Item description for Making Love, Playing Power: Men, Women, and the Rewards of Intimate Justice by Ken Dolan-Del Vecchio...
Making Love,Playing Power: Men, Women, and the Rewards of Intimate Justice brings the cutting edge of relationship therapy to the mass market. Family therapist and organizational consultant Ken Dolan-Del Vecchio debunks superficial theories about communication styles and gender roles as he gets to the real reason so many relationships are in trouble --- misuse of power. Making Love,Playing Power reveals how gender, race, sexual orientation, and money set the foundation for personal power, and how power as domination drives most conflicts whether between nations, interest groups, or individuals. Women will find Making Love,Playing Power uniquely inspiring and validating. Men will find it life-changing. This book shows how to reject the power of domination and realize the power of love. Dolan-Del Vecchio offers new and provocative "principles of love," memorable case examples, and "action steps" that help readers make changes that bring lasting love.
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Est. Packaging Dimensions: Length: 8.2" Width: 5.5" Height: 0.8" Weight: 0.5 lbs.
Release Date Jan 28, 2008
Publisher Soft Skull Press
ISBN 1933368683 ISBN13 9781933368689
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More About Ken Dolan-Del Vecchio
Ken Dolan-Del Vecchio is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) and Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW) who has led monthly pet loss groups for eleven years. He is a lifelong animal companion enthusiast, having shared his home with dogs, cats, chickens, rabbits, cockatiels, finches, chinchillas, guinea pigs, turtles, mice, one horse, and one rat. A special rat, indeed, Nero sat on Ken's shoulder eating peanuts while Ken studied late into the evenings at college. Ken earned his B.A. in biopsychology at Cornell University and Master of Social Work (MSW) at Hunter College of the City University of New York. He completed a three year post-graduate program in family therapy at The Multicultural Family Institute, Highland Park, New Jersey, where he now serves on the board of directors. Ken makes his living as a health and wellness executive at a multinational company. He is a father and husband who lives with his family in Palmer, Massachusetts, and Newark, New Jersey. Ken is the author/coauthor of two previous books, "Making Love, Playing Power: Men, Women and the Rewards of Intimate Justice" and "Transformative Family Therapy: Just Families in a Just Society."
Nancy Saxton-Lopez is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW), Diplomate in Clinical Social Work (DCSW), and psychotherapist who began the Companion Animal Loss Support Group at St. Hubert's Giralda in Madison New Jersey, on April 3, 1990. Nancy earned her Master of Social Work (MSW) at New York University. She received a Certificate in Family Therapy from the Center of Family Studies in Springfield, New Jersey. Currently, Nancy is a Senior Partner in a behavioral healthcare consulting firm and has a private practice. She loves all animals and has shared her home with many dogs, birds, fish and a mouse. She lives with her daughter, husband, and four black pugs in Ridgewood, New Jersey.
Reviews - What do customers think about Making Love, Playing Power: Men, Women, and the Rewards of Intimate Justice?
Excellent Book - Must Read! Aug 5, 2008
Dolan-Del Vecchio has written a superb book. Each of us who live in relationship with others should read this book. Dolan-Del Vecchio has given me a deeper understanding and perspective of myself and my behaviors towards others. This book made me look at how life in our culture paints men of all sexual orientations, skin-colors, socioeconomic statuses and backgrounds into a corner that makes it hard for us to demonstrate love to those we care most about. I learned a lot and recommend the book highly.
Thought Provoking May 18, 2008
This is a masterfully written book! It takes the elements of male power and demonstrates its use and mis-use by typical examples clearly written. I think of myself as someone who is aware of the power politics of relationships but was amazed at all I didn't know but was obvious after the author pointed them out.
After reading this book, I knew I had to make some changes in my life and my relationships. I can say unequivocally that this was one of the best books I have read in recent times.
I highly recommend this book to anyone who does not live alone on a desert island; or is in or wants to be in an equal and caring relationship!
OMG ... this is powerful, unbelievable!!! Jan 17, 2008
Seriously folks, this book should be given to every newly engaged couple. Why wait until there are relationship problems? I bought this book to help me understand why I bail - to help me understand men and, ok, myself. The author not only explains how power inequities and male privilege corrupts relationships but demonstrates ways of changing learned behavior. Even more importantly though, he illustrates this in a respectful, non-judgmental manner. I'm writing from a layman's point of view and all I can say is that I have been searching for inner peace, happiness, and a real relationship for 40+ years now. I feel this is the FIRST book that will truly guide me to this place of being.
Not just another self-help book Jan 7, 2008
Not just another self-help book with the expected psychobabble. This is an important book that in clear direct language discusses issues of relationship that are often just outside our sensibilities. It's an easy read with clear examples, suggestions and case stories. It has an audience for gay/straight, man/woman, rich/poor.....anyone who is in relationship with another human being. It is an important tool that I use in my private practice to facilitate discussion about topics often unexplored in the context of human dynamics. Mr. Dolan-Delvecchio is articulate, aware and courageous. Dr. Shirley Cresci, NJ
The Real and Accurate Answers to Relationship Questions Jan 2, 2008
Excellent! A new kind of book--it shows how things in our society affect the intimacy of our personal lives, and vice versa. In straightforward language and by numerous examples, Dolan-Del Vecchio, gives men and women knowledge and tools for building relationships based on fairness and mutual respect. He draws a compelling connection between the things most men and women come to think of as normal--men should be dominant, aggressive, decisive, individualistic, and emotionally closed; women should expect these difficulties and try to help men become more completely human. And by unmasking "traditional" masculinity, he depicts the ways in which men often unwittingly derail their most important relationships (whether they want to admit it or not). Lest other societal concerns be ignored, thank the author! he includes writing about the epidemic of dating and domestic violence. (As you read these sections, you realize the obvious connections to the rules established by society, culture, etc.) The reader will see how the oppressive influence of patriarchy, racism, sexism, and homophobia show up in their daily lives, everywhere. If you don't know these words (I didn't), you should, you will because the book gives specific recommendations for individuals and couples on how to resist their influence. If you're perplexed over the scratch hardness of relationships, the seeming elusive how/what/why, or know someone who is, this book shows the way. Now, the message is out there!