Item description for Should I Get Married?: A Guide for Seeking & Giving Direction by M. Blaine Smith...
Overview IVP Print On Demand Title Are your ready for marriage? Are you physically, spiritually and emotionally compatible? What if making such a big commitment scares you? How do you find God's will in all this? These are crucial questions that evey man or woman asks. And they deserve our best thinking. In this revised edition M. Blaine Smith draws from his own experience and his years of counceling singles and couples and takes a refreshingly candid, open-hearted look at these issues, helping men and women think through the important disisions concerning marriage.
Publishers Description A Campus Life 1990 Book of the Year Here's an indispensable book for any Christian contemplating marriage or seeking guidance in finding a life partner. Drawing from personal experience and his years of counseling singles and couples, Blaine Smith takes a refreshingly candid and openhearted stance as he helps you think through these and other questions: Are the two of you compatible? Are your expectations realistic? Should dating be part of the courtship process? What if one of you has been divorced? How can you deal with the fear of commitment? How do you find God's will in all this? This revised edition tackles the tough questions single Christians face today in a culture that often idolizes personal fulfillment and devalues marriage commitment. Smith's common-sense approach, informed by biblical principles, debunks myths about marriage while offering wise counsel on marriage versus singleness, friendship and dating, compatibility, expectations, fear, problem-solving, communication and compassion.
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Studio: IVP Books
Est. Packaging Dimensions: Length: 8.5" Width: 5.5" Height: 0.47" Weight: 0.59 lbs.
Release Date Nov 5, 2000
Publisher IVP-InterVarsity Press
ISBN 0830822712 ISBN13 9780830822713
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More About M. Blaine Smith
M. Blaine Smith (M.Div., Wesley Theological Seminary; D.Min., Fuller Theological Seminary) is an ordained Presbyterian minister who lectures widely on topics of guidance and God's will, Christian living, and personal growth. A frequent guest on Christian radio programs, Smith has also appeared twice on The 700 Club. His lectures have been recorded for Guidance by the Book, part of a home-study course produced by the Christian Broadcasting Network. In 1978 Smith founded Nehemiah Ministries with the goal of "helping Christians understand God's guidance in their lives and realize their personal potential." The organization's bimonthly newsletter, seminars, articles, books (many of them available from InterVarsity Press) and website have benefited many Christians around the world!
Reviews - What do customers think about Should I Get Married??
Best book on marriage i have read Aug 2, 2006
I have read a handful of other Christian books on dating and marriage, but this is definetely the best - it is real, practical, spiritual, and has a lot of sound advice. If you are considering marriage or wanting to get married, get this book and read it through, you wont be disappointed. It is definetely different from other books on this topic, thankfully. This book is written from a Christian perspective, therefore if you are not Christian, this might not be the book for you, nevertheless it does have some good talk about background, expectations, and common interests to discuss. AAAOOOOOOO
Gentle Realism Feb 28, 2006
Although I was very near making a decision to say, "Yes!", I'm glad I was able to read this book first. It confirmed my feelings of going forward with marrying this man. It addressed those issues I was struggling with and helped me realize I was not unique or extreme in my fears. What a relief!
I offered this book to him to read, too, and he had a similar reaction. What is very interesting and a testament to Blaine Smith's ability to clearly address the topic is that while my fiance and I are seniors and have been both widowed, the advice and information was as relevant to us as to the "first-timers".
Gentle though it's approach, this book can bring a dose of realism to your choice to marry.
Excellent advice from an experienced counsellor Mar 3, 2005
Written from a Christian perspective, this little gem is chock-full of great tips for making the BIG decisions about whether to get married and if so, how to know to whom we should get married and when. Blaine Smith gives good illustrations from his own life and ministry, to show faith steps you can take in the process of this decision. He sets specific criteria to be considered, shows ways God guides your choices, and how to tell if you're at the place in the relationship where you can make an informed decision. The steps he sets out in this book are so helpful when considering one of the most important decisions we make in this life.
The best advice I found was to "get council" from 3 respected sources and to "take a personal retreat". (There are even instructions about how to pray during this time away.) Smith gives wise council about keeping your relationship with Jesus strong while earnestly praying that He'd show you who is the spouse He desires for you.
I found this book very encouraging as I processed this information in light of the relationships I know about! The Lord put Should I get Married? in my hands for such a time as this.
It's ok Feb 26, 2003
I received this book several days ago and read through it with great zeal after all the excellent reviews it received. This book generally seems to be intended for 2 audiences: the young contemplating marriage; and the slightly older contemplating re-marriage. Well, I fall somewhere in the middle, in territory that either wasn't touched on or was barely glazed over. I've lived with my boyfriend for several years and am at the point that I'd like to get married (he's indifferent to the idea), and was hoping that there would be something in this book to help me navigate the waters that I now find myself in. In true "good Christian" form this author doesn't even touch the subject of couples living together without benefit of matrimony. It's obvious that my boyfriend and I both have commitment issues, which this author dedicates a whole chapter to, but there's nowhere to go from there. He advocates keeping a positive attitude and keeping marriage a goal in your life, if you truly decide that it's what you want, whether you're actually with the person you're going to walk down the aisle with or not. He also suggests praying for the significant other rather than shove bridal magazines under his nose. Both of those points are excellent advice in my opinion. When it all comes down to it, the only person you can do anything about is you. The author, a seemingly devout singleton, is rather indifferent towards marriage, he gives encouragement for both sides (marrieds/singles) both from personal counseling experience and Biblical references. As I said before, this is an ok book, but life isn't always as cut and dried as this book makes it sound, especially for those of us who became Christians later in life than others and are still dealing with choices they made pre-Christian.
essential reading Jul 8, 2000
When I was having difficulty deciding if my now-husband was the "right" person for me, I searched for answers from family, friends, and prayer. I believe that prayer and my persistence led me to M. Blaine Smith's books. Even though his "Yes Anxiety" title covers making wise decisions in several different areas, his insight into relationships is remarkable. I read "Should I get married?" after it. During courtship and engagement, I held onto these two titles and referred to them constantly. I learned so much about myself and what love and long-lasting marriage should be! I had been ambivalent and at times unsure as to what I should do about the prospect of marriage, even after I became engaged, and I spent many hours pouring over these two books. The most important thing that I learned is that NO ONE can be absolutely sure about any decision they make - with the help of family, friends, and reliance on God and belief that He wants the very best for you, you can make a decision and stick to it. I was able to make one of the most important decisions in my life because of the important lessons I learned from Smith's knowledge. As some people have mentioned in their reviews, yes, these books are written from a CHRISTIAN perspective, and the author is clear about that. If you are not a Christian, you may not find much here unless you open your mind to the many truths stated. For Christian singles - please read the two books that I've mentioned in this review. I truly believe that they will be of as much benefit to you as they have been to me. Thank you, Mr. Smith, for helping a very confused young lady make a change in her life - marriage to a man who is not only her husband, but her very, very best friend!