Item description for Stop Clutter from Stealing Your Life: Discover Why You Clutter and How You Can Stop by Mike Nelson & David Elias...
Clutter can destroy self-esteem and relationships, contribute to financial problems, and even lead to unemployment. Stop Clutter From Stealing Your Life gives you the practical advice you need to de-clutter your life and get yourself on the path to recovery.
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Format: Abridged, Audiobook
Studio: Listen & Live Audio
Running Time: 180.00 minutes
Est. Packaging Dimensions: Length: 8.82" Width: 7.52" Height: 0.83" Weight: 0.25 lbs.
Binding Audio Cassette
Release Date Dec 1, 2002
Publisher Listen & Live Audio
ISBN 1885408919 ISBN13 9781885408914
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More About Mike Nelson & David Elias
Mike Nelson was born in Loughborough in 1967. Since his first solo exhibition in Glasgow in 1994, he has had a dozen solo shows in the United Kingdom and Europe, including at the ICA London. He has participated in the British Art Show 5 and the 2001 Venice Biennale, and was nominated for the 2001 Turner Prize.
Mike Nelson currently resides in Los Angeles, in the state of California.
Reviews - What do customers think about Stop Clutter from Stealing Your Life: Discover Why You Clutter and How You Can Stop?
Especially helpful for those with a real problem and not just needing some tips and tricks Sep 19, 2008
This book really fills a niche that other books on cluttering aren't covering. What do you do if you are a person with a real clutter problem - a problem that needs more help than just a few pithy tips on how to organize or some guidelines on what to toss? This is the book for you.
I think the biggest value of this book comes from the situations and people who are presented that you might recognize yourself in, and the advice on what they did and what you might do if you are hanging onto your clutter for one of these reasons.
This book walks you through a real process of discovery, if you let it, and if you follow the steps you will change your life.
I'd recommend this book if you feel you have a real problem with clutter that goes beyond things just getting away from you. Start with this book so you can begin the process of untangling your emotions around this issue, then move on to It's All Too Much for some games and tips for how to begin going through your things.
I read this book because I enjoy things and my partner is a clutterbug, so I was looking for tips that would make me feel inspired to declutter and maybe some help for how to live with or organize my partner's things. It didn't help me much with that, but what is here is much deeper and is sure to be of value to the right people. When the people I love who have this problem are ready to tackle it, I will be ready to share this bok with them in a loving way.
Admit you have a problem. Sep 6, 2008
I wanted to read this book because I thought it might give me some ideas about coaching others on how to organize their lives and businesses. I never even considered that I myself might be a clutterer, but the more I read STOP CLUTTER FROM STEALING YOUR LIFE by Mike Nelson, the more I came to realize there are areas even in my life where I have allowed clutter to take over.
When my wife and I married 8 years ago, I had a house full of stuff, she had a house full of stuff, and now we have a two and a half car garage full of stuff. 8 years! This book has made me realize it's well past time to take action and rid our lives of some of this stuff we will never use! I also found many other useful ideas such as better organizing my own office, even finding ways to make better use of our closet space.
Clutter is all around us. This book will help you get things under control again. It's the old AA mantra of first admitting you have a problem. Often things we don't even realize put our lives into a state of turmoil. For instance, after reading this book, I realized when returning home from a business trip, it takes me much longer to unpack (sometimes up to a week) than it took me to pack! Putting something like that off just disrupts our lives.
There's a lot of information here. Some you will find useful, some not so much. But there is no doubt you will find something that applies to you and ways to make your life or business run smoother.
Lots of helpful information Aug 6, 2008
This book is different from other decluttering books in that it focuses on finding balance in your life and helps you get to the root of problem. This way you begin to become healthy instead of just throwing your junk away and later accumulating more.
I've discovered my need to keep stuff around, particularly books, knitting supplies and old clothes, stems way back to my childhood when my mom threw away my stationary, sticker, toy & book collection. Often I'd come home from school to find my stuff gone, either given away to a cousin or friend or thrown in the trash, because she went on a crazed cleaning frenzy while I was away. This makes sense to me but I never put two and two together until reading this book. Fortunately this is one of the easier "causes" of cluttering to overcome (especially since I dealt with mom issues years ago), unlike compulsive shoppers or people with serious depression, anxiety or OCD conditions which I'm thinking this book won't do much in the way of helping without some therapy and medication.
This book gives me hope that if I can just do a little at a time, he recommends working in 15 minute increments, one day all of the junk will be gone and I will actually be able to park my car in the garage!
The one section that I disagreed with is the one about dealing with clutter you may one day inherit. The author recommends confronting your parents, grandma, etc. and pretty much forcing them into weeding through and getting rid of their junk (with your help, of course) so you don't have to deal with it later. To me that sounds so invasive if not insulting. Getting rid of your junk has to be a personal decision you make, not forced upon you by someone else and the author is a bit contradictory here. I'd rather hire one of those gotjunk places and have them haul it away instead of alienating and offending my relatives to save me some work when they die.
There's a bunch of info. here for businesses dealing with clutterbugs and home office clutter, etc. that I didn't find particularly useful because I am strangely organized at work but I'm sure it would be helpful for others.
A big bulk of the book focuses on the emotional issues which cause clutter and features true stories written by real people struggling with their clutter problem. I don't know about you but it sure makes me feel less strange to know there are others out there who have more clutter than me!
This book is jam packed with information and is a very helpful starting point for those just beginning their decluttering lifestyle change. And as the book states many times, it is a lifestyle change.
