Reviews - What do customers think about Toughlove?
Almost Completely Worthless Oct 2, 2007
The only "idea" in this book is: go to Tough Love meetings. Of course, everyone there will be just as confused as you are, since Tough Love doesn't have any actual guidelines or strategies to offer (otherwise they'd be outlined in the book, right?). Oh, and good luck finding one of those meetings I live in a densely populated area and there are none here.
This book is basically a series of anecdotes. One parent went to her kid's school dressed as a clown or something. Another staged a picket line outside of her own home. I bought this book hoping for some REAL ideas, not this useless drivel.
Some good advice Aug 27, 2007
Although this book does offer some great advice for taking back control of your children's lives, and your own...it's mostly a companion book for people also attending the Toughlove meetings. It's more about the Toughlove network/program, itself, than a teaching tool/self-help/advice kind of book.
Since there are no meetings in my area, I thought the book would offer me what I couldn't get at the meetings. Not so much. Which is fine, I get the fact that the networking is a vital part of it all. Just wish I knew that before buying it :) Because pretty much everything in the book depends on your getting to those meetings and building a network.
If you can get to the meetings, this is a good book to have. If not, this book doesn't really stand on it's own.
Apparently the reviewer "bobby" has never been to a Toughlove Meeting Apr 12, 2006
I am a member of a Toughlove group and just because that one woman wasn't willing to change her own behavior is not a reflection on the Toughlove group or their philosophy. Toughlove is about realizing that you can't change your child, you can only change the way you relate to them, thus forcing them to relate to you differently. It's about taking stands and setting boundaries and not letting your children manipulate you. It's about putting the anxiety and responsibility for our children's lives where it belongs, on the children. I think a lot of people have bad misconceptions about what Toughlove is all about. I would recommend this book and the new book "The Toughlove Prescription" to any parent, whether their child is in crisis or not. The principles apply whether the child is in crisis or not.
Toughlove Jan 18, 2006
The book reinforced some common sense approaches that parents struggling with teenagers with adult problems sometimes forget. Nothing new but helps to read it over and over.
A great wake up call for all parents Jun 4, 2004
This is an amazing book and an extremely helpful approach to parenting teenagers. I don't get it why people think they advocate abuse, it's the opposite it makes parents accountable for their behavior. The writers present great ideas and insight into the problems that are facing our families and communities because of destructive teenage behaviors. Great book!