Item description for First-Time Mom: Getting Off on the Right Foot from Birth to First Grade by Kevin Leman...
Overview For new mothers who feel nervous about the role of parenthood, Dr. Leman puts them at ease with this guide. Affirming their joy, wonder, and fear Dr. Leman prepares mothers for this influential task by sharing the essentials of child-raising, including the personality traits and typical interactions they can expect to have with their first child.
Publishers Description If you feel nervous about this new role of parenthood (and who wouldn't?), Dr. Kevin Leman will put you at ease. While affirming your joy, wonder, and fear, "First-Time Mom" prepares you for this influential task by sharing the essentials of child-raising, including the personality traits and typical interactions you can expect to have with your first child. Now available in softcover.
Promise Angels is dedicated to bringing you great books at great prices. Whether you read for entertainment, to learn, or for literacy - you will find what you want at promiseangels.com!
Studio: Tyndale House Publishers, Inc.
Est. Packaging Dimensions: Length: 8.3" Width: 5.54" Height: 0.64" Weight: 0.65 lbs.
Release Date Jan 1, 2005
Publisher Tyndale House Publishers
ISBN 0842360395 ISBN13 9780842360395
Availability 0 units.
More About Kevin Leman
El Dr. Kevin Leman es un psicologo reconocido internacionalmente, autor galardonado, una personalidad de la radio y la television, y un orador que ha ensenado y entretenido a miles alrededor del mundo con su ingenio y su estilo de psicologia. Es el fundador y presidente de Couples of Promise (Parejas de Compromiso), una organizacion disenada y dedicada a ayudar a las parejas a permanecer felizmente casadas. El doctor Leman y su esposa, Sande, viven en Tucson, Arizona. Tienen cinco hijos y dos nietos.
Kevin Leman currently resides in Tuscon, in the state of Arizona.
Reviews - What do customers think about First Time Mom?
Read with discretion... Nov 29, 2006
This book does offer some sound advice, but one must sift through the pages with incredible jurisdiction. Here are some red flags, the first of which caused me to stop reading the book:
1. Dr. Leman makes the point that women should strive to resume a sex life as soon as possible in order to maintain marital bonds. While resuming intercourse is of course important, he asserts that this can occur as soon as bleeding stops, which may be as little as 14 days. This is horrifying advice! Standard medical advice for resuming intercourse is in the ballpark of six weeks. Many doctors even encourage a postpartum exam in advance. Isn't it just as important [for a marriage] for a husband to be patient in allowing his wife to physically and emotionally recover? Yes, he's likely gone without, but wasn't the reward worth it? A woman has just endured nine months of carrying a child, accompanied by a massive physical trauma. For his wife's sake, he can just DEAL for a couple of months! It's not like she's asking him to be permanently celibate.
2. Many points Dr. Leman makes seem terribly counter-intuitive, like allowing a baby to fuss so that s/he doesn't develop a habit of doing so to meet his/her needs. As fussing is one of few means for an infant to communicate, this advice, to me, makes little sense. I personally want my baby to know he can trust me.
3. The author so frequently uses the word "hedonistic" in reference to children that I began to wonder if there wasn't an innate power struggle at play.
4. Dr. Leman is indeed a God fearing man and makes many references to this fact. This may leave those of non-Christian values a little cold.
5. This is definitely not the book for any mother hoping to return to work in any fashion. While he says that he doesn't want any woman to feel guilty, this seems like lip service. It is very judgemental. He indicates that in his early career he was able to support his family on a modest income...which in the 1980's was not so modest at all. Beware.
6. It is very difficult to discern the science of psychology and personal opinion. I am not a psychologist, but fear that Dr. Leman passes off many of his personal views as sound practice. I wish he had cited some of his information.
Warning: Never read a "first time moms" book written by a man.. Sep 19, 2006
I should have known not to read a book about First Time Moms written by a man - psychologist or not. He has a very strong viewpoint on moms not working Full Time outside of the home. If you are a mom who chooses to do so, reading this book(and that chapter in particular) may cause you to feel like you aren't making enough 'sacrifices' as he puts it, for your child. He is very anti-daycare and seems to lump all daycares into one group. I really, really disliked this book. Save yourself the time and read the Girlfriend's Guide instead of this man's old fashioned viewpoints that just don't work with today's families. Being a good parent is more than being home during the day to "make lunches for your child" or 'bandage their knee" in my opinion...
Working mothers BEWARE! Sep 11, 2006
I bought this book after a friend recommended it to me. I have to say that I'm sorry that I did. The book advises first time parents that at least one parent should stay home full time. For a second it actually made me to start to feel guilty for wanting to work outside the home....for only a second though. It also goes on to say that the family should sacrafice and live on one income. I personally feel that my husband and I are setting a good example for our children since both of us are working and contributing equally to the household. After reading Lehman's opinion on this, I decided there was no need to continue reading.....don't waste your money on this one!
If you plan to work out of the home - watch out!!! Aug 18, 2006
Dr. Lehman will step on your independent toes and leave them broken and bruised!
I purchased this book just after becoming a first-time mom a few months back. I enjoyed cruising along in this book full of some good advice until everything came to a screeching halt at Chapter 6 where Dr. Lehman, quite frankly, states that I am letting someone else raise my children because I am a working mother.
The entire chapter was full of his own opinions stated as fact and his reminiscing of his own childhood and how one day his mother told him to fix himself a sandwich and he said something to the effect of, "Oh, but it tastes so much better when you make it for me." At which time she then proceeds to fix him his sandwich. That's one more man in this world that can't fix his own sandwich!
I, for one, quickly realized that Dr. Lehman believes that a woman's place is in the home regardless of financial situations, her independence and her sense of self. To work outside the home, inside the home, or to be a stay-at-home mom is up to each individual family and what works for others may not work for some.
I wish I had my money back that I spent on this book. The money that I made "while someone else was raising my children" as I educate the youth of our country every day. My own money which I made - that allowed me to purchase Dr. Lehman's book in the first place.
Not for AP parents Mar 8, 2006
There was some helpful, interesting advice in this book, but so much of it went against my basic instict and attachment parenting style. For example, he tells mothers that they need to get out of the house and leave the baby with a sitter in the first 10 days. It's important, he says, that the baby learn that mom won't always be there. A baby needs to learn that at 10 days!? Shouldn't they learn at that point that mom WILL be there, so they feel secure and loved? He also calls babies hedonistic manipulators, saying if you pick them up whenever they fuss, they'll just learn to fuss. I believe in listening to the baby's cries and realizing they cry for a reason. Infants don't have the ability to manipulate. I didn't finish the book because after these tidbits, I didn't trust any other advice he had to offer. Glad I got it from the library.