Reviews - What do customers think about The Other Child: Children Of Affairs?
The Betrayed Spouse Mar 3, 2005
I think this would be a better title for this book. I am a betrayed spouse who's husband's affair produced a child. There are a few good books dealing with recovery from an affair, but none specifically about dealing with an other child. Maybe that's because it's still such a taboo topic. I was happy to hear that someone had actually addressed this topic, but didn't find the book helpful. Mostly what I read were betrayed spouses accounts of how the affairs destroyed their marriages. This not only is not always the case, but this is something I can read on a forum addressing this subject. The title is not only misleading, thinking it would be addressing how to affectively deal with an other child in your life, if possible, or talking about the affects all of this had on the other children themselves. Maybe with more case studies, someone will address this subject more objectively. Yes, an infidelity can destroy a marriage, but it can also strengthen some marriages if dealt with honestly. Children of affairs happen more than we care to think about and it would be nice if someone would give a voice to these innocent children and tell what did or did not work for the people involved or how the children were affected.
The Voice of Infidelity Jul 4, 2004
The Other Child: Children of Affairs, by Laura Giles, is a non-fiction compilation of short stories. Each story is written by spouses, lovers, perpetrators of affairs and the children which are a result of them. In The Other Child: Children of Affairs, each writer gives an account of the devastation experienced when children are produced as a result of infidelity.
In my opinion, the contents of the book differed from the title. I found the majority of the stories to be more about women scorned rather than about the other children produced from their mate's unfaithfulness. Some of the stories were well-written, and some were incoherent ravings. Although the characters in each story slightly differed, the contents in almost all of the stories were the same; hatred of the spouse, hatred of the other man/woman, and hatred of the other child. While some of the people that shared their stories were able to move on, the majority were not.
If you are the other child, and you are looking for a book which explores how others in your situation feel, this book may not be helpful. Only a handful of the stories were written by the actual other children, which may prove disappointing if you interested in hearing their stories versus their parents'. On the other hand, if you are going through a relationship where a mate has been unfaithful, this book may prove helpful.
T. RHYTHM KNIGHT APOOO BookClub
Innocent bystanders Mar 12, 2004
The family unit is the backbone of a healthy society and it requires committed individuals to keep it strong. But when activities are initiated that corrode this very concept, everyone suffers. Sometimes when a mate strays, it goes undetected, and sometimes though it is suspected it cannot be proven. In most instances all of the emphasis is placed on the participating individuals.
Laura Giles is an expert in extra-marital families, her counseling focuses on working with couples, victims of domestic violence, and victims of sexual assault. But for the first time, with THE OTHER CHILD she looks at someone other than the participants. She focuses on the pain, the struggle and the survival that is born from living with an extra-marital family. Although children of affairs are not a new phenomenon; there is a long history of its occurrence, it is not something society is inclined to talk much about. And she asks the question why?
The stories are real, and each is different yet the same. The voices of the wronged spouses range from anger, to hurt, to hope, but at least they were all driven to give their emotions a voice. The focus of this book is a sad reminder of who the real victims are when commitments are compromised.
Reviewed by aNN of The RAWSISTAZ Reviewers
case study Mar 10, 2004
This book is a case study book, meaning it is a book of personal stories. There is no advice given in the book at all beacause it is a case study. 8 of the 13 stories are wriiten from a betrayed wife whose husband had a child with another women. Hopefully this book will allow a book to get written that will contain advice from professional child councelors, pychologists and other professionals who deal with these children and the children of the marriage. This book is basically like reading many of the free mesaage boards that you can find on the internet.
case study book Mar 10, 2004
This book is a case study book, in other words it is a collection of people's stories. 8 of the 13 stories are written from a betrayed wife whose husband had a child with another women. The book is good for what it is, a case study, but do not expect ANY advice because there is NONE. Hopefully this book will get attention and a book with advice from professional child councelors, psychologists, ect can get written. This book was very much like reading a message board found on the internet, personal feelings no professional advice.