Item description for The Proper Care and Feeding of Marriage by Dr Laura Schlessinger...
Overview Argues that couples must recognize the polarity between masculinity and feminity in order to sustain a mutually satisfying marriage, in a guide the draws on examples from the author's call-in radio show.
In the long-awaited follow-up to her groundbreaking, million-copy bestseller The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands, Dr. Laura now focuses on how men and women need to understand and appreciate the uniqueness of masculinity and femininity; what the best ways to relate, caretake, and nurture each other are; and how to bring a marriage back from the brink of disaster.
Dr. Laura asserts that in order to produce and sustain a wonderfully satisfying marriage, spouses must recognize and appreciate the polarity between the masculine and the feminine. Both husband and wife have power in the relationship, and each needs to realize this in order to ensure personal satisfaction. Using real-life examples from her call-in radio show, and giving real-life solutions, Dr. Laura focuses on the typical mistakes made by men and women in their relationships and shows how marriages can not only survive but thrive.
From Publishers Weekly The bestselling author (The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands), columnist
and talk show host does not deviate from her strong belief that women are
largely responsible for happy marital unions, which should be their first
priority. For Schlessinger, "feminism robbed women of their essence and their
ability to find pure joy and happiness," but the fair sex can regain that by
promoting a traditional relationship with their husbands. Many of
Schlessinger's golden rules recall suggestions from previous books: avoid
interfaith marriage, stay together for the sake of the children and never say
no to a husband who wants sex. Never insist that a man wash his own dishes,
either; both women and men should respect the division of labor and a woman's
status as homemaker. Although Schlessinger acknowledges that men have a
responsibility to communicate and recommends that they express gratitude to
their wives for domestic attentions, she clearly delineates a successful
marriage as one between a male financial provider and a female emotional
caregiver. She includes a digression on the differences between the sexes and
the masculine/feminine polarity. Though this latest guide will confirm Dr.
Laura's retrograde views for many, devotees will continue to look to her for
answers. (Jan.) Copyright 2006 Reed Business Information.
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Est. Packaging Dimensions: Length: 8.46" Width: 5.82" Height: 0.91" Weight: 0.83 lbs.
Release Date Jan 2, 2007
Publisher Harper Collins Publishers
ISBN 0061142840 ISBN13 9780061142840
Reviews - What do customers think about The Proper Care and Feeding of Marriage?
Different from Proper care and feeding of husbands Mar 30, 2007
Having read both books, the general themes are similar, but the books do emphasize different ideas. "Marriage" discusses how *both* partners contribute to the success (or failure) of marriages, and how our everyday behaviors affect this relationship. Although the ideas have been summarized in other reviews, it is acutally reading a particular passage and having an "a-ha" moment that is what makes each of her books different. Some of the critics say that they all are the same and all are bad and all say women are to blame and men are blameless. Not true. If you are unable or don't want to look at what you yourself may be doing wrong, then don't bother reading any of her books -- I think many of Dr. Laura's critics feel that she is attacking them by writing that we women may be contributing to our relationship "problems." She is equally hard on the men who call her radio show if she feels they are doing the wrong thing. An earlier review said that they believed the men are just as complex and emotionally difficult as women, as her husband attests to. Dr. Laura isn't saying every last man is the same, (or woman for that matter) but most behave, think and feel in a similar way. So for *most* people, this will be a helpful book.
Dr. Laura writes another winner! Mar 15, 2007
The Proper care and feeding of marriage is a book that many people should read, although few people will like it. The book embraces the concept of giving in relationships, rather than taking, and emphasizes traditional male and female roles. It also discusses the importance of staying married, rather than seeking a divorce immediately when times get tough. Dr. Laura does not let anyone she profiles make excuses for their poor behavior to their spouse; rather she discusses the need to take action and responsibility if a relationship is poor. It is a book that many men and women can benefit from, especially if they are in a relationship that is not working out right now due to poor communication and blaming behaviors.
Dr. Laura is pretty acurate in describing how to improve a marriage Mar 13, 2007
My husband and I are both reading the book, and we agree that overall Dr. Laura's assertions are correct. I'm grateful that there is one voice in the popular media that tells it like it is...women have a role in marriage, as do men. In our culture, we are so conditioned to believe that men and women are the same and have the same role in a family. This book promotes traditional gender roles, and makes the case that through accepting our roles, and being kind to our spouse, our marriages will be improved.
Exceptional as always Mar 12, 2007
My wife and I have used The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands to strengthen our marriage and were quite happy to see this companion book finally come out.
People who dislike Dr. Laura (as I once did) will fail to see the forest from the trees and disparage this book without even cracking open the cover, but those of us who know better will use it to it's fullest. Her views of what keeps a marriage strong deviate from the main stream psychology world and that's what makes her advice useful and realistic.
I would recommend this book for anyone who is willing to A) Swallow their pride and read a book about how to improve their marriage (people think they have all the answers, that's why half of marriages end in divorce). B)Listen to what the EVIL DR. LAURA has to say. (Face it, some people just hate her because she comes off as brash on her show. She is harsh to the callers on her show because she has about a minute and a half to help them fix the problems that they caused in their life. She is trying to help them and tough talk works. You would be brash and bossy to.)
What a great book! Mar 12, 2007
This book begins with a modern version of the Gift of the Magi, a teenaged couple that sacrifices what they want most to make the other happy. What follows is a great follow up book to the Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands. In fact, it's better, because this one takes the men to task too! She tells a woman how to care for her husband, and a man how to care for his wife.
Dr Laura is a believer that men should be men, and women should be women, and we should celebrate the difference, not try to change our basic nature. We should appreciate what the opposite sex has to offer and not try to change or diminish it. And she believes both the man and the woman are able to make a marriage better, and both should. It takes two to make a marriage work, and one to break it apart, so if someone is not working *for* the marriage, or neglecting their marital relationship, this is the book for them.
She has three basic rules for marriage:
* treat your spouse as if you loved them with your last breath- no matter how you might feel at that moment.
* think hard everyday on how you can make their life worth living.
* be the kind of person you would want to love, hug, come home to, and sacrifice for.
She also has a chapter on do's and don't's, tries to explain the opposite sex for the reader, gives advice on how to resolve major problems, and in general wrote a terrific book that a couple should read through together.
She also talked about emotional affairs, and how it is wrong to go outside the marriage to find friends of the opposite sex, or to allow a member of the opposite sex to confide personal problems in you, or to confide in them. This is how emotional affairs start and it is betraying the marital vows even though sex isn't involved.
I am also happy that she says that a woman *can* have a career as long as it doesn't interfere with her family priorities, and a career does not detract from her femininity as long as when she is with her husband, she stops acting like she does at work with her patients or clients, and becomes 100% his woman.
Overall, a great book, and one I would recommend highly.