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Overview Reading Your Male: An Invitation to Understand and Influence Your Mans Sexuality
There is a crisis today among Christian men in the area of sexual sin. Wives, girlfriends, and mothers know this and want to help-they just don't know how. Mary Farrar illuminates to women men's innermost feelings, exposes the dichotomy in male/female communication, and shows that women can play an active role in this ongoing battle. There's also advice for single women who want to relate to single men, and mothers of boys will find a strong chapter about the role they play in the healthy sexual development of their sons. With up-to-date psychological research, Reading Your Male is an indispensable resource, equipping a woman to fight wisely and effectively alongside her man in the ongoing struggle against sexual sin.
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Studio: David C. Cook
Est. Packaging Dimensions: Length: 8.8" Width: 5.9" Height: 0.9" Weight: 0.9 lbs.
Release Date Feb 1, 2009
Publisher David C. Cook
ISBN 1434768716 ISBN13 9781434768711
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More About Mary Farrar
Mary Farrar attended Western Baptist Seminary and Dallas Theological Seminary. She previously served on the staff for Campus Crusade for Christ and worked in women's ministry for several years. Mary and Steve often speak together at couples' conferences around the nation.
Mary Farrar currently resides in Dallas, in the state of Texas.
Reviews - What do customers think about Reading Your Male: An Invitation to Understand and Influence Your Man's Sexuality?
Meaty material, at times too dense Jan 23, 2010
It took me almost a year to read this book... partly because it is meaty, and partly because it would get dull or too dense and I had to take a break and then was reluctant to pick it back up again.
The main points of the book are to understand male sexuality from a psychological and spiritual viewpoint, then to learn how wives and mothers can help their husbands/sons to be sexually healthy and pure. Along the way, there are several side branches that can be distracting even though they are educational. The table of contents is a very good representation of the topics covered in the book: how women can be helpful to their men, understanding manliness and how pornography is so dangerous to men, understanding how men think and feel and how they view love and sex, and how to grow true connection between you and your spouse. Well worth reading for women who are engaged/married and/or are raising sons. Because there is so much meaty material, this book would make an excellent book for a women's discussion group.
Misled by the title Oct 21, 2009
When I saw the title of this book, I thought, "Oh wow, a book that will explain male sexuality to me." Well, I must say that I was rather disappointed.
The book talks about the power of women in men's lives, the power of pornography in men's lives, accountability and more. It talks around men's sexuality, and what a Christian woman should do in interacting with Christian men, but it never really does dive into male sexuality. As such, while it may be an invitation to understand man's sexuality, it isn't a help in understanding it.
What the book is is a book for Christian women in dealing with Christian men. I would say that the book hits its target, and in that respect it isn't a bad book. But, as for me, I felt rather misled by the title and disappointed with the book.
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Hard to read, could not finish. Many unsubstantiated claims. Jun 19, 2009
The author of this book obviously has a great deal of life-experience and a willingness to learn from those around her. She is also a very educated woman, but her perspective is limited. Mrs. Farrar makes a few good points, but takes a long time getting to them. She cites some interesting facts and research, but little of it is actually pertinent to the subject she is dealing with. Most is relevent to a platform on which she makes a parallel case to the subject. It would have been better to print more research of direct correlation to the subject at hand. She makes some good suggestions about helping men to be "men" and delineates some God-given differences in male and female behavior and how to address those differences in raising children. She makes an excellent point about the need to raise boys to be men, rather than "feminizing" them and teaching them to be more like women. That particular chapter was fascinating. The one factor that I found repeatedly annoying was that few of her points were based on fact, research or scripture, but the majority of it was based upon converstations with people in her immediate circle of influence and her own husband and sons. Many young women reading this books would not be able to related to Mrs. Farrar because of some generational differences in sexual perspective. Some have said that she discouraged women from "initiating" because it was the "man's role" to do so. This is not accurate. She makes a very good case that the man is God-wired to be more sexually driven and that he should be the primary initator in most cases, but she does not state that a woman should never initiate. Some other Christian authors on the same subject have stated differently, that a woman taking the initiative is an excellent way to make a husband feel that the interest is mutual rather than tolerated. However, I would add to this that lighting candles or wearing an intriguing piece of lingerie would communicate interest rather clearly. Overall, she does make a few good points, but I would not recommend this as a first read on Christian sexuality. There are many better books out there that draw more heavily on fact than experience and relate a little more closely to younger readers. That said, I hope that Mrs. Farrar takes another chance as an author because she obviously has potential.
This Guy Recommends it for the Ladies Jun 19, 2009
Disclaimer: you probably won't like this book if a) you're not a conservative leaning Jew or Christian, or b) if you're an anti-essentialist feminist.
Farrar seeks to provide here an essentialist's perspective on male sexuality. Essetialism in this case means that men have particular qualities that make them essentially male (with the same being true of women, respectively). In my understanding, much modern feminist thought would have a big problem with that.
Farrar also writes from a conservative Christian vantage point after having studied sexuality for a number of years. She does seem to endorse a complimentarian perspective on male and female roles in family and church life which I would personally take issue with. However, I don't think that this labels her as an "extremist" (as some have tagged this book). In fact, though I differ in how I interpret the Bible regarding male/female leadership in family and church, I find Farrar's arguments respectful and affirming of the dignity of women.
As for the actual advice on sexuality, as a male I celebrate greater understanding between spouses that thinkers like Farrar can provide. In my experience as a husband and pastor, I regularly encounter couples who seem to struggle for a sense of understanding between the sexes. For that greater understanding, this book is worth checking out.
Better than I expected but not as good as it could have been May 28, 2009
If you've read any Christian books on the differences between male and female, you'll find precious little to interest you in this one. I was disappointed that the author left out the effects of contraception on marriage and did not include any of the wonderful writings of John Paul II on human sexuality. A shame, really, because there is much good to be found in them... they've revolutionized my own marriage.
Overall, the book is decent. I read the first few chapters and skimmed through the rest. As I stated, little here that I haven't seen before.