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Overview Murrow contends that the church has become a hostile environment to men and their values. Explaining the problem in detail, Murrow offers hope to women who are fervently praying for a father, brother, or son and provides validation for those men. (Men's Issues)
It's Sunday morning. Where are all the men? Golfing? Playing softball? Watching the tube? Mowing the lawn? Sleeping? One place you won't find them is in church. Less than 40 percent of adults in most churches are men, and 20 to 25 percent of married churchgoing women attend without their husbands. And why are the men who do go to church so bored? Why won't they let God change their hearts?
David Murrow's groundbreaking new book reveals why men are the world's largest unreached people group. With eye-opening research and a persuasive grasp on the facts, Murrow explains the problem and offers hope and encouragement to women, pastors, and men. Why Men Hate Going to Church does not call men back to the church-it calls the church back to men.
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Studio: Thomas Nelson
Est. Packaging Dimensions: Length: 8.5" Width: 5.4" Height: 0.7" Weight: 0.5 lbs.
Release Date Apr 1, 2005
Publisher Thomas Nelson
ISBN 0785260382 ISBN13 9780785260387 UPC 020049055854
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More About David Murrow
David Murrowis an award-winning television producer and writer based in Alaska, most recently working for Alaska s most notable resident, Sarah Palin. The best-selling author of Why Men Hate Going to Church, he is also director of Church for Men, an organization that helps churches connect with men and boys. David and his wife, Gina, have three children. Visit his Web site, www.threejourneys.com."
Reviews - What do customers think about Why Men Hate Going To Church?
Where has this book been all my life? May 15, 2008
My four brothers, husband, three sons and several grandsons have caused me many prayer-filled hours regarding reluctance for church going. This book assembles the issues and encourages us to review the church model and see how it pushs men away. A must-read for any pastor, priest, deacon, elder, Sunday School teacher, song leader, mom or grandma. Jesus, like many men today, might find the modern church too feminine for the real work of dicipleship. Ladies, get a strong cup of coffee and sit down and read this book.
A SUPERB Book on Understanding Men & Their Spirituality Apr 2, 2008
David Murrow has done a first-class job in producing this book. It should be placed firmly in the hands of every male minister/pastor/priest in North America! It should also be given to the rising number of female ministers and lay ministers who do not understand men and their natural (innate/God-given) masculinity.
In Part 1 (Why Men Hate Going to Church), he explains differences between the 'masculine' and 'feminine' spirit, and why men are unwilling to check their masculinity 'at the door'. He observes, as an example, that "Modern churches are women's clubs with few male officers".
In Part 2, he examines "The Three Gender Gaps"; Presence (women attending church in greater numbers than men), Participation (women are involved in Sunday worship etc.) and Personality (But... the absence of certain personality types makes it harder to attract men to church).
In Part 3, (Understanding Men and Masculinity) he uses biology, psychology and cultural anthropology to explain men and their masculine pursuit of greatness. He rightly observes that "If any civilization is to survive and prosper, it needs men who will act like men when the need arises". In other words, he advocates a resurgence of a real/authentic masculinity, not the perpetuation of societal 'milk-toasts'.
In Part 4, (The Straws That Break Men's Hearts), he underscores the fears men have of becoming involved in churches and/or church activities, and how they are "out of touch" with the real needs of average men. He also emphasizes their unwillingness to sacrifice their masculinity (which Jesus never advocated) for the sake of a church/institution.
In Part 5 (Restoring the Masculine Spirit in the Church), he admonishes leaders, pastors and women on ways not/not to bring men TO church, but (instead) how to bring the church TO men - a powerful and challenging task! "Men follow leaders, not facilitators." And further: "Men's natural bent toward risk-taking (versus the feminine risk-aversion) and challenge can change the atmosphere in your church, making it more attractive to men."
And finally, in Part 6 (Meeting Men's Deepest Needs), he explains how important spiritual 'fathering' is to men, and how forming a "Band of Brothers" is so crucial to the attraction (and retention) men in church is. His "no guts (faith), no glory" approach is a stark challenge to church leaders throughout North America: "The church must recover its ancient, masculine voice and call men back to battle. For without men and their warrior spirit, all is lost. With bold, visionary leadership, men will be drawn to the church to take their rightful place. However, if the Church provides no such challenge for men, then they will not stay. And a Christianity without an authentic masculine presence will atrophy and die." I couldn't have said it better! Its that simple.
I Know What You Mean, Vern Mar 4, 2008
Same thing is (not) happening at our Methodist church where I'm the "retired unofficial" associate pastor. We have lots of childern, many unaccompanied wives, and older couples and singles, but few middle-aged men. This book also helped me understand why I do great in church if I'm leading the service, and why I don't respond as well as I know I should when I'm in the pews. Luckily our pastor understands some of the ideas (even though she's a young woman) and has encouraged me to come up with more ideas to increase attendance of men and college aged students of both sexes.
This is the book you need if you're serious about getting men back in church. I'll try to update this periodically with what works for us. Good luck and thanks. D Rev
When you can't see the forest for the trees . . . . Jan 4, 2008
An expression I remember from my adolescense to express frustration and confusion was 'he can't see the forest for the trees'. I think that defines what I've experienced in mainline, traditional churches for years. You sense that something is missing, but you just don't know what it is. Somehow, church and worship don't feel right, but you can't put your finger on it, and sooner or later you just stop going.
Well this book was a lot like a book I read back in the 60s by Alvin Toffler called Future Shock. He had the ability to bring current events into a focus that allowed you to see the forest as well as the trees.
Reading this book was just like that - one of those 'AHA!, THAT'S IT!' moments. Murrow hits the nail square on the head. I'm not sure (and neither is he for that matter) that all the answers are presented. But for perhaps the first time, the problem is out in the open and open for discussion.
Get it - read it - THINK! THINK! THINK!
Initiating A Start Nov 5, 2007
Having read the book and though much about its contents, I have to say this book provides the groundwork for intiating a start to correcting the problem.
If you are concerned about the lack of men in church, or more accurately, the lack of men serving the Judeo-Christian God then this book is for you. Do not read this book for a list of answers (though suggestions abound) as this is not the book for such a thing. Neither is this book something of an exhaustive explanation.
It does however, contain noteworthy perceptions about the underpinnings of the modern church and its toll on men.