Item description for Living Together: A Guide to Counseling Unmarried Couples by Jeff Vangoethem...
Overview Vangoethem offers a biblical perspective on the explosive and growing social phenomenon of couples moving in together instead of marrying--even among Christian couples. He offers practical and competent help for those who counsel and minister to unwed couples.
Publishers Description Offers a biblical perspective on the explosive and growing social phenomena of couples moving in together instead of marrying - a common trend even among Christian couples. Full of biblical, practical, and competent help for those who minister to and counsel unwed couples.
Citations And Professional Reviews Living Together: A Guide to Counseling Unmarried Couples by Jeff Vangoethem has been reviewed by professional book reviewers and journalists at the following establishments -
Christianity Today - 05/01/2005 page 61
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Studio: Kregel Academic & Professional
Est. Packaging Dimensions: Length: 8.7" Width: 5.52" Height: 0.52" Weight: 0.54 lbs.
Release Date Jan 1, 2005
Publisher Kregel Publications
ISBN 0825439248 ISBN13 9780825439247
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More About Jeff Vangoethem
VanGoethem is the senior pastor of East White Oak Bible Church in Bloomington, Ill. He is also adjunct instructor at Lincoln College in Normal, Illinois.
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A Must for Pastors and Leaders; Scriptural and Helpful Jun 7, 2005
Pastors are sometimes stressed out about what to do with couples who want to marry but are already living together (or cohabiting couples who attend our churches). We end up with internal conflicts: on the one hand, we want to be gracious; on the other, we want to be true to God's Word. On the one hand, we should not expect lost people to act like Christians; on the other, we should hold Christians accountable to a Biblical standard. It seems like whatever choice we make, we feel guilty. Van Goethem has presented a thorough work that looks at the big picture. Why is cohabitation so bad? How is the marriage covenant superior, not only morally but relationally and socially? The author offers facts, figures, and statistics to bolster his assertions. Then the author addresses those sticky issues that plague clergy who take the Bible seriously. Since so many people live in contradiction to God's revealed will, how do we make the best of a wrong situation? Van Goethem advocates that such couples must live separately (and purely) until the wedding if they want a truly Christian wedding.
The author does not address all problems. It disappointed me that he acknowledged (but left unaddressed) situations involving children. Is it better for mom and dad to separate, or would that traumatize the children? What if mom and dad cannot afford to separate, should we then rush the wedding?
Despite those significant omissions, the book does address MOST of the situations we come across. The appendices are worth the purchase price of the book: Cohabitaiton Facts and A Sample Church Wedding Policy are two of the four appendices that are especially helpful.
If you want a Biblical attempt to address these messy issues, this is the book to get! Every evangelical pastor needs this one -hands down.