Item description for Am I the One?: Clues to Finding and Becoming a Person Worth Marrying (Truthquest) by James R. Lucas, Steve Keels & J. R. Lucas...
Overview In this TruthQuest* title, the author takes an innovative approach to courtship, maintaining that each person should first take the steps to become a person worth marrying.
Publishers Description People speak today of making it harder to get divorced. While saving troubled marriages is an admirable feat, as a prescription it is working from the terminal end of the relationship disease. James Lucas takes a very different approach to this crucial life decision. Instead of beginning with questions of dating, courtship, compatibility and relationship "tools," Lucas starts with you. Who are you becoming? Are you taking the steps to become a person worth marrying? In order to find the right person, you have to first be the right person. Then, and only then, can you make clear decisions about the rest of your life.
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Studio: B&H Books
Est. Packaging Dimensions: Length: 8.3" Width: 6.32" Height: 0.62" Weight: 0.59 lbs.
Release Date Jan 1, 2003
Publisher B&H Publishing Group
Grade Level High School
ISBN 080542573X ISBN13 9780805425734
Availability 0 units.
More About James R. Lucas, Steve Keels & J. R. Lucas
James Lucas is the author of thirteen books, including "Walking Through the Fire, A Perfect Persecution, "and" Am I the One?" He is executive director of the Relationship Development Center, a charter member of the American Association of Christian Counselors, and a professor in the School of Professional Studies at Rockhurst University. He lives with his family in the Kansas City area.
James R. Lucas currently resides in Kansas City, in the state of Missouri. James R. Lucas was born in 1950.
Reviews - What do customers think about Am I the One?: Clues to Finding and Becoming a Person Worth Marrying (Truthquest)?
fantastic Mar 15, 2006
I just really appreciated the not-Joshua-Harris-approach to dating. It's a more realistic and Biblical approach to the subject. Starting with just making good friendships, Lucas gives great strategies and "lists" to how to find a good relationship period, whether that be romantic or simply friendship. I HIGHLY recommend this book. It also comes with discussion questions for you to ask yourself, your relationship, your parents and your pastor.
right on Feb 17, 2006
This book is awesome! I read it twice in one month... pick it up!
The best book I have read so far about relationships Apr 18, 2003
"Am I the one?" is the best book I read so far about dating and relationships. Most of the books I have read in the past were somewhat skewed towards female readers, but I can say, I was very satisfied. After all, who wants to settle for a mediocre marriage? I have passed the book on to friends and I have been receiving raving reviews. The Biblical references were both profound and refreshing.
great Apr 2, 2003
This book was completely refreshing, true there are some general concepts that he talks about that's talked in other books. That's to be expected in any dating/courting book, but this one is different. Instead of focusing on the hunt for "the one," we should be focusing on God, our lives, and becoming the right people in order to marry the right person.
The author avoids formulas, cliches, and legalistic rules. He puts things in a new perspective and brings different views to old ideas. He doesn't try to sugar coat anything and he tells it like it is.
There are four parts and here's what it covers:
Part 1: Building a Solid Foundation for Relationships
Chapter 1: "All I wanna do is have some fun" Chapter 2: Becoming a person worth knowing and marrying Chapter 3: Recognizing a person worth knowing and marrying Chapter 4*: Kissing Dumb Dating Goodbye
*in chapter 4, the author talks about the difference between smart dating and dumb dating. And that there's nothing wrong with dating a great and decent person.
Part 2: Facing the Sobering Realities about relationships and Marriage
Chapter 5: Before you tie the knot, make sure the rope isn't around your neck Chapter 6: 12 lousy reason for getting married Chapter 7: 12 problem people to avoid
Part 3: Recognizing the right match for a good marriage
Chapter 8: The best reasons for getting married Chapter 9: 12 things to be sure of before you get married Chapter 10: 10 ways to know you've found "The One."
Part 4: Life right now
Chapter 11: Celebrating singleness Chapter 12: Dealing with sex
I found this book to be quite refreshing from other books on dating/courting. Instead of trying to convince you that courting is more holy, or that dating is dirty, he takes a different approach on dating, friendship, and romance. He doesn't try to talk anyone down and its appropriate for teens and even people in their 20s.
I've read a lot of dating/courting books everything from I Kissed Dating Goodbye, Boy Meets Girl, Choosing God's Best, When God Writes Your Love Story, Passion & Purity, etc.
This book and WGWYLS(When God Writes Your Love Story) have got to be the best books around on dating, in my opinion anyway. I'd definately recommend it.
Ok Mar 14, 2003
I read about this book in the "CCM New Releases" flyer that came with an issue of the magazine. The article said that this book was better than most others because it talked about how YOU can become a person worth marrying instead of focusing only on looking for a person worth marrying. Which this book really does.
But this book lacks some. I have yet to meet someone who doesn't have at least one of the traits on the list of bad character traits in this book. Does that mean that I'm not supposed to marry?
One thing I did like about this book is the fact that the author explains how you should be a little picky, which is a good thing to hear, since all I hear here in Utah is that I should marry right away. Even the Christian college groups seem to emphasize this, as shown by the number of college students who blindly fly into marriage without much thinking.
I also did like the section on choosing friends of both genders. In that chapter he talks about some traits you should avoid. That part of the book actually did help me.
But the book did seem to be a lot like many others, and Lucas stresses some absolutes that many other date book authors do. I was glad I bought it on the sale shelf at a bookstore, instead of paying full price for it. Lucas does have his good points, but at times the book was dull on account of too many examples and not much info and the fact that the list of bad people includes so many people in my life. (In my case it included my father and one of my close friends) I felt that the bad traits list was a little off the deep end since no one I have met has met all of the criteria.
I do not really recommend this book--it isn't that much different from any other book on this subject matter.