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Overview Good parenting isn't only about controlling your kids' behavior---it's about winning their hearts for God! Blending practical advice with real-life child-rearing scenarios, Swan shows how to move beyond parent-child power struggles toward genuine "heart teaching." Discover creative ways to shepherd your kids toward a transforming relationship with Jesus---and build their resistance to evil.
Publishers Description Parents can have awesome relationships with their children, but it is not enough to fill them with Bible facts, verses, and demand of them certain desired behaviors - you must first capture their hearts. When a child is young, parents can impose their will. When the child is older, however, if the parent hasn't won his heart, all the force in the world will only serve to drive him farther and farther away. How can parents win the hearts of their children? It all starts with romance - exactly as God woos us. Not just another parenting book, Monte Swan takes an entirely new approach to reaching the heart of a child . . . the way of romance. Desiring to lead their children to a relationship with God through Jesus Christ, parents will learn the very best approach to open the hearts of their children. Swan teaches parents how they can enter into the world of their children and give them not only what they long for, but what they need . . . an environment of total love and security from which they can conquer the challenges life has to offer. He demonstrates how any parent can turn the tables on the world and romance the hearts of their children to the love of God. With practical advice in real-life parenting situations, Swan equips parents first with the enthusiasm for the challenge ahead and then with concrete ways to win the heart of any child.
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Monte Swan is a scientist and co-founder of MagmaChem, a research and exploration company that has developed a layered earth model in its international search for gold, copper, and oil. He is also an adjunct professor, author, recording artist and archer. Living in the Rocky Mountains, he pursues his passion for the out-of-doors (nature) through mountaineering and geology. Monte and his wife, Karey, have three grown children and speak at educational conferences. Monte is the author ofRomancing Your Child s Heart and its Manual, and Karey is the author of Hearth and Home.
Reviews - What do customers think about Romancing Your Child's Heart?
Bound to create controversy. Jun 28, 2005
I found Monte's book to be very inspiring. Far from the "old skool" cliche of "children are to be seen and not heard". I loved the fact that he included the children in on major desicions that involved them.
I believe the book and concepts to be scriptual and conveying the true essence of 'greater love has no man than to lay down his life for a friend". I could be debated that his ideas are to simple and will only lead to confused and frustrated parents, I would disagree. As a man who wants to love his children and communicate the Love he has them and for God and share with them the power of living a close relationship to God.
In our world it is good to have healthy direction and one that comes with the readability.
One I reccomend.
Intriguing but not scriptural Jun 25, 2004
I commend Monte Swan for the great investment of himself he has made in his children's lives. I am glad for him and his family that this methodology has worked well in their experience but it ignores two foundational facts that scripture teach: "Foolishness is bound up in the heart of a child" and "All men have sinned and fall short of the glory of God".
Mr. Swan recalls two episodes that required parental-directed negative consequences in a child's life: One in his own childhood and the other in his son's (when Mr. Swan took the punishment for his son). Other episodes that destroyed property or were careless were seen as the child discovering their talents and creativity. Parental responses (to be romancing your child's heart) needed to be encouraging and joining in the fun. "It brought a smile to my lips."
Mr. Swan contends that children are "naturally generous".
The other warning I have here is that the parent is instructed to provide resources to the point of sacrifice for a child's interest, even if it is temporary. This attitude could continue the self-centeredness that we are born with and it de-emphasizes God's call to be a servant. Another article I read called this the "Prince Syndrome"--we are raising children as the center of our worlds. Instead, let's view children as a valuable part of our family.
Though Mr. Swan does make some valuable points in romancing our children, his book would have been better if it had been balanced with Hebrews recount of God disciplining his sons as proof of His love.
I loved this book! Jun 22, 2004
Monte has such a refreshing view of parenting. I really savored each chapter in this book. I have to agree with the other reviewer who recommended "Shepherding Your Child's Heart" as more of a parenting "manual" for raising/disciplining children. Romancing Your Child's Heart is not a how-to manual. Instead, it reminds us to relax more, and find Joy in parenting. I highly recommend this book!
Good as a companion book only! Nov 6, 2003
Although I found the general idea of this book helpful the practical application was wanting. The title will catch you but after the first five chapters you will find it is filled far more with recollections from the authors childhood then with realistic practical application. At times this book is slightly unbelievable. This book should be read only after solid biblical child rearing is in place in your home (read Shepherding a Child's Heart). It can help to keep things balanced but without a solid foundation I fear this book could bring about other less profitable results. I can say I gained a better perspective of the need to value and take time with my children but that could have been accomplished with less enlarged portrayals of sometimes unrealistic allowances. I would recommend this book but only cautiously.
Good as a companion book only! Nov 6, 2003
Although I found the general idea of this book helpful the practical application was wanting. The title will catch you but after the first five chapters you will find it is filled far more with recollections from the authors childhood then with realistic pracical application. At times this book is slightly unbeliveable. This book should be read only after solid biblical child rearing is in place in your home (read Shepherding a Child's Heart). It can help to keep things balanced but without a solid foundation I fear this book good bring about other less profitable results. I can say I gained a better perspecitve of the need to value and take time with my children but that could have been accomplished with less enlarged portrayals of sometimes unrealistic allowances. I would recomend this book but only cautiously.