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Overview Relationship experts and award-winning authors Les and Leslie Parrott explore how a marriage survives and thrives when a couple learns to use problems to boost their love life and to literally love each other more.
Publishers Description How to make the thorns in your marriage come up roses. The big and little annoyances in your marriage are actually opportunities to deepen your love for each other. Relationship experts and award-winning authors Les and Leslie Parrott believe that your personal quirks and differences---where you squeeze the toothpaste tube, how you handle money---can actually help draw you together provided you handle them correctly. Turn your marriage s prickly issues into opportunities to love each other more as you learn how to ? build intimacy while respecting personal space ? tap the power of a positive marriage attitude ? replace boredom with fun, irritability with patience, busyness with time together, debt with a team approach to your finances . . . and much, much more. Plus---get an inside look at the very soul of your marriage, and how connecting with God can connect you to each other in ways you never dreamed."
I Love You More - How Everyday Problems Can Strengthen Your Marriage
Formerly titled When Bad Things Happen to Good Marriages
By Les and Leslie Parrott
How to make the thorns in your marriage come up roses.
The big and little annoyances in your marriage are actually opportunities to deepen your love for each other. Relationship experts and award-winning authors Les and Leslie Parrott believe that your personal quirks and differences---where you squeeze the toothpaste tube, how you handle money---can actually help draw you together provided you handle them correctly.
Turn your marriage's prickly issues into opportunities to love each other more as you learn how to ? build intimacy while respecting personal space ? tap the power of a positive marriage attitude ? replace boredom with fun, irritability with patience, busyness with time together, debt with a team approach to your finances . . . and much, much more.
Plus---get an inside look at the very soul of your marriage, and how connecting with God can connect you to each other in ways you never dreamed.
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Ingram Advance - 08/01/2005 page 76
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A psychologist and a marriage and family therapist, Drs. Les and Leslie Parrott are founders of the Center for Relationship Development at Seattle Pacific University. Their bestselling books include Love Talk, Crazy Good SexThe Complete Guide to Marriage Mentoring, and the award-winning Saving Your Marriage Before It Starts. Their work has been featured in The New York Times and USA Today, and they have appeared on CNN, O'Reilly Factor, Good Morning America, Today Show, The View, and Oprah. They live with their two sons in Seattle. Visit LesandLeslie.com.
Reviews - What do customers think about I Love You More?
genuinely helpful Mar 24, 2006
The Parrotts have packed a lot of helpful insight into this short book. Many areas are enhanced by stories from real couples -- talking about a problem area in their marriage and how it was managed or resolved. Married for 13 years myself, I found all of the book to be realistic, and relevant to my experience, and some of their advice was actually new to me. The suggested workbooks are definitely not essential for getting the good out of the book, certainly they take the reflection (the personalizing) further.
Tips on strengthening your marriage from veteran relationship experts Aug 4, 2005
With today's high divorce rate, another book on gluing your marriage together is always welcome. Here, veteran relationship team Drs. Les and Leslie Parrott show how difficult problems can lead to deeper, more committed marriages in I LOVE YOU MORE (a re-issue of the earlier WHEN BAD THINGS HAPPEN TO GOOD MARRIAGES, 2001). While much of their advice will have a familiar ring to those who regularly read marriage self-help books, the idea of using negative marital circumstances to achieve a positive outcome makes this book stand out from the ordinary.
The Parrotts are perhaps best known for their Soul Mates Seminars and long-running output of books on marriage for Christian audiences. They speak with the experience of interactions with many married couples when they write, "No marriage --- no matter how good --- is immune to everyday problems." The very problems that seem to threaten marital happiness, they believe, are actually the "tipping point" for deeper love between a husband and wife. Sound counter-intuitive? Read on....
Contrary to romantic belief, love is not enough to make a happy marriage. Neither is shared faith. (Oklahoma, they point out, the buckle of the Bible belt, has one of the highest divorce rates in the United States). Don't get them wrong --- love and faith are important. But a good marriage is built by two people's capacity to adjust to negative things. The bankruptcy you didn't expect. The child who is born disabled. The affair you thought you'd never have. The depression that incapacitates your spouse. "We have staked everything on this person we marry," they write. "...And we eventually learn this person is not what we expected, or at least what we wished."
The Parrotts like to break things down into manageable bites of information. They list five possibilities that contribute to marital problems, including idealistic couples with unfulfilled expectations, restless couples who have not examined, contented couples who have not tapped into their unskilled potential, couples who make unhealthy choices, and unpredictable circumstances.
Much of marriage is about attitude, the authors caution, adding that a good attitude is your most important marital asset. "Good attitudes open the double doors of marriage for optimism to do its work... without optimism, couples see no way out of their negative circumstances," they write. They offer four steps to turn around a bad attitude: look for the positive, refuse to be a victim, give up your grudges, and give yourself and your marriage some grace. A sure sign of a good marital attitude is when you are not only willing to go the first mile, but also go the extra mile in your marriage, the "extra-mile principle."
The Parrotts also list "six subtle saboteurs" that can deep-six a marriage: busyness, irritation, boredom, drift, debt, and pain from the past. Practically, the Parrotts offer readers the five "most important" tools a marriage needs to successfully battle everyday problems. Who could resist? Not this reader. The five (not so easy) steps they recommend are: Ownership --- taking responsibility for the good as well as the bad; Hope --- believing that good wins over bad; Empathy --- walking in your partner's shoes; Forgiveness --- healing the hurts you don't deserve; and Commitment --- living the love you promised. They conclude the book with an overview of learning to speak your spouse's spiritual language, partially drawn from Gary Thomas's must-read book, SACRED PATHWAYS. The Parrotts believe that marriage is a spiritual discipline. "A stronger marriage is a side effect of learning to love God --- together."
One thing to be aware of: If you buy this book, the publisher has ensured you'll want to purchase at least one of the accompanying husband or wife workbooks by directing readers to do exercises from it throughout the text. In some ways, this feels a little like a marketing gimmick to sell more books. However, there are questions for reflection included at the end of each chapter, so the book will stand on its own without the additional workbooks.