sexuality and in doing so, we bury our own secret desires. Her antidote for breaking down barriers in one's sexuality is to combat them with pure and stark truths found through intense self-discovery. She encourages us to reach beyond shame and fear to uncover truths with our partner. This process and result is promised to be more fulfilling, sexually and emotionally, then all of the so-called passions of the
"honeymoon" phase of a relationship.
Advice that should be taught in school... Oct 31, 2002
Sex is a topic that constantly pervades our culture. My generation of 20-somethings is supposedly sexually liberated, especially when compared to past generations. However, how liberated can we possibly be, when sexuality is only portrayed from the stereotypical perspective of men? As a 21-year-old woman, I belong to an age group who consider themselves very knowledgeable and open in their sexualities. In moments of strictest confidence with my girlfriends, though, we have revealed to each other how embarrassingly little we really know about our own sexualities. We compare our experiences to those portrayed in the media and because of the vast difference between the two, we assume that something is wrong with us. Renate Stendhal helps us feel confident in our own desires and perceptions as women, and gives excellent advice on how to unlock our passions. This is a great read for anyone who wonders how to sustain their romantic relationships.
This book is FABULOUS! Oct 8, 2002
I loved Love's Learning Place! I am a heterosexual woman, with the same man for 14 years. Let's face it: monogamy can get old after a while. But I learned from this book how to re-ignite the sparks in my sexual relationship. This book is a tremendous resource, not just for lesbians, but for ALL women who want to get the most out of their sexual relationships. Move over Dr. Ruth, here comes Renate Stendhal!
Not just for women Aug 5, 2002
I found an excerpt in The Advocate sex issue this summer and read that this interesting author lived in Paris "as a boy". Me and my partner of 6 years are reading this book to each other in bed. We love "Love School"! We are learning something amazing every time we read. It is changing our sex life. No, our love life. Men can get a few hot ideas from the women in this book. Not just the talking, also the thinking about truth. Not just in bed. The author has ways to make one aware of lies and false beliefs. It clears the head. Then the doing. Don't miss out.