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Overview You've tried everything to deal with that one person in your life who drives you crazy---but nothing works. It's time to discover the biblical solution for handling problematic relationships! Silvious examines the Book of Proverbs and uncovers strategies for relating to difficult people, in a manner that glorifies God and preserves your sanity. Foreword by Kay Arthur.
Publishers Description The world is filled with difficult people. It is impossible to avoid them. (You may have one, in particular, in your life right now.) In dealing with such people, we often try a number of coping strategies. Unfortunately, our best attempts at making peace often fail. This is because the difficult people in our lives are often what the Bible calls "fools." And dealing with fools requires a special kind of biblical wisdom.
You've tried everything–from confrontation to passivity. You've found out what doesn't work; now discover what does. Gain the tools you need to get along with others and conduct your relationships in a manner that honors God–and preserves your sanity!–in Foolproofing Your Life: Wisdom for Untangling Your Most Difficult Relationships. Learn how new insights from the book of Proverbs can help you respond to those relationships that seem hard to untangle. Jan Silvious is the co-host (with Kay Arthur) of Precept Ministries' national radio program, “Precept Live with Kay and Jan.” She is also a counselor and popular keynote speaker at church and women's events. Jan has authored several books, including The Five-Minute Devotional and Please Don't Say You Need Me: Biblical Answers for Co-Dependency. She is a frequent guest host on Moody Broadcasting Network's national programs, “Mid-Day Connection” and “Open Line.” A graduate of Radford University in Radford, Virginia, Jan today lives in TN with her husband and has three grown sons.
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Author, counselor, and popular speaker, Jan believes that women do best when they are free to be who God created them to be! She is the author of several books, including "The Five Minute Devotional," and "Moving Beyond the Myths: Hope and Encouragement for Women." Jan and her husband, Charlie, live in Chattanooga, TN.
Jan Silvious currently resides in Chattanooga, in the state of Tennessee. Jan Silvious was born in 1944.
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Reviews - What do customers think about Foolproofing Your Life: Wisdom for Untangling Your Most Difficult Relationships?
Good advice for all relationships,not so much for marriages Dec 2, 2008
The author pointed out wonderful wisdom in Proverbs and Psalms that can help anyone who is dealing with a difficult person. Concentrating on God and yourself instead of letting them get to you is key.
However in the case of marriage, I didn't completely agree with one aspect that she states, and that is if you separate, you cannot divorce, you can only be reconciled to your husband. The only exclusion to this is adultery as the Bible states. However, if she had done her research on the greek words used in Malachi where the NIV says "God hates divorce", the word "putting away" is the translated word (you can even see this in the original King James version), not divorce. Putting away was separating without giving a certificate of divorce. That's what God hates. Read "Divorce: God's Will?" by Stephen Gola for more information on that.
I believe that people have the right to divorce abusers of any kind - physical, emotional, mental. Who would support continuing to be married to a physical abuser? Only because the Bible says you can only be reconciled to him? To someone who might kill you??? Doesn't make any sense to me. God wants you OUT of that situation so you can be free of that hell. Emotional and mental abuse is just as bad. You can't be all that God wants you to be while in those marriages. Separating only increases the violence in some cases. Why should your life be stunted because of an abuser? Why should you not be able to divorce and get on with your life?
Other than that, I agree with everything else in the book.
I got stung on this one. Fool proofing Your Life Aug 12, 2008
As a rule, I have gotten great results, however, Instead of the book "Fool Proofing Your Life" I got the study guide which I did not want.So, am I stuck with this book? The place that it came from wrote saying they were going to send me an envelope to return the item. So far, no envelope. Very dissapointing and also am hesitant to order through this site again. Faye Kelley
Finally~the answers I've been looking for! Jul 15, 2008
Thank You Jan for writing this book. I underlined, highlighted, and wrote, on just about every page of this book (most of the words were, YEP, ALWAYS and Excellent Info!)...it was Very Informative. I NOW have the tools to deal with my fool! She gave alot of really GREAT advice. The one I appreciate most,"It is IMPOSSIBLE to correct, change, alter, redifine, censure, sweet-talk,or reason with a fool! ....Wisdom MUST become MY goal, and my hope. It MUST be my safe haven and my delight!" For 10 years I've have had no ability to express an opinion, a thought, or a concern without being shut down (Jan calls it being re-defined) by my fool. Wondering why I lived with so much strife, chaos , unrest. I could never pin-point the problem. I tried everything, until I read this book. I am no longer captive to the image that he wants me to be. If you think, even remotely, that you are living, working or have a relationship with a fool, you gotta get this book and read it thoroughly, you will be so relieved, that they are in God's hands, and you are only responsible for your reactions (GOD will help you every step of the way) to your fool! Just as everyone else has mentioned...,"It saved my life!" I can truly say the same thing. APPLY her tools she gives you, they are biblical and helpful for how you deal with your fool. It's totally worth your sanity!
Lifesaver! May 26, 2008
This book was such an answer to prayer--I began to realize the person in my life was the fool of Proverbs and about that time I heard Jan Silvious and kay Arthur on a radio program discussing this book...I immediately sent for it and the opening paragraph had me; it was EXACTLY what I had been going through. My ordeal lasted 15 years...it drew me closer than ever to the Lord and Jan's book helped me to realize I was not crazy!; it was like having one friend who truly understood what i was going through. I even called her and left her a message after reading this book to thank her for being the one person who actually understood...and gave scriptural encouragement and answers!
Eye-opening Apr 6, 2008
I didn't even have to read the whole book to get the message - a lightbulb went off in my head. I was suddenly released from all the guilt of this relationship, and it has changed the way I relate to this person. On some level I already knew what Jan Silvious says in her book. But she called it by name "a fool". And I realized "you can't reason with a fool." So stop trying. She made it okay for me to distance myself from this unhealthy relationship. Anyone who feels trapped in a relationship should read this book.