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Overview Offers exercises and advice on breaking the cycle of trauma and overcoming the crippling effects of abusive relationships
Exploitive relationships can create trauma bonds--chains that link a victim to someone who is dangerous to them. Divorce, employee relations, litigation of any type, incest and child abuse, family and marital systems, domestic violence, hostage negotiations, kidnapping, professional exploitation and religious abuse are all areas of trauma bonding. All these relationships share one thing: they are situations of incredible intensity or importance where there is an exploitation of trust or power.
In The Betrayal Bond Patrick Carnes presents an in-depth study of these relationships, why they form, who is most susceptible, and how they become so powerful. He shows how to recognize when traumatic bonding has occurred and gives a checklist for examining relationships. He then provides steps to safely extricate from these relationships.
This is a book you will turn to again and again for inspiration and insight, while professionals will find it an invaluable reference work.
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Est. Packaging Dimensions: Length: 8.51" Width: 5.51" Height: 0.65" Weight: 0.85 lbs.
Release Date Nov 1, 1997
ISBN 1558745262 ISBN13 9781558745261 UPC 031448011952
Reviews - What do customers think about The Betrayal Bond: Breaking Free of Exploitive Relationships?
Betrayal Bond Jan 17, 2009
I am still reading this book, but it has so much meaning not only for the professionals, but for anyone that has had to deal with these types of issues. This book opens up so much for those both in the professional field and those that have had to deal with these issues in real life.
Betrayal of Trust by Therapists is all too common Nov 8, 2008
I see that a number of people have unfortunately found that therapy isn't the be-all and end-all of healing. I agree that this is an excellent book, but needs to have more focus on friends and family outside of the paid so-called "healing professions" which encourage dependency and the transfer of funds from you to them, all the while insisting that their way is "right" and you are sick and "wrong." I learned this the hard way, but once I got away from "therapy" I found real healing in areas of PTSD and Codependency, and of course a developing faith in one's Higher Power, or God, or whatever you call the Divine.
The title of this book says it all: "The Betrayal Bond: Breaking Free of Exploitive Relationships." This can and all too often does include exploitive therapeutic bonds, which means you are exploited by them for financial gain. There are other ways to heal that don't cost money and work. Just ask any incest survivor who went to a therapist who said they had to be committed due to the mistreatment they had received! A therapist-induced trauma is as difficult to heal from as the initial betrayal, which is why people go to therapy in the first place. And it's incredible how little oversight is given into what kind of people become "therapists" and how controlling so many of them actually are. Talk about exploitation. What can a "patient" do to protect themselves? Find sources of support that don't cost money. Simple enough. There you aren't a "sick patient," but a human being trying to become whole. Being treated as a human being makes all the difference in the world.
I was betrayed in the worst possible way by a so-called "therapist," Sonja K. Schoenwald, at Duke University in the early 1990's. (She's now at the Family Services Research Center at the Medical University of South Carolina, a different university where she can continue "her work" with no record to follow her).
She and her supervisors and professors (none of whom knew me or had ever even met me) all went after me "guns a blazing" and the extent of their therapeutic lies was incredible. You never know what these people might be writing and saying about you: in my case, my "therapist" interpreted everything I said or did in her own "special way" to further her career. None of it was true, and I had to go to court to prove this fact. It was four long years just to "correct the record" as this therapist refused to do so, and all her supervisors backed her up as they believed they were "exempt" under the law. I had to change state law so that a therapist could in fact be sued for falsehoods, as up until then they were "exempt" under the law. North Carolina was very backward at the time, but times thankfully are changing.
Too many therapists act one way to your face to get your money coming in every week, and are completely unregulated or taught anything about morals, truth and conscience. They do anything they want and there is little if any recourse if and when they damage their patients. I'm sure there are some good therapists out there (I've had a few) but after this last go-round, I will never again trust a paid member of the "helping professions." Real friends and family are what count; they "help" for free. You can count on them whether you have money or not, and they aren't promoting their own brand of career-boosting nonsense. Few people want to hear this, and are shocked and offended when I say what happened to me, so I've learned to keep quiet and this just adds to the PTSD and after-effects. Therefore, I am prepared to withstand attacks from others as I have resolved to tell the truth about what happened to me. Amen.
EXCELLENT book Sep 22, 2008
The title of this book gripped me, and it was definitely worth the time. This is the first self-help book that made me actually want to do the exercises. Powerful stuff. I've been trying to break free from those betrayal bonds for many years, and this is the book that finally set me on a solid and straight path.
Insightful and helpful Dec 19, 2007
When my counselor recommended this book I was not at all sure that the material applied to me. Boy, was I wrong! This book has proven to be insightful and helpful in identifying patterns in my life that came from a dysfunctional family of orgin. To do all of the work that the book suggests will require a significant time investment and I think to really get the most out of it at least one insightful and trained person to guide you through. I am just at the point where I am putting my action plan into writing and practice so I can't claim lifechanging events yet. It has, however, given me the insight and the tools to move forward. And I feel the first seeds of hopefulness sprouting in my life.
review of a great book on sexual abuse Apr 10, 2007
This is a must read for anyone working with children or teens. Especially good for social workers, psychologists, youth leaders, and any family that has dealt with or is dealing with sexual or physical abuse of a loved one. I cannot give this book a high enough rating. Our daughter was sexually abused as a minor by a (used to be) good friend that we had known for 15 years. She had a very hard time getting out of the situation even as an adult. People do not understand the manipulation, brain washing, lying etc. that goes on in such a situation. If only we had known the signs to look for. Thanks you Patrick Carnes for your insight and for trying to open the eyes of the ignorant.