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Overview The author of the acclaimed book "Listening for God" shares her personal story of releasing her own shame and embarking on a life of freedom, forgiveness, and truth.
Publishers Description Do you ever berate yourself over minor happenings? Do you feel unworthy and wonder why God would love you? Do you struggle to overcome memories of verbal, emotional, or physical abuse? If so, you may be suffering from unhealthy shame--which, if not corrected, can produce bitterness and negativity in your life. From the author of the acclaimed book Listening for God comes the life-transforming book Shame Lifter, based on author Marilyn Hontz's personal story of releasing her own shame and embarking instead on a life of freedom, forgiveness, and truth.
Community Description Shame Lifter
By Marilyn Hontz
Dimensions: 5 12 x 8 14
From the author of the acclaimed book "Listening for God" -- Item Number 9603
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Studio: Tyndale House Publishers, Inc.
Est. Packaging Dimensions: Length: 7.62" Width: 6.28" Height: 0.66" Weight: 0.5 lbs.
Release Date Mar 1, 2009
Publisher Tyndale House Publishers
ISBN 1414318960 ISBN13 9781414318967 UPC 031809118962
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More About Marilyn Hontz
Marilyn Hontz is the longtime prayer partner of Shirley Dobson and a pastor's wife. She speaks at conferences around the country about prayer and has been featured on Focus on the Family. She and her husband, Paul, head pastor of 3,500 member Central Wesleyan Church in Holland, Michigan, have five children.
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Well done! Nov 13, 2009
This book really catches your attention. With each chapter it becomes more interesting and I couldn't put the book down! Marilyn, the author, makes herself vulnerable and touchable as you read. While this book is written with a Christian faith focus, it's not offensive to the non-Christian who is open-minded. This book is so good that even my agnostic friends are buying more copies to give to others. I think anyone who has had shame from harm done to them in the past can relate to this book and gain a lot of healing. Marilyn does such a great job at helping you be part of her life and her healing, like you know her personally, and she walks you through the process of healing so you can come to the place of peace she has experienced.
Shame Lifter ~ Both Revealing and Helpful Sep 11, 2009
Perfect for : Personal Use
In a nutshell: In Shame Lifter, Marilyn has written a very revealing and helpful book about how to discover the things in your life that have created a feeling of shame, which may result in feelings of inadequacy and fear. Not only does she help you to discover things that have contributed to these feelings, she gives you the tools to help understand how to heal from them! This is a great book to read for yourself, as well as to share with others.
Extended Review: I am a perfectionist, and yet I never feel done. My husband would laugh at this statement, as he sees a completely different side of me - the one where I can completely overwhelm myself because I don't think I know what I'm doing, or that there is no way I can do it correctly. As I began to read Shame Lifter, I realized that according to Marilyn's description of a shame-based perspective on life (described in the introduction): I'm always afraid that what I do will not be good enough, that people won't like me, that I will forget to mention something important, etc. While I've always assumed these faults were based on a lack of confidence, the author points out that these are traits of shame. At some point in my life, I must have done something (probably many somethings that added up) that made me feel shame. As I think back, I was never the most popular girl in school, I felt bad if I missed a word during a spelling contest, etc - I think the early years of school can either build you up, or really make you weary.
As I continued to read through the book, I found that I could relate in little ways to a lot of the things that Marilyn was sharing. Then I found inspiration and clarity in the questions at the end of each chapter, and the Shame Lifter activities.
I think that a lot of being able to change is understanding how we became what we are, and then having a goal of what we want to be - and this book is the perfect companion to accomplish this. I really hadn't given much thought to the things that have sculpted me over the years to create the woman that I am today, I am very proud of some things, and have discovered that I will be even happier if I stop ignoring the fact that the fear of rejection or making a mistake was holding me back from fully experiencing life.
Now that I am more aware, I can continue to re-visit some of the chapters that were more relevant to my life and heal by going through the questions and Shame Lifter Activities. I also plan to share this book with some of the people in my life.
Content: Marilyn has written a very good introduction that explains how Shame Lifer came about, and what it is. She then has eleven chapters that focus on different things. Then she has a Father's Love Letter (p. 185) where she has shared many inspirational scriptures, and finally there is an appendix section with some really helpful information.
Format: In each chapter, Marilyn uses an example from her life to illustrate the main points. (She includes pertinent scriptures throughout the book where appropriate.) Each main chapter ends with a series of questions to help you make discoveries of your own, then a few Shame Lifter activities to help you heal, or allow you to help someone else heal. Finally, there is a prayer at the end of each chapter.
Readability: The book was very easy to read and understand.
Overall: A wonderfully helpful book for anyone experiencing fear, shame, guilt, etc, or for someone who wants to help others experiencing shame. The book does help you find the truth and change your fears into hope. I plan to share this book with a lot of people in my life. Hopefully some will find comfort and hope, and others will be inspired to help others by becoming Shame Lifters.
A bit too autobiographical Aug 22, 2009
This book certainly has some helpful information, but I felt it was a bit too autobiographical. If your situation (like mine) is relatively different from the author's personal story, some parts of the book will likely not feel useful/applicable. However, the author offers some really good insights, and the book is worth reading, if you can stand slogging through the less helpful parts.
Excellent book Jul 12, 2009
Marilyn Hontz explains the sources of shame and how to find freedom by mixing this information into the story of her personal journey from shame to freedom. There are sections at the end of each chapter with questions and scripture to help the reader apply what was learned.
While the book does seem to be somewhat slanted toward a female audience, the information can be used by anyone. The book is easy to read and easy to understand. The points made in the book are in line with what the Bible teaches and are often backed up by specific scriptures.
The first half of the book focuses on humans and their behavior--identifying the source of your shame, how your actions can lift shame from others, recognizing a shame-giver and how their words affect you, and how guilt becomes shame.
The second half of the book is Christ-focused and teaches on forgiveness, depending on God, discovering the truth of our identity in Christ and how God sees us, and the many ways God brings healing into our lives. (Yes, she tells us various things we can do, but the focus is still on Christ.)
I'd highly recommend this book to anyone, even those who don't personally deal with toxic shame. Quite likely, you know someone who is in bondage to shame, and this book can help you know how to help them.
Reviewed by ChristFocus Book Club
Shame Lifter: Replacing your Fears and Tears with Forgiveness Jul 7, 2009
The book seems fine and helpful, I just did not expect that it was based on religion.