Item description for High-Maintenance Relationships (AACC Library) by Les Parrott III...
Overview How do I handle a friend who saps my energy? When do I love without limit? We've all asked these questions. And too often our responses are either to back out of relationships or to give up on impossible people. Dr. Les Parrott shows us other options, including setting boundaries, giving the gift of grace, and leaving room for God.
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Studio: Tyndale House Publishers, Inc.
Est. Packaging Dimensions: Length: 8.38" Width: 5.54" Height: 0.65" Weight: 0.65 lbs.
Release Date Oct 1, 2000
Publisher Tyndale House Publishers
Series AACC Library
ISBN 0842314660 ISBN13 9780842314664
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More About Les Parrott III
#1 New York Times bestselling author Les Parrott is co-founder, with his wife, Leslie, of the Center for Relationship Development on the campus of Seattle Pacific University and the bestselling author of High-Maintenance Relationships, Love the Life You Live (with Neil Clark Warren), Love Talk (with Leslie Parrott), 3 Seconds, and 25 Ways to Win with People (with John C. Maxwell). Dr. Parrott is a sought-after speaker to Fortune 500 companies and holds relationship seminars across North America. Dr. Parrott has been featured in USA Today, the Wall Street Journal, and the New York Times. His many television appearances include The View, The O'Reilly Factor, CNN, Good Morning America, and Oprah. To learn more, visit www.lesandleslie.com
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Reviews - What do customers think about High-Maintenance Relationships?
Good for Starting Out Jan 2, 2007
I read this book when I had just graduated from college and was entering the professional workplace for the first time. This book gave a great overview of problem personalities and some suggestions for dealing with them. I found the book to be helpful.
A Few High-Maintenance Insights Jan 23, 2005
Parrott here gives a few helpful insights on how to respond to the seemingly impossible people whom all of us encounter at work, at home, or at school. While he does a bit of stereotyping with his various labels, he effectively communicates his message of identifying the more challenging aspects of relating to numerous people around us.
He wisely advises each of us to look within ourselves to identify each of the flaws that tend to annoy us in others. Usually, we can find the same quirks within us that are so bothersome around us. He then offers particular remarks on how to better handle each type of high-maintenance relationship covered.
I only gave this book three stars because it was more entertaining than enlightening. In other words, I could relate to the characteristics he was describing, but there wasn't a substantial amount of solid advice on how to respond to them. This title is a quick, easy read, but for in-depth advice on any high-maintenance relationship, I would look elsewhere. Parrott simply tries to cover too much ground here in too little pages.
Not For Victims of Abusive Relationships Jul 31, 2004
This book is about maintaining relationships with abusive, destructive, untrustworthy, and downright dangerous people, who are euphemistically referred to as "high-maintenance". The victim of such an abuser is encouraged to keep the relationship together at all costs and given suggestions for adapting to and living with the abuse, including becoming more sympathic to his abuser by recognizing the exact same abusive tendency in himself-which may be true for some characteristics but is quite a stretch if you are going to assume EVERYONE has EVERY offensive trait to some degree. The author makes the victim solely responsible for staying in an abusive relationship without ever confronting the abuser or understanding that the time may come when it is necessary to leave the relationship for one's own sanity or mental, emotional, spiritual, and even physical health. The abusive person is absolved of all responsibility for his own behavior. The book never addresses the extreme damage long-term exposure to abusers does to a victim, nor does it address the responsiblity of others to stand up to evil and protect weaker people , such as children in the family, from it. The author quotes Scripture as a rationale and justification for his premise of tolerating ongoing abuse; however, Scripture does not support this thinking. In the Bible, we are held responsible for our behavior. The Bible tells us to forgive AS GOD FORGAVE US (Ephesians 4:32, Colossians 3:13).God forgives us when we come to him, confess our sin, ask for forgiveness (apologize) and REPENT (turn from our sinful ways).(see Ezekiel 33:10-19, Isaiah 55:6, Jeremiah 6:16 & 26:3, Luke 13:3 & 5, Acts 3:19). He does NOT forgive those who are 'stiff-necked', continue doing evil, or refuse to repent. The Lord does not expect more of us than he himself is willing to do! God requires repentance, and so should we.
