Reviews - What do customers think about The Single Sister Experiment: What Happens When Single Women Stop Having Sex (Urban Christian)?
Is it Just Me, or is the Editing Questionable? Jun 18, 2008
Although the challenges involved with three women abstaining from sex seemed very interesting, I could not read further than the second chapter of the Single Sister Experiment because of the fiction and grammatical flaws. I first became suspicious with the following sentence on page two: "Joan estimated the club had around three hundred people in it and she felt like each one of them were staring at her. This became true when...." "This became true...." sounded really awkward to me, but I brushed it off and continued to read until I bumped into a sentence on the very next page that violated so many rules that I couldn't ignore it: "But before you becoming a patch, she had to start acting like one." This sentence started in first person, "becoming" threw off the tense, and it ended in third person. Then on page eight, the character, Joan, was in a "pitch-black auditorium" with some women who were screaming. Why were they screaming? Were monsters after them? No. Everyone just seemed to be overacting. The writer also mentioned that some women were shaking. How could her character tell that the women were shaking when the auditorium was pitch-black? Page nine read: "No longer able to keep her composure, Joan leaped out of her seat and yelled.... `Lady, I don't know who you are and I don't care,' Joan said." That passage sort of had an annoying redundancy about it. After Joan jumped out of her seat, was it really necessary to add that she yelled? Was it really necessary to further add, "she said"? The author indicated three times that this character was speaking! Mimi Jefferson seems to be a pretty decent writer, but I was surprised that the editors didn't catch all these errors in only the first two chapters. Although I would have really been interested in finding out how this novel turned out, the unsatisfactory editing gave me a bumpy and exasperating reading experience that made it impossible to finish this novel.
But there was something I did appreciate about the Single Sister Experiment. I found that the storyline was genius. In a world where people can't seem to realize that many of their problems stem from premarital sex, I find books on sexual abstinence refreshing.
A Must Read Sep 17, 2007
This book is an excellent read for all females ages 13 and up. This is also a good book for group studies, Singles Ministries, and ladies night out discussions. I highly recommend this book for anyone in a relationship, short term or long term, or just coming out of one. Mimi has done a wonderful job in capturing what single women have to face on a daily basis. May God continue to Bless her and I am looking forward to the next book.
Let's talk about sex Sep 4, 2007
I thought the book was a good, easy read. It really makes you think about some things. What would really happen if single women stopped having sex? Can you just imagine how things would change? We as women really do teach men how to treat us. We wonder why brothers don't do this or don't do that. Oftentimes, we as single women are doing everything that a married woman would do - but without the commitment. Why are we putting ourselves in that situation? As MiMi talks about in this book, there could be some deep issues some women have yet to face. This book brings out some things that so many women are dealing with. The sad part is a lot of women don't want to face their mess, so they choose to put their head in the sand and continue to let guys treat them any kind of way. I'm sure we all could see ourselves in one of these characters. Another thing is the fact that we are impatient and don't want to wait on God.
Psalm 37:4 tells us to "Delight ourselves in the Lord and He will give us the desires of our heart." There are other things God expects of us as well... Maybe God just wants us to develop our trust in Him. Or better yet... develop that much needed relationship with Him. We won't die if we don't have sex. Had we never had sex outside of marriage we wouldn't know what we were missing anyway. I know what you are saying... easier said than done, right? Well, I always ask people this question: If someone offered you drugs, would you be adamant about not accepting it? Why can't we treat sex the same way? Hey, I'm not saying it will be easy.
I had the privilege of attending a book review with MiMi recently and we had a WONDERFUL time talking about how she came up with the idea and just discussing our views on the characters. This book is definitely worthy of more discussion. I urge you all to buy this book and recommend it to others. Let's openly discuss this issue. The subject is definitely not taboo.
If you wished someone had talked to you about waiting before you had sex and told you more than just not to do it, then you owe it to the girls coming behind you to inform them. Let's get real with these girls. Hey, if they listen that's wonderful. If not, then you've done your job.
I commend the author for writing this book and look forward to the next phase....If you are ready to do some self-evaluation and really deal with yourself, this is the book for you.
Excellent Book For Teaching Aug 15, 2007
When I began this book, I found it hard to put it down. Not only is it well written, but it speaks of women today with their urban lifestyles and how we put God on the back burner. Once I finished the book, I wished I had read it years ago and made a concrete decision to follow God. It's truly not that hard, but we make it hard when we want to keep one foot in the world and the other in God's footprint. I feel every girl should be made to read this book before she reaches puberty; every young adult female should read this book; and every adult female should read this book. This book should become the handbook for every female ministry in our churches today as a way of teaching our women that they ARE worthy of being Queens and need to keep themselves celibate until they meet their Prince.
AN EXPERIMENT WORTH EVALUATING Aug 15, 2007
Author Mimi Jefferson's novel, "The Single Sister Experiment", was an eye-opener for me in many ways. A blend of hard-hitting fiction that convicts the reader to take a good look at his/her own life, with just a dollop of fantasy thrown in, wrapped up tightly with the certain surety that our Lord and Savior's ways are indeed "better than man's ways", "The Single Sister Experiment reminds us that many of our life choices are made by default; the loss of a parent at an early age, the pain we suffer as a result of our poor choices....each of these experiences leave their mark upon our spirits and we find ourselves spinning in a circle, unable to break free of the bonds that tether us to our pain.
"The Single Sister Experiment" reminds us that each day is a new day, and that while good intentions may carry us for a certain distance, they alone aren't enough. We must first seek our Savior and commit to making serious changes in our lives, recognizing that He waits to gently help us return to Him when we fail.
If you're looking for an impactful, sometimes unsettling read, this is a great book. Ms. Jefferson is brutally honest about the road Christian women often find themselves walking in search of fulfillment in life, and is equally honest about the degree to which traveling this particular road is a journey in disillusionment and heartache.