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In the Name of Submission: A Painful Look at Wife Battering by Kay Marshall Strom
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Studio: Wipf & Stock Publishers
Est. Packaging Dimensions: Length: 8.53" Width: 5.74" Height: 0.32" Weight: 0.4 lbs.
Release Date Jan 1, 2008
Publisher Wipf & Stock Publishers
ISBN 1556357702 ISBN13 9781556357701
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More About Kay Marshall Strom
KAY MARSHALL STROM is a partner in Kline, Strom International, Inc., and speaks at seminars, retreats, and special events throughout the country and the world. Kay is the author of 34 published books including Once Blind: The Life of John Newton, Harvest of Hope: Stories of Life-Changing Gifts, and Daughters of Hope: Stories of Witness and Courage in the Face of Persecution. A number of volumes and compilations contain her writing, including the newly released NIV Womens Devotional Bible 3. She and Don reside in Eugene, Oregon.
Kay Marshall Strom currently resides in Santa Barbara, in the state of California. Kay Marshall Strom was born in 1943.
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In The Name of Submission May 7, 2007
I've been a believer since I was a small child. I have struggled 24 years and endured much anguish,disappointment, emotional, and physical pain in regard to my marriage relationship. For all those years I excused my husband's behaviors (verbal and emotional abuse, escalating to physical the past 6 years...). In the past 2 years the verbal and emotional reached an excruciating level,and I was totally oblivious to the covert ways my husband CHOSE to try and manipulate me. (He didn't even realize it was abuse! He did it to "help" me or "for your own good".) I realized if he didn't choose to do it, he'd do it to everyone, not just me! OUCH! That took me a week to accept!And longer to "sink in"! I always excused these unloving behaviors as the result of growing up in a dysfunctional family with an alcoholic father who physically and emotionally abused my husband throughout his childhood. Being a Christian with a strong personal relationship, I dilligently tried to be a submissive, godly wife - even took mentoring/advice from women who seemed "wise" which actually encouraged further abuse! IT WAS THIS PARTICULAR BOOK WHICH pointed me to various scriptures and clearly discussed the topics related to submission (like separation) I had been misled into what submission was (I fervently had been studying the subject as DAILY life was SOOO stressful and I saw the effects of my husband's no longer hiding his cruel words, scoldings, criticism, etc. from the children... and how THEY were beginning to receive the verbal abuse!) I was teaching a group of women on marriage, and the upcoming chapter was on submission, and I just HAD to study the topic more deeply as I had no peace on the whole submission topic in marriage. It sure didn't "work" for our family. IT WAS THIS book which gave me the eye-opening knowledge and the necessary peace and confidence to take action just a few days later when an insignificant incident in 5 min. escalated into my husband's assaulting me - leaving evidence - I was knowledgeable enough THEN to realize, that THIS was not submission as God desires. This book clearly led me through the scriptures on the topic. Using this new biblical based knowledge, I humbled myself and with God's peace (spoken of in Phillipians Ch.4), took the steps necessary to help my husband and our family... Including filing a protective order - this was the third incident I had WARNED him "I'll turn you in if you touch me" and he did. I had requested 6 times in the past 18 months that he get help (that' not counting scattered requests over the first 20+ yrs.), and I took steps to submit my family's future and his/our recovery to the eldership and local court system. It was not easy, nor painless, but was incredibly exhilarating to know I was no longer trapped in submission, but was able to see that our home life was grieving the Holy Spirit. It's been only 8 wks., but reviewing my prayerfully taken steps, inspired by this book, after all these years, the kids and I are feeling great relief. As well-meaning Christians try to "help" with advice - naive to what verbal and emotional abuse are, I return to my highlights in this book and the referenced scriptures and assure myself that despite outsider's opinions, advice and sometimes judgement... the decisions I have made were done in love, and are pleasing to our Lord. With all the abuse done privately at home or in the car, my fine, highly educated, white collar, upstanding citizen, husband would never have been recognized as an abuser. Easy to make the necessary decisions, no! But renewed hope for reconcilliation and healing with the wisdom and scripture based advice found in this book. He has NOW been willing to get counseling from a professional (kids and I are also, too). He just recently realized he has been abusive... still a looonnnggg way to go, but a breakthrough! Because we are separated I have had many fingers of judgement pointed at me that I am not being a submissive wife! "You're taking control...calling the shots... didn't submit to him... should not be apart, should study God's word, you didn't wait on God long enough!" (Wish they could just have spent ONE day in my shoes at home and they'd think differently!) I assure those "uneducated in abuse" persons I've done my homework BOTH in the Bible and many books. THIS BOOK was the MOST helpful, clear, and detailed on the subject of submission and abuse! IT HELPED ME SEE THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN Biblical submission and ABUSE! I am buying more copies to share,one for the local abuse shelter and ESPECIALLY to educate the judgemental, well-meaning Christian friends - people whom if they were to read this book would most likely see how UNsupportive and misguided they are on this subject - at a time, when my family members need support, not more injuries! THIS BOOK gave me the realization that separation with the intent to heal and reconcile IS acceptable to God! Read it! I recall reading another book which would have had me continue to "take" whatever he dished out as godly submission! I already battled anxiety, depression and other physical ailments the past 6 yrs.- not to mention the physical bruises and a crushed arch!(He shoves hard!) That book didn't reference scriptures nearly as much! MY THANK YOU goes to the only other reviewer... thanks for your caring to take the time to write your review! Your review caused me to order this book through this site.... you've been a blessing! May this one also encourage others that this is a very worthwhile book!
Great Book! Deals with Domestic Violence for Christian Women May 2, 1999
This is the first book with a Christian perspective that I read which gave me a basis for ending my abusive marriage. It was the first book that told me that God loves BOTH partners in a marriage- and that it was NOT OKAY for my husband to be abusive. It states that SUBMISSION IS NOT SLAVERY OR BEING A DOORMAT! THIS WAS THE FIRST BOOK THAT GAVE ME PERMISSION TO QUESTION HIS AUTHORITY OVER ME AS THE HEAD OF OUR HOME! Unfortunately, it took me 10 more years to finally be free of his contol and abuse, but I credit this book with giving me the freedom to survive! A MUST for ANY WOMAN WHO QUESTIONS HER HUSBAND'S CONTROLLING, ISOLATING OR ABUSIVE BEHAVIOR- ESPECIALLY IF SHE IS A CHRISTIAN AND BELIEVES IN THE SANCTITY OF MARRIAGE.