Item description for The Mother at Home by John Stevens Cabot Abbott...
Overview Written for the mothers who were a part of John Abbot's ministry, The Mother at Home offers practical help on educating childen in the fear of the Lord in order to save their souls. Long esteemed as one of the most valuable works from the 19th century, Christian mothers who want biblical counsel on child rearing will find this book valuable.
Publishers Description "Long esteemed as one of the most valued works from the 19th century on the art of mothering and the glory of the work of the mother at home. For any girl who was raised without much discipline and in need of instruction on proper discipline of her own children, this is a superb guide. Rarely in print and worth obtaining at any price. Christian mothers who want biblical counsel on Christian child rearing will find this book valuable." -Grace and Truth Books "The object of this book is practical utility, not literary effect. It is written for mothers in the common walks of life. There are many mothers, in every village of our land, who are looking eagerly for information respecting the government of their children. It is hoped that the following treatise may render them some assistance." from the Author's Preface
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Est. Packaging Dimensions: Length: 8.48" Width: 5.53" Height: 0.39" Weight: 0.44 lbs.
Release Date May 1, 2005
Publisher Solid Ground Christian Books
ISBN 1932474706 ISBN13 9781932474701
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Thought provoking Sep 18, 2008
This is a book to be read and re-read.
I will allow, as another person mentioned, that in places the author advocates what at first seems harsh to our modern notions of child raising. But, the author also instructs, "Guard against too much severity. By pursuing a steady course of efficient government, severity will very seldom be found necessary. If, when punishment is inflicted, it is done with composure and with solemnity, occasions for punishment will be very infrequent. Let a mother ever be affectionate and mild with her children. Let her sympathize with them in their little sports. Let her gain their confidence by her assiduous efforts to make them happy. And let her feel when they have done wrong, not irritated, but sad; and punish them in sorrow, but not in anger. Fear is a useful and a necessary principle in family government. God makes use of it in governing his creatures. But it is ruinous to the disposition of a child, exclusively to control him by this motive. How unhappy must be that family where the parent always sits with a face deformed with scowls, and where the voice is always uttered in tones of severity and command! ... Every effort should be made to make home the most desirable place; to gather around it associations of delight; and thus to form in the mind of your child an attachment for peaceful and purifying enjoyments."
One of the things that I most learned from this book was how much I need to change ME, before I expect my children to be 'perfectly obedient'. "The parent must strive to be herself just what she wishes her child to be. She must cherish in her own spirit those virtues and those graces which she desires to see as the embellishments of the character of her child. Our children have more right to expect that we shall be model parents than we have to require that they shall be model children. ...I am to teach my child to avoid vanity, and pride, and selfishness, by cultivating within myself, with never tiring assiduity, the spirit of lowliness, of humility, of self-sacrifice. It is thus, more effectually than in any other way, that I am to reach and influence his heart. So I am to curb the impetuous passions of my child, mainly by gaining the victory over myself, and bringing all my own passions under perfect control."
There is so much good in this book!
Absolutly wonderful and thought provoking Jun 26, 2008
Just loved this book. I really think this kind of down to earth old fashioned wisdom is what America needs more of. The last section on the child's spiritual development was very eye opening and challenging. A must read to get some solid basis of why its important not to let your kids run amuck. A definite benefit to the home library.
a rare gem Jul 7, 2007
I LOVE this book. It's wonderfully, refreshingly insightful. This book helps parents to understand how to teach their young children self control, how to help them learn to combat the lust of the eyes, the lust of the world and the pride of life. It implores us to give our children the freedom of living a self-controlled and peaceful life by teaching them early on to not succumb to their selfish passions. The younger our children are, the easier it is to train them so that they can be blessed and a blessing to other. I will be giving a copy of this book to every new mother I know. Solid ground publishers has reprinted this and other equally useful books by Mr. Abbott. try solid dash ground dash books dot com.
Very useful book Apr 10, 2007
This book was great! Alot of non christians and christians as well would argue its teachings but like it said in the book,"Your future happiness is in the hands of your children." We should learn to train our children correctly in love and with the ways of God.
Not even worth glancing over... Mar 24, 2007
It's sad that as a christian, I frequently have to avoid child-care manuals that specifically say that they are "christian child-rearing" ala Ezzo's babywise insanity. In this instance, had I been able to see that the subtitle was "Raising Your Children in Fear of the Lord" that probably would have been my first cue to pass. A story related in the second chapter has to do with a mother being to lax with regards to unquestioning obedience and failing to force her child to take medicine...the child then died and "physicians will tell you that many children have been thus lost...and many a mother has been called to weep over the grave of a child because she had not taught it to obey." The answer, then, is to "seriously and calmly punish...inflict real pain, pain that will be remembered." The author goes farther than this, even, and says that if a mother fails in her duty to instill this obedience her children will reproach her at the gates of heaven with the fact that they are barred out because she didn't teach them obedience in childhood. A later tale relates taking a four year old out and punishing him as severely as father dared several times both as an example to him and as an example to the other children, for them to learn that father's arm was stronger than their will. This is not the way I'm raising my child. I realize that this book was written in a different time, one in which schoolteachers had this much latitude for punishing children, but this book should have been left out of print. I'm not even against spanking, per se, but punishment as it is outlined in this book is abuse. Anyone interested in being a responsive, involved, attentive parent will not be able to stomach the child-rearing practices advocated here.