Item description for Sex And Love Addiction: My Journey From Shame To Grace by Jay Parker...
December 1, 1990, Jay Parker was arrested for exhibitionism. At the time he hoped it would remain a secret. On January 10, 1991, his whole world came crashing down when a front-page story in the Houston Chronicle revealed his secret to the world.
After fourteen years of tough recovery, fighting his addiction every step of the way, Parker "has it all back." He is making meaningful contributions to society by helping in the recovery of other sex and love addicts. His sex and love addiction, which was the root of his exhibitionism, is under control. This is his story.
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Est. Packaging Dimensions: Length: 0.75" Width: 6" Height: 8.75" Weight: 0.9 lbs.
Release Date Feb 28, 2005
Publisher Issues Press
ISBN 1930461011 ISBN13 9781930461017
Reviews - What do customers think about Sex And Love Addiction: My Journey From Shame To Grace?
It takes one, to know one... Aug 25, 2008
I have seen counselors, therapists, and psychologists off and on since I was nine years old, when my family began it's long attempt to recover from sexual abuse. During that time, all 23 years of it, my addiction grew to be all consuming and kept me and my life out of controll and fully unmanagable - I was always without hope and became self-loathing for my ongoing failure in my wish to change the way I was. And then I met Jay Parker. Jay Parker is the only professional who has ever been able to help me address the source of my shame, and stop my acting out behaviors, and live healthily as I show up as an integrous man for the first time in my life (now 36). I never knew there was hope for me until I found Jay and he shared his own experience, strengh and hope with me. I wish I had met Jay so many years earlier. I thank God for Jay Parker today - he helps me be the man I always wanted to be, but never thought I could. I am saddend to read some of the hurtful statements and unforgiving accusations that speak to the past, and do not consider the present. Jay helps so many men and women - EVERYDAY.
Thank you Jay for teaching me to be vulnerable - without sexualizing it; to be happy - without sexualizing it; to be mad, glad, sad and/or afraid - without sexualizing it! You are a gift!
Bull! Aug 23, 2006
I know this man. Both he and his book are hogwash! If you like grown men who exhibit themselves to pre-teen girls on school buses (check out Austin Police Department records - his name was Jay Pilevsky then), then you're gonna' love Jay Parker! And if he's found "Grace," she's probably 13.
Former 'patient' of Jay's and I KNEW I wasn't crazy Jun 3, 2006
Sheesh, where would I ever begin. I was delighted to read the book and most especially the reviews to realize and come to terms with the fact that it wasn't just me who thought Jay was a quack. I knew something wasn't quite right, starting with his credentials and growing exponentially from there. I never felt comfortable with his pseudo-psych rap. It was especially frightening to read from his 'publisher' about how Jay was in such denial until so very recently (and during the time I was seeing him). Funny how Jay never mentioned that part of his story to any of us nor the fact that he was writing a book.
I could go on and on but I'm glad the truth is getting out there and that I don't feel so much like I was crazy anymore.
Connecting the dots creates different constellation May 24, 2006
Oh my god! I have wasted my time reading the author Jay Parker's (formerly Jay Pilevsky) book, some of his criminal record, the statement of charges brought by the Washington State Department of Health, and all the reviews below. Thankfully, this behavior it is not my fault because I must be an addict! Whew! I feel much better having successfully exported responsibility for my actions in a way that the duped masses will accept. But if I really want to help myself, maybe I should go to a real licensed psychologist in good standing with patients and professional community alike. The pattern that emerges from the above reading is not one of addiction and "recovery" as reported, but one of power mongering and quackery. I am shocked that a person with this hurtful background is not on the registered sex offender list, but is eligible to be licensed as a mental health counselor in Washington. If a book of self absorption, written at the 9th grade level, by a man convicted of "Indecency with Child," is your thing, then this book is for you.
Why I published this book Apr 3, 2006
This book is a story of hope and redemption. It is Jay Parker's story of how he battled, and is continuing to battle, the demons inside him that made him want to expose his genitals to 20-something women. Jay is a recovering exhibitionist. And like all recovering addicts, the siren song of the addiction will never go away, but sometimes it gets quieter. This is a story of how he is winning the battle.
I've known Jay for a long time. When we first spoke in the mid-1990s, he had a driving urge to tell his story. I looked at Jay and saw a man who still needed to be an exhibitionist, but he was far enough along the path to recovery that he was trying to keep his disease within society's legal and moral bounds. We signed a contract to publish the book 2 September 1997.
The book was huge. It was full of hate and retribution for the people who brought his story into the open. While Jay admitted he had committed illegal acts, it still seemed that he felt the real crime was that people around him wouldn't leave him alone. They shouldn't take away his livelihood "just because I was an exhibitionist." Somehow that seemed unfair. I took all that hate, almost a third of the book, out. In the current book what was left went through page 234. But I wasn't ready to publish the book yet. It had an ending point, but I wasn't convinced that Jay's story was over.
The next revision was about Jay's time in Seattle and his divorce. It was full of hate and recrimination about how his wife had somehow not done what she was supposed to do. Jay was recovering so his wife should, too. A lot of that was taken out. But the story still didn't seem finished, so I still wouldn't publish the book.
Chapter 37, the last chapter in the story, came in the mail in 2004. I read it and said, "Now the story is done." When I talked with Jay, he was a different. The drive to exhibit himself seemed to be gone. He was content to put the book out and go on with what was really important, his work of helping other men with sexual addictions straighten out their lives. He had gotten to a place where the hate that drove him was gone. I think it is important to note that Neal Farmer, the man who wrote the newspaper article that caused Jay's downfall in December 1990, was at the party where we launched the book.
So this is a story of hope and redemption. Jay is successfully fighting his demons. He is not who he once was.
I believe other addicts who have enough desire, enough hope, and enough support can make the same journey. I published the book to let them know.