Item description for The 7 Worst Things Good Parents Do by John Friel, Ph.D. & M.A. Linda Friel...
Overview Discusses such issues as babying one's child, putting one's marriage last, pushing a child into too many activities, and failing to give a child structure
Publishers Description Psychologists John and Linda Friel have written an enormously readable and infinitely practical book that digs into some of the worst mistakes that parents make, with suggestions on how parents can change immediately. The Friels examine the seven most ineffective and self-defeating behaviors that parents display again and again. Working from the ideas that even small changes can have big results, the authors give parents concrete steps they can take to end the behaviors and improve the quality of their parenting. Whether readers are contemplating starting a family, have children who haven't entered school yet, are struggling with rebellious teenagers, or are empty-nesters wondering how they can be better parents to their grown children, they can't afford not to read this book. With the same clarity and concrete examples that have sold over 350,000 copies of their books, the Friels offer readers forty years of combined experience as practicing psychologists, and fifty years of combined experience as blended-family parents. This material has been field-tested in the authors' own household, with hundreds of their clients, and with thousands of their workshop and Clearlife Clinic participants. It will cause immediate changes in parents' behavior, and immediate improvement in the lives of their children.
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Est. Packaging Dimensions: Length: 8.53" Width: 5.48" Height: 0.51" Weight: 0.65 lbs.
Release Date Feb 1, 1999
ISBN 1558746684 ISBN13 9781558746688
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More About John Friel, Ph.D. & M.A. Linda Friel
John Friel, Ph.D. is a psychologist in private practice in St. Paul, Minnesota; Director of the St. Paul / Minneapolis Clearlife / Lifeworks Clinic, an intensive, short-term treatment program for Adult Children, Co-dependency, Addiction and compulsivity issues; and adjunct Associate Professor of Psychology at St. Mary's College Graduate Center in Minneapolis.
John Friel currently resides in the state of Minnesota. John Friel was born in 1949.
Reviews - What do customers think about The 7 Worst Things Parents Do?
I'm guilty! Dec 31, 2008
Before kids my husband and I read the Sunday paper, had coffee, went for peaceful walks -not so much anymore. I saw myself in the pages of this book. I often put the kids before us and our days are action packed with activities. I admit I read the summary at parentsdigest - which is good because it's part of my new year's resolution to give myself and my husband more time just us. Lots of good ideas in this book - most I'll bet you already intuitively know but it's worth the reinforcement.
I wish I had gotten this book 10 years ago! Jul 16, 2008
This is a book that should be read before your first is born...again during the toddler years...and then once more when they are tweens.
Right away the authors recognize that there is no cookie cutter best way to run your family and bring up your children. In each chapter, they give examples and run downs on how our actions/behaviors affect the actions/behaviors/potential of our children and how to recognize whether we need to work in the particular area or not. At the end of each chapter, they give a few ideas/suggestions on how you can go about fixing a perceived problem. Like an unjudgemental friend, they simply give you eye opening advice. Like a skeleton upon which you can build upon as it fits your life.
Please read this book Dec 18, 2006
Topics covered: Baby Your Child, Put Your Marriage Last, Push Your Child into Too Many Activities, Ignore Your Emotional or Spiritual Life, Be Your Child's Best Friend, Fail to Give Your Child Structure, and Expect Your Child to Fulfill Your Dreams are the other "worst" things to do according to this book.
Parents from each generation have probably made errors with different things, but for today's parents, this book highlights many of the current parenting problems. Adults who are 30+ still living at home, adults in college who spend money like water and are racking up a load of debt. Adults who at work feel entitled and compain if they have to work extra hours, and feel slighted if they are not awarded at work for every little thing they do...etc. (Many think the focus on "self esteem" was the beginning of today's parenting problems)
The best advice is that you need to be a parent now and not worry about being your child's friend. When they are parents themselves, they will finally understand things from your point of view as a parent and you can be friends then.
Reading this book is really eye opening and if you follow the suggestions in the book, parenting will really be a lot easier. I have personally made many of these changes with my kids and it really makes parenting so much more enjoyable.
I'd also recommend John Rosemond, A Family of Value.
Can I borrow a feeling? May 2, 2004
The book is a strange amalgam of sensible parenting advice, delivered from the minds of two people awash in liberal insanity. For example the authors are John C. Friel Ph.D. and Linda D. Friel M.A. It is really helpful to know their middle initials. Inspires confidence - kind of like an extra degree. Well if this Joe Q. Blow were to hunker down on the Friels' therapy sofa, lets just say he'd have a few problems. For starters, the Friels start the therapy by doing a "feelings check" You are presented with a list of "healthy human feelings" : anger, sadness, joy, shame, hurt, loneliness. Then you are supposed to "ground" yourself in the "moment" by introspecting for them and reporting which of these emotions you are currently feeling. Strangely the only positive "healthy emotion" on this list is "joy" which, as far as I can tell, is not a sustainable adult emotion, any more than glee is a sustainable adult emotion. The list may as well have been Angst, Rage, Sullenness, Resentment, Hatred, Delight. "Where are you on this list, Joe?" "...Gee... I dunno... I don't even know what you mean by 'joy'..." "Tsk, tsk. This is getting more and more common. So many emotionally shut down people outta touch with their feelings alla time. This poor soul don't even know what joy is."
Great advice and easy book to read & understand Aug 14, 2002
Part 1: Get Ready Chapter 1: The Seven Worst Things Parents Do Chapter 2: The Rules of the Game
Part 2: The Seven Chapter 3: Baby Your Child Chapter 4: Put Your Marriage Last Chapter 5 Push Your Child into Too Many Activities Chapter 6: Ignore Your Emotional or Spiritual Life Chapter 7: Be Your Child's Best Friend Chapter 8: Fail to Give Your Child Structure Chapter 9: Expect Your Child to Fulfil Your Dreams
Part III: Go For It Chapter 10: If Rats Can Do It, So Can You Chapter 11: The Best Things About Parents Who Choose to Grow: A Typical Success Story Chapter 12: Some Final Parenting Thoughts
In this book, I agreed much of what the authors wrote about how to avoid the 7 mistakes. There was a few tips of advice that I disagreed with such as putting your child to bed at the same time everynight with NO exceptions such as watching fireworks.