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Overview For a Christian, motherhood is the subtle art of building a house in grace the wise woman builds her house, but the foolish pulls it down with her hands (Prov. 14:1). Each day's work is significant, for it contributes toward the long-term plan. Each nail helps a house stand in a storm. But motherhood isn't a simple formula. Building a home childbirth, education, discipline requires holy joy and a love of beauty. The mother who fears God does not fear the future.
Publishers Description For a Christian woman, motherhood is the subtle art of building a house in grace - The wise woman builds her house, but the foolish pulls it down with her hands (Prov. 14: 1). Each day's work is significant, for it contributes toward the long-term plan. Each nail helps a house stand in a storm. But motherhood isn't a simple formula. Building a home - childbirth, education, discipline - requires holy joy and a love of beauty. The mother who fears God does not fear the future.
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Wilson has served the Lord and loved people for 23 years. She has a MA in Leadership and serves as associate national director of Student Venture, the high school outreach of Campus Crusade for Christ.
Nancy Wilson currently resides in Orlando, in the state of Florida.
Reviews - What do customers think about Praise Her in the Gates: The Calling of Christian Motherhood?
helpful and concise! Feb 18, 2008
This book was straight to the point and quick and easy to read. I'd never read any of Mrs. Wilson's books before, but now I would like to read more. She tells readers what they need to hear, even if it's not pleasant.
A reviewer below commented that she has patriarical views, and rightly so. All Christians should. Women should stay under their fathers authority until they are placed under the protection and authority of their husband. This is completely Biblical.
If you want to be challenged, read this book!
Some pearls mixed with the mud Jun 12, 2007
I can tell you, I had absolutely NO expectations when looking at this book. Knowing the Wilsons, I expected sexism against daughters, advice to be a slave to household chores (and hubby's will), and any other random degrading remarks to women that the Wilsons (especially Douglas) are famous for. In a great deal of Mrs. Wilson's advice in childcare, however, I was very pleasantly surprised. While there are a couple of the typical patriarchal remarks, there are also many pearls of wisdom to raising children.
First, I'll go over the negatives, since there were fewer of them. As I said, the Wilsons have notoriously and often disgustingly old-fashioned views of women. Not only this, but Douglas Wilson can't seem to help mentioning his low female views no matter the subject, even in a book about raising boy-children! Nancy, who's often struck me as rather harsh and critical, couldn't quite escape this either. In her section about daughters, she said that "a daughter should stay under her father's authority until she's given in marriage, even if she's no longer living under his roof." I'm not going to mince words here, folks: this is complete patriarchal nonsense. The idea here is that women must always have some male protecting and disciplining them; we can never be trusted to live on our own terms. Note the term "given in marriage"; the woman can't even marry without daddy's permission and of course it's not really marriage, it's just going from one male force to another. And really, what if the daughter never marries? Can you imagine a 50-year-old woman obeying her 90-year-old father?
Not only do the Wilsons have few expectations of girls, but they seem to praise testatrone to the skies, to the point where they actually encourage unnecessary male aggression. Douglas Wilson speaks of "beating others down to God's order" and uplifts the concept of such "Christian" aggression in a male. In this book, Nancy in her turn does her own little salute to testastrone when she tells the reader that a good example of young male spirituality is when a Christian boy tells another child to shut-up if the other child uses God's name in vain. That's right; there, in a nutshell, is Mrs. Wilson's belief of what male spirituality is. Apparently, she has very limited standards for male behavior, too. I'm not totally sure I'd punish my son if he told a disrespectful child to shut-up, but I also wouldn't clutch my chest in admiration and cry, "Oh, what a Godly little boy!"
Luckily, Wilson manages to keep her hard-to-swallow stereotypes to a minimum and focus mainly on raising children. Although some of her remarks are undeniably offensive, she, unlike Douglas, doesn't run away on them and manages to stick to the topic of the book. In the area of raising children, Mrs. Wilson gives a lot of very good advice that I myself plan to use in my future as a mother.
