Item description for Sexual Fulfillment: For Single and Married, Straight and Gay, Young and Old by Herbert W. Chilstrom & Lowell O. Erdahl...
Overview Clear and Christian answers to controversial questions... This book approaches some of the more difficult-to-discuss areas of human sexuality: * The human need for sexual fulfillment * Singles and sexual fulfillment * Sexual fulfillment in marriage * Heterosexual marriage * Same-sex relationships * Sexual fulfillment in the elder years The authors distinguish between "life-giving sex" and "life-degrading sex" by establishing four criteria for a healthy relationship: mutual love, mutual respect, mutual openness, and mutual faithfulness. They then discuss healthy sexuality in a variety of life stages and relationships. With a compassionate tone, the authors explore the issues Christian people face with respect to the experience and expression of their sexuality.
Publishers Description This book approaches some of the more difficult-to-discuss areas of human sexuality: singles and sexual fulfillment, unmarried persons and sexual fulfillment, same-sex relationships, and sexual fulfillment in the elder years.
The authors distinguish between "life-giving sex" and "life-degrading sex". They then discuss healthy sexuality in a variety of life stages and relationships. With a pastoral and compassionate tone, the authors explore the issues Christian people face with respect to the experience and expression of their sexuality. Questions for discussion are intended both to elicit personal reflection and to move congregations to become safe places
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Studio: AUGSBURG BOOKS
Est. Packaging Dimensions: Length: 8.51" Width: 5.51" Height: 0.51" Weight: 0.59 lbs.
Release Date Feb 1, 2001
Publisher Augsburg Fortress Publishers
ISBN 0806640472 ISBN13 9780806640471
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The best book on sexuality and the church I've found. Oct 2, 2007
This book isn't a commentary on the church's (ELCA) stances on sexuality. Instead, it's a book that provides a framework for dealing with human sexuality (regardless of orientation, marital status, etc). Too often the church just says "no sex outside marriage" with no other specific advice and no mention of the fact that we all have hormones. This book, in keeping with Luther's tradition of Scripture, Tradition, and Reason, explores sexuality as a gift that comes with responsibilities. A great read for a young adult, and I really wish it'd been given to me when I was in highschool as part of the church's sex ed curriculum.
Neither helpful or Biblical Mar 15, 2002
This book takes tolerance to the point of ridiculous. Two former bishops in the Lutheran church--who therefore should have a strong sense of responsibility as teachers--Chilstrom and Erdahl claim to put forth a middle ground in this book on sexuality. Instead, they ultimately end up suggesting a life style that is hard to distinguish from "If it feels good, do it."
Their discussion on homosexuality is a good case-in-point. They had held the traditional church view until they met with many GLBT people who spoke openly about their sexuality. Based on this testimony the authors were convinced their previous conservative point of view was incorrect and over time started advocating for their church to change its stance.
This methodology would be akin to the following: Over the course of my life I have met many alcoholics who claim *their drinking has not hurt anyone *everyone else is making a bigger deal about this then they should. *their lifestyle is not the problem, rather it is all those AA people who are making their life terrible by convincing everyone that alcoholism is bad *if judgemental people would just back off everyone could live happier lives
If I were to take this information from these first-hand, passionate sources and write a statement to the Lutheran church advocating for tolerance for alcoholics, I would be writing in the spirit of Chilstrom and Erdahl. My book would be very popular among people who are looking for an excuse to drink more and have theyir decadent desires ordained by the church. It would be very tolerant--as long as people overlook those who are hurt by it.
Chilstrom and Erdahl have overlooked many things in order to get their conclusions in this book. They have overlooked the true joy that comes from not following every sexual urge. They have overlooked harmful side affects (both physical and psychological) of some of the practices they are condoning. They have also overlooked what affect these practices have on the community around those who live them out. Finally, they have overlooked the biblical witness which claims that we are sinful beings and therefore our carnal desires _may_ not always be holy or healthy.
Solid Coherent Eposition of Christian faith and Human Sexual Aug 3, 2001
Walks a fine path between conservative traditionalism and permissivism, Chilstrom and Erdahl's work offers practical Christian hope between the extremes.
Opinion over Principle Jun 22, 2001
Herbert Chilstrom and Lowell Erdahl make use of the fact that they have been pastors and officials in the Evangelical Lutheran Church of America to validate their book. The fact is that their book is neither evangelical nor Lutheran nor in keeping with the teachings of the church. Therefore they should in fairness have refrained from bolstering their opinions with references to their service in the church. The members of their church have every right to resent this.
The ELCA's constitution holds that the Scriptures are superior to human opinion and reason. Obviously this principle is not upheld by Erdahl and Chilstrom.
An absolutely amazing book! Mar 23, 2001
Chilstrom and Erdahl are both retired pastors and former bishops of their church. Maybe this fact shouldn't make a difference in whether or not to read such a well-written book, but I believe it provides a level of credibility to the positions they hold. They speak frankly to how their viewpoints on sexuality, especially on homosexuality, have changed over the years as they have studied the Bible and listened to God's leading in their lives. The level of tolerance and acceptance they hold and urge on others is a welcome surprise coming from men of the church of their generation. For anyone who has ever struggled with the reality that we are all created as sexual beings, but society (and, in general, the church) does not recognize all people as sexual beings, this book will be a refreshing read. It is, without a doubt, the best book on the subject that I have ever read or heard of. Each chapter ends with a "Dear Abby" Q&A format of related questions that have come up in counselling sessions. At the end of the book are questions for discussion that could be used for small group study. I wish I could personally thank these men for writing such a wonderful book!