Item description for Surviving A Spiritual Mismatch In Marriage by Lee Strobel & Leslie Strobel...
Overview The author of "The Case for Christ" now presents thoughts on the spiritual aspects of marriage.
Publishers Description Someone came between Lee and Leslie Strobel, threatening to shipwreck their marriage. No, it wasn t an old flame. It was Jesus Christ. Leslie s decision to become a follower of Jesus brought heated opposition from her skeptical husband. They began to experience conflict over a variety of issues, from finances to child-rearing. But over time, Leslie learned how to survive a spiritual mismatch. Today they re both Christians--and they want you to know that there is hope if you re a Christian married to a nonbeliever. In their intensely personal and practical book, they reveal: * Surprising insights into the thinking of non-Christian spouses * A dozen steps toward making the most of your mismatched marriage * Eight principles for reaching out to your partner with the gospel * Advice for raising your children in a spiritually mismatched home * How to pray for your spouse--plus a 30-day guide to get you started * What to do if you re both Christians but one lags behind spiritually * Advice for single Christians to avoid the pain of a mismatch"
Community Description Surviving a Spiritual Mismatch in Marriage
By Lee Strobel and Leslie Strobel
Noted Christian communicator Lee Strobel and his wife team together to write a book about how to live with your unchurched spouse while living out your faith authentically in front of him or her.
Someone came between Lee and Leslie Strobel, threatening to shipwreck their marriage. No, it wasn't an old flame. It was Jesus Christ.
Leslie's decision to become a follower of Jesus brought heated opposition from her skeptical husband. They began to experience conflict over a variety of issues, from finances to child-rearing. But over time, Leslie learned how to survive a spiritual mismatch. Today they're both Christians--and they want you to know that there is hope if you're a Christian married to a nonbeliever. In their intensely personal and practical book, they reveal:
* Surprising insights into the thinking of non-Christian spouses * A dozen steps toward making the most of your mismatched marriage * Eight principles for reaching out to your partner with the gospel * Advice for raising your children in a spiritually mismatched home * How to pray for your spouse--plus a 30-day guide to get you started * What to do if you're both Christians but one lags behind spiritually * Advice for single Christians to avoid the pain of a mismatch
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From Publishers Weekly Lee Strobel, whose bestselling The Case for Christ has become a standard work
of evangelical apologia, was once not a Christian at all, and was openly
hostile to the faith. When his wife, Leslie, became a Christian several years
into their marriage, he was furious, and their union seemed doomed until
"Leslie figured out how to live out her faith in a way that began to attract
rather than repel [him]." In Surviving a Spiritual Mismatch in Marriage, the
Strobels describe their experiences in order to help other Christians
particularly women who are married to nonbelievers. Although their own ending
(culminating in his conversion) followed the Christian storybook, they caution
readers that it is better to concentrate on one's own spiritual growth and
example than to have unrealistic expectations about a spouse's future
conversion. Copyright 2002 Cahners Business Information.
Awards and Recognitions Surviving A Spiritual Mismatch In Marriage by Lee Strobel & Leslie Strobel has received the following awards and recognitions -
Gold Medallion Book Awards - 2003 Finalist - Marriage category
Citations And Professional Reviews Surviving A Spiritual Mismatch In Marriage by Lee Strobel & Leslie Strobel has been reviewed by professional book reviewers and journalists at the following establishments -
Publishers Weekly - 06/10/2002
PW Notes and Reprints - 04/01/2002 page 79
Christian Retailing - 04/15/2002 page 18
Library Journal - 05/15/2002 page 102
Publishers Weekly - 04/01/2002
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Lee Strobel was the award-winning legal editor of The Chicago Tribune and is the best-selling author of The Case for Faith, The Case for Christ, and The Case for a Creator, all of which have been made into documentaries by Lionsgate. With a journalism degree from the University of Missouri and a Master of Studies in Law degree from Yale, Lee wrote 3 Gold Medallion winners and the 2005 Book of the Year with Gary Poole. He and his wife live in Colorado. Visit Lee's website at: www.leestrobel.com.
Lee Strobel currently resides in West Dundee, in the state of Illinois. Lee Strobel was born in 1952.
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Reviews - What do customers think about Surviving A Spiritual Mismatch In Marriage?
Great book for the spiritually single wife Mar 24, 2007
I picked up Surviving a Spiritual Mismatch in Marriage, at the local Christian bookstore. I figured with Lee Strobel writing it, it would have to be well written with lots of information. Leslie, Lee's wife was a Christian for a couple of years before Lee. This book is written from that perspective. Lee tells all about how he felt when Leslie was trying to get him into church.
This book gives me hope. It is honest and upfront. It tells you that not all spiritual mismatches last only 2 years. Some spouses have been spiritually mismatched for 25+ years. Some have sadly seen the unsaved spouse pass before accepting Christ. However, this book gives advice on how to handle the many differences in ways that should not add more stress to an already stressful situation.
While most of the book is about being married to an unbeliever, there is a section for Christian couples who are out of sync. One spouse is more spiritually mature than the other, and the one that is not as mature seems to be not growing at all. They give many helpful tips on how to deal with this situation, as well.
I highlight in books. I mark things so I can find them easier. I have to tell you, a big part of this book is highlighted. It is wonderful. I have gotten so much out of this book, that I will be able to in turn help others through these situations. I would recommend this book for anyone in a spiritual mismatch or out of sync, spiritually, with their spouse.