Firstly, Wilson instructs the mother very well in how to be an authority figure, even with sons. She warns mothers that sons tend to try to evade rules and advises them how to lay the law and avoid backtalk. Also, inspite of Mrs. Wilson's tendency to paint females as submissive, in this book she gave many points of advice for raising strong and determined young women. I especially liked how she advised mothers to train their daughters to be firm with teenage boys, especially when refusing an insistent and irresponsible boy's request for a date. I felt like applauding her for her encouragement for girls to stand up for themselves and not be pushed around by others.
One of my favorite aspects of Wilson's advice was that, although she doubtless encourages mothers to be very strong authority figures, she also believes and advises them to respect their children. This is such an important part of being a parent! So many parents either give their children too much freedom or smother them with rules, but Wilson has the perfect balance of disciplining the children AND respecting them as the human beings that they are. She gives me the image of a mother who demands respect, but regards her children highly at the same time. This is exactly the kind of mother I wish to be. One of Wilson's points that especially caught my attention was the warning for mothers not to take their small children's remarks too personally. Naturally she tells us to train children to respect their parents, but she also reminds us that small children are not always respectful and, when this happens, we can't allow it to hurt our feelings because they don't know better. Being a very sensitive person, this advice was especially noteworthy to me and a definite pearl of wisdom to mothers.
Altogether, this book provides a pretty fair amount of sensible and even vital advice to mothers. There are a few remarks (mainly of the sexes) that'll probably make you grind your teeth, but if you ignore them and pay heed to the childraising advice, you could find a lot of good stuff to apply in your role as a mother.
VERY disappointed. I will not read Nancy Wilson books anymore. Sep 13, 2006
I have read several other books by the Wilsons in the past and thought that they were decent. They have done some good writing on the family. So I decided to try another of Nancy Wilson's books. I was so disappointed. She takes biblical analogies WAY too far. It is really inappropriate at times. She uses scripture to support what she is saying in the wrong way. She also encourages very rude behaviour in children in her chapter "Respecting Sons" in regard to their piety. For example she says that a mother should be proud when she hears that her son told his neighbor to "Shut Up" when he was taking the Lord's name in vain. Now I DO NOT think it is appropriate to take the Lord's name in vain. It is a sin. However this is not teaching our children to speak in love to their neighbor. This is just one example of BAD ADVICE given in this book. It's a shame. Because there are many good things in this book too, but the bad far outweigh the good in my opinion. I told my husband about this book and he said "Don't read books by Nancy Wilson anymore."
Could have been better May 4, 2004
I am a fan of Nancy Wilson and her husband Doug. I've read _Reforming Marriage_ and _The Fruit of Her Hands_ and was challenged by both of them. They were filled with Scriptural principles and biblical models for the roles of men and women in marriage.
My issue with this particular book is that it is filled with "shoulds". You should do this... you shouldn't allow your children to do this... a loving parent will do this... parents who allow their children to throw temper tantrums in the grocery store hate their children. My problem with extrabiblical "shoulds" is that it leads to a form of legalism. Now, Mrs. Wilson is NOT suggesting that you "should" do all these "shoulds" to attain righteousness. However, there is a sense that if you don't do these things, you are a bad parent and not living out God's design for the family.
I don't agree with the first reviewer that, by following Mrs. Wilson's suggestions that you become a slave to your husband. Not at all! I just see that, with all these rules for being a good parent, there is no room for making mistakes. If you don't do this, your kids are going to turn out crappy. Sheesh! I get exhausted just reading it let alone thinking about how I'm going to implement all this stuff.
I believe the suggestions are good ones, thus the three star review. I agree with just about all of them. However, there is more than one way to go. Heaping a bunch of law on my head doesn't help.
Not Much Help in the Mothering Dept. Apr 4, 2003
I bought this book with the hope of being challenged and encouraged through Biblical teaching about motherhood and homemaking. Although there is some Scripturally-based teaching, most of this book is the author's very strong personal opinions about taking care of children and the home. If you want to be laden with rules of how to be a slave to your husband and children, then this is the book for you! Otherwise, remember that Jesus said "Come to me all you who are weary and burdened and I will give you rest..." Ask the Holy Spirit to impress upon your heart the areas where you need to change and become more Christ-like and be confident that He will help you be all you need to be.