Help! I'm drowning in my stuff and I can't get up! Jul 30, 2008
Mike Nelson writes, "Whatever your religious affiliation, you'll find something that will help you get closer to your God through decluttering." (p. 189)
He's not kidding around, and by golly, I believe him. If cleanliness is close to Godliness, as we have been taught, then neat and organized is at least saintly.
Personally I think Nelson is on to something profound. He opens the book with these words of wisdom: "This book is about more than just decluttering. It's about balance. A cluttered household is an unbalanced household. It's about not recluttering. It's about not having to buy more and more stuff to fill a hole in our souls. It's about learning what's really important in our lives and not using stuff to hide from life. People and pets are important; stuff is not...."
Nelson digs deeper into clutter than I thought humanly possible. Frankly I'm amazed. He asks first of all, "Are You a Clutter?" (Chapter 1). He makes a distinction between "hoarding" and "cluttering." "...[H]oarding is more dramatic...If you're a hoarder, it's unlikely that even a book as good as this one, by itself, is going to help you much...A clutter's mental attic at least has more lights on, so you can see your way around the boxes of mental eddies." He adds, "Hoarding is a medical diagnosis. Cluttering is a layman's term." He quotes John P. Zak, who is a psychiatrist, to the effect that the distinctions are not entirely clear, but "A hoarder finds it very difficult to get rid of the stuff without the occurrence of severe distress unless it is done in a very systematic, well-planned-out, therapeutic approach." (p. 143)
I would like myself to make a distinction between cluttering and polluting. Cluttering only messes up our own lives and those who have to live with or very near us. Pollution can destroy far and wide. So relax, fellow clutterer, you are not a polluter, at least not in my view. By the way, I'm known as neat, but I know the hidden truth: you should see the files on my computer!
Nelson gets down to the nitty-gritty of getting rid of clutter in Chapter 4 "40 Ways to Leave Your Clutter" (with no apologies to Paul Simon, or to those used to an ordinary 12-step program). First there is kindness and understanding in the guidance: "Be kind to yourself...Start small. Make small, reachable goals...Your goal is to have a home where you feel comfortable...Think locally, not globally. Try decluttering in 15-minute increments...." (pp. 54-55)
One gets the sense that Nelson has been up against it for a long, long time (and he has). But is he getting soft? Well, no. Consider some more of the 40 ways: "Make cluttering an area you've decluttered a crime in your house...Shopping is not a sport. The less you buy, the less you have to declutter...You're allowed to have more than one shredder...Never, ever, ever, ever give up. I have enough faith in you for both of us." (pp. 55-57)
Here's an answer to the joke question, "how do you know you're a redneck?" "The new TV sits on top of the old TV." More probably this could be a clutter joke-on-the-square. I've seen it, and I've heard the excuses for it. "Better height this way. The new TV isn't broken in yet. You never know..."
Nelson understands all this and a lot, lot more. There's even a chapter on "OPC--Other People's Clutter." You think you're doing your surviving relatives a favor by leaving all that junk to them so they can go through it after you're dead? Forget it. You are just giving them a burden. Nelson emphasizes that it can be very emotionally painful for your loved ones to go through all that junk. Shape up and ship it out before you go-go.
Chapter 7 is on paper clutter, and paper clutter leads to computer filing, and yes, you can be (I am! I've already confessed) a file clutterer and an email clutterer
I'm going to work on it. I promise. Yahoo gives me unlimited space (ah, the riches), so why should I delete a single email? Well, because I can't find anything. Nelson's advice is succinct: "Read, respond, delete." (p. 225)
Chapter 7 also includes a little multiple choice test to find out what kind of learner you are, so you'll know how to go about learning to clean up the clutter. I'm a "D," a logical learner with A (visual) tendencies. C's (emotional learners) declare, "I can't breathe. I'm drowning in clutter." D's state firmly that they'll start "at the left corner of my desk and work to the right." Yeah, but how about the procrastinator learners?
Nelson also guides us on how to live with clutterers. He makes this salient point (among many others): "Cluttering is about control. In a household with a clutterer and non-clutterers, the clutter always wins." (p. 162) He adds, "For clutters married to each other, each one sees the other's clutter as "a real mess," and will be sure to point that out." (p. 163)
Dang! This is a good book! I could go on and on. Fortunately this site has a word limit... Well, one more thing. Nelson ends the book with affirmations and promises. Here's one of the best for clutterers: "I live in a clutter-free environment, mentally, spiritually, and emotionally." (p. 245)
Not your typical de-clutter book... Jul 25, 2008
Stop Clutter From Stealing Your Life Mike Nelson ISBN: 978-1-60163-008-7 New Page Books, 2008 Reviewed by Debra Gaynor for ReviewYourBook.com, 07/2008 Not your typical de-clutter book... 4 stars I have read a lot of de-clutter and organize-your-home-and-life books. Stop Clutter is different. The focus of this book is on why we hoard and clutter our lives. Nike Nelson is the founder and executive director of Clutterless Recovery Groups. He delves into the why we clutter and why we hoard. The difference between a hoarder and a person that clutters is distinct. A hoarder "can't tell trash from things of value." A person that clutters has a "this might come in handy later" attitude. Stop Clutter is a must read book if you are or know a person that clutters or hoards. It helped me to understand the behavior of others. The information within the pages of Stop Clutter is insightful. If you need a book to help you organize your home, look elsewhere. Nelson does not tell you how to organize your home, but does help you to understand why you behave the way you do.