Immoral Mar 15, 2006
Based on what I know about this book, I believe it to be immoral. The book wants you to convert your spouse. I find converting very immoral. The thing I hate most about many religions is that their goal is to convert people, instead of letting them choose. Instead of converting your spouse, just deal with the fact they are a different religion. Religion is a private thing, and it should be kept private. Also, converting is immoral. Only two major religions don't emphasize that they are the right religion and that you need convert others. Those are Bhuddism and Hinduism. Maybe the authors should give those religions a try.
Must have if Married to a Non-Christian May 19, 2005
Leslie and Lee do an outstanding job of comforting, encouraging, motivating, and giving sound Biblical advice to those in an "unequally yoked" marriage. Chapter after chapter gives essential advice and encouragement from a couple who have gone through it themselves and have come out of the experience all the stronger for it. The one piece of advice that helped me more than anything was to give up my guilt and responsibility for my part in my wife's unbelief. Her salvation is between God and her, they say, so love her unconditionally and stop feeling responsible. Chapter after chapter contains great advice for changing your own attitudes, developing an attractive faith, standing firm when necessary, avoiding arguments when unnecessary, providing spiritual input for your children, etc, etc. The Christian spouse is constantly motivated to give up his/her gloominess and thrive in the situation, with God's help living out an authentic faith and a sacrificial love that very well could win over the unbelieving spouse. You would do well to read this book slowly and prayerfully, then make a list of all the suggestions you can try in your marriage.
Of course, none of these things are the solution to the problem. After all, only God can bring someone to faith in Christ and create peace in a home. And as Lee and Leslie state many times, there is no guarantee that it will happen. My wife still doesn't have an active faith, but is now much less resistant to mine ever since I started serious prayer for her and have put some of these suggestions into effect.
Some minor quibbles: 1) Prayer should be emphasized more. There is a chapter on it, but considering how essential it is, there probably should have been more. 2) Although the book is written for both men and women and often uses the term "spouse", everywhere else (including the picture on the front and back covers and every page in between) it assumes that the husband is the unbeliever. I suppose that now I know how women feel when a book constantly says he instead of he/she. 3) Relevant verses that are directed to husbands (Eph 5:25, Col 3:19, etc) aren't discussed, whereas verses directed at women are. Don't let this stop you from getting this book - you'll need it.
Excellent! Feb 12, 2005
I thought this was an excellent, practical, realistic, modern guide to negotiating through an unequally yoked marital situation. It emphasized being loving to your spouse, being hopeful, not sacrificing your beliefs or spiritual growth- but also not being dogmatic. It wasn't legalistic, didn't get into the whole "your spouse isn't saved" thing or the "you must go to church every Sunday and leave them behind come whatever" idea. It had realistic suggestions for a modern, mutually respectful marriage. The best I've seen so far. Well worth investing in.
A mismatch can wreck havock Dec 12, 2003
I'm in my own spiritual mismatch in my marriage. My wife is Jewish and I'm Christian. My beliefs weren't an issue with our marriage until I re-affirmed my beliefs in Christ a few years ago. If I mention so much as a desire to go back to church, my wife hems and haws and threatens divorce. I've never pushed my beliefs on my wife, and likewise she with me, but I was concerned about the backlash she unleashes when the subject of God comes up in our household. I heard Lee and Leslie talking on a radio program about their book and figure I give it a shot. On the upside much of what Lee and Leslie went through I could identify with, since they themselves went through the same thing. In their case, Leslie is Christian and Lee was Atheist. Many of the fights and situations they described I've gone through to some degree with my wife. The solutions to those problems are of course outstanding, but the Strobels give some tools to the reader in dealing with you and your spouses differing perspectives. I've used those tools, and they've helped somewhat. Not a total solution, but very helpful in keeping a hot subject from escalating into disaster. However I felt a bit letdown in the tone of their book since the Strobels have the notion that men, not women, in a majority are seperate from Christ. Thus the reader is addressed that "your husband this..." and "your husband that..." Well, my problem isn't with "a husband" but with "my wife". This tone sort of made me felt left out when reading the book. The Strobels acknowledge this oversight, but wouldn't it be better to just address the oversight by being non-gender specific? Also I had a problem with lack of scripture reference. As I mentioned, the Strobels offer many tools in dealing with spiritual conflict with your partner. The problem is they say God wants you to do this, or something else to please your partner but doesn't give a specific scripture reference which I can follow. The bibliography in the back of the book just references other books, which in turn doesn't do much in satisfying my hopes that I'm acting in a Christian way. Another problem I had was there were a few sections in the book that addressed Christain people that were seeking relationships with non-Christians. Why mention this at all, since you're buying this book to solve a crisis after the fact? Its like saying, "Hey dummy, if listened to God to begin with you wouldn't be in this mess."
These chapters have no business being in the book, since the basis of the book is mismatched married couples, not a Christian's guide to dating non-Christians. Another problem I had was Lee's salvation. I'm very happy for Lee that he let Christ into his life, but the fact of the matter is not every mismatched couple has a resolution like this. The Strobels mention some cases where the non-Christian partner does become saved, but how can you expect to setup your reader for this outcome. Its almost a bit pretencious. I would have liked to have read more about situations that are more closer to home like how does one partner deal with the other partner never coming to Christ? How do you survive that? The prayer guide in the back of the book is helpful in seeking God's help in these matters of peaceful coexistance of two people who love each other and have different views of life and eternity. This book is very helpful and I encourage anyone who is going through a mismatch to read it. Great tools in dealing with a big problem.