TAKE HEED TO YOURSELVES: IF THY BROTHER TRESPASS AGAINST THEE, REBUKE HIM; AND IF HE REPENT, FORGIVE HIM.....Luke 17:3
Luke 17:3 is the scripture often misquoted, usually by an abuser or his enabler, when he tells you that the Bible says 'Forgive and Forget', or that you must forgive him because you are a Christian. However, Jesus is very specific when He tells us to REBUKE the sinner, and IF HE REPENTS, to forgive him. In Matthew 18:15-17, Jesus gives us a model for rebuking one who sins against us, and ends by telling us to "treat him as you would a pagan or a tax collector" (shun him) if he refuses to listen. God does not want us to continue to be abused, in fact, we are told a number of times to shun evildoers (Psalm 37:9, Psalm 119:115, Matthew 18:17, Titus 3:10-11, 1 Corinthians 5:11). Additionally, a distinction must be made between forgiveness and reconciliation, or remaining in a relationship. We CAN forgive and still choose not to remain in relationship with one who has betrayed or abused us. We are not required to expose ourselves or our loved ones to harmful, destructive, or dangerous people. "Warn a divisive person once, then warn him a second time. After that, HAVE NOTHING TO DO WITH HIM. You may be sure that such a man is warped and sinful; he is self-condemned"....Titus 3:10-11 Furthermore, we are very clearly instructed in the Scriptures to rebuke wicked people. "Those who sin are to be rebuked publicly, so that the others may take warning".....1 Timothy 5:20NIV
"When I say unto the wicked, O wicked man, thou shalt surely die; if thou dost not speak to warn the wicked from his way, that wicked man shall die in his iniquity; but his blood will I require at thine hand. Nevertheless, if thou warn the wicked of his way to turn from it; if he do not turn from his way, he shall die in his iniquity; but thou hast delivered thy soul"....Ezekiel 33: 8-9 KJV. Doing our best to STOP evil is required for us to save our own souls. A much more helpful book about handling abusive relationships from a Biblical perspective is "Boundaries" by Drs. Henry Cloud and John Townsend, who are well-known Christian psychologists. This book will truly teach victims of abuse how to deal with abusive people, and it also includes Scriptural teachings. I was very disappointed in High- Maintenance Relationships and do not recommend it to anyone dealing with such people. Victims of Back-stabbers, Control- Freaks, Green-Eyed Monsters, Steamrollers, Critics, Volcanoes, and the other "characters" in this book have enough problems without being made to feel as if the sole responsibility for making a success out of a relationship with a toxic person, who merrily continues on harming others, is on their shoulders, and if the relationship fails, it is their fault because they could have done more to salvage it.
As the director of Luke 17:3 Miinistries for Adult Daughters of Abusive or Controlling Birth-families, I feel that this book may do more harm than good. It victimizes a person who is the target of abuse a second time- by making him feel guilty for not improving and continuing his relationship with someone the book itself refers to as "impossible." If you really need help and are looking for a book with constructive actions you can take, this is not it. God wants us to be FREE from wicked people, and HE will free us if we obey his word and follow HIS instructions for dealing with them. "They have greatly oppressed me from my youth, but they have not gained the victory over me. Plowmen have plowed my back and made their furrows long. But the Lord is righteous; he has cut me free from the cords of the wicked"....Psalm 129:2-4
High-Maintence Gets a High Score Jan 8, 2001
Les Parrott write a wonderfuly applicable book especially for today's work environment. With bosses who are "steam-rollers" to neighbors who are "gossips," Parrot takes you on a humorous yet real journey to explore 15 different types of problem personalities that you and I deal with everyday. I have ever used this book for a young adult book study on how to cope with the people we encounter every day. A must have and a must read to survive in the jungles of personal relationships.