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Overview She stole your ideas and took them to your boss. She gave you a compliment, but it sounded more like an insult. She shared your secret with a few of her friends.
Yep, the mean girl is back. What you thought you left behind in high school has now followed you to college, the neighborhood, and even the workforce. The truth is that even adult women find all kinds of ways to be mean.
So what's a girl to do? Mean Girls All Grown Up shows you why you might have a mean girl in your life, how you can discover what she has against you, and why calling on God for restoration and freedom is the ultimate way to get rid of mean for good.
If you remember the gossip, insults, and cutthroat competition like yesterday because it was yesterday, then this is the book for you. Mean Girls All Grown Up can help you get past the hurt and look at women, including yourself, in a whole new light.
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Est. Packaging Dimensions: Length: 8.5" Width: 5.4" Height: 0.6" Weight: 0.7 lbs.
Release Date Aug 31, 2005
Publisher Baker Publishing Group
ISBN 080073100X ISBN13 9780800731007
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More About Hayley DiMarco
Hayley DiMarco is the bestselling author of more than thirty books, including Dateable, Mean Girls, Over It, Die Young, God Girl, The God Girl Devotional Bible and The Fruitful Wife. She spent the early part of her career working for a little shoe company called Nike in Portland, Oregon and Thomas Nelson Publishers in Nashville, Tennessee. In 2002, She founded her company Hungry Planet.
Hayley has been a featured guest speaker for such large events as Women of Faith, Precept National Women’s Convention, D6 Conference, and MOPS Intl. Leadership Convention among others. She has also consulted on the creation and enhancement of some of the largest stadium events tuned to teens and young women in North America.
Hayley is married to another bestselling author, Michael DiMarco, and is mother to the most amazing daughter on the planet.
Hayley DiMarco currently resides in Nashville, in the state of Tennessee.
Reviews - What do customers think about Mean Girls All Grown Up: Surviving Catty and Conniving Women?
Some Interesting Material but... Jan 2, 2007
This book really does apply mostly to Christians as its proofs are Christian specific. Should one be of another religion then they will be fairly discombobulated by the author's reliance on scripture as a means for justifying her positions. I don't know Mrs. Dimarco personally, but I am rather certain that she is a member of one of Christianity's more evangelizing wings as there is much here that would even confuse Catholics. In fairness, the title of the book should probably have been Mean Girls All Grown Up: A Guide for Christians as there is not hint of its biblical emphasis on the cover.
While I can see why several readers were disappointed, I do think the author has some excellent analysis here. I also think that "forgiving your enemies" is the best thing for one's own mental health. I don't say this out of a desire to religiously parrot, however. I truly think that when one holds grudges they drink a glass of poison every day while expecting the other person to die. Furthermore, I admit to my own hypocrisy here as I have been unable to forgive properly on a handful of occasions. Yet, the way she advocates is undoubtedly best for the person cursed with the ire of mean women.
I want my money back! Sep 8, 2006
If I had wanted a book that was full of Bible versus I would have bought one! I feel that the title mirepresented the whole thought behind the book. It was a waste of money and, if I could, I would return it! I didn't get beyond the first chapter, but the thought that I would "find having a friendship with women diffucult after being friends with guys" was insulting to say the least. I have plently of close female friends but was looking for a good read about "Queen Bees", etc. I will never again buy a book by this author.
I wasted my money! Aug 18, 2006
Apparently I was looking for the book with a very similar title by Dellasega. Somehow, I missed the fact that this book is saturated with Christianity, complete with scripture references to back up its points. I'm frustrated that this isn't spelled out for a prospective buyer... no mention of Christianity in the title, subtitle, or editorial reviews. Not my style... to the point where I can't stomach even the first chapter. Wish I would have known before wasting my time and money. And I imagine that women who are Christian might be more interested in the book if it were accurately described.
This book is an open invitation for bullies everywhere May 9, 2006
I'm sorry, but this book is worse than useless. It basically tells the reader not to protect herself or to stand up for herself. It tells readers to turn the other cheek, try to placate, ignore and try to be nice as an example. Most women who buy this book are probably in the victim position and are looking for useful tools to help them become stronger so that they will no longer be prime targets for bullies. Women who are being victimized got that way from being the good girls, the nice girls, not causing any waves, not rocking the boat and living in a lot of fear. The last thing they need is more advice on how to lie down in front of a bully and pray and quote scripture in hopes that the bully will have an epiphany and go away. They are looking for awareness to protect themselves from being bullied and for tools to increase their self-esteem. I read Mean Girls Grown Up : Adult Women Who Are Still Queen Bees, Middle Bees, and Afraid-to-Bees -- by Cheryl Dellasega, which was a wonderful book and has helped me immensely. The whole premise of Ms. Dellasega's book is strength, self-esteem and awareness. I then began Ms. Dimarco's book and couldn't believe what I was reading. I could not finish the book. I would not recommend this book to anyone searching for an end to the bullying.
pretty accurate--hard to digest Dec 10, 2005
I went back and read this book for a second time-and to my chagrin discovered that my rage was in part due to the fact that this book is about as daunting as my Psychology 1010 textbook was (no pun to the author). It might be smaller, more colorful and a good deal less wordy, (and I am quite sure I could pass the final) but it is daunting, nonetheless. I will break it up into sections so that its ideas can be explained easier.
First off, this book is what it says. Its goal is to help you, in a sense, deal with women who are catty towards you. The part it does not mention (which is probably the part Sister Renee got offended by) is the fact that it also looks at you. In fact, after assessing that you have a mean girl problem, and giving you the guided 5 cent tour of the kinds of mean girl-the author asks you this pivotal question-where you/are you mean yourself? Because, frankly, 99.9% of women gossip, and countless others are involved in the race to be the greatest. (In fact, as far as I am concerned, that .01% that is in the statistic are nuns and other really religious types of women who have taken a permanent vow of silence).
Secondly, there is a section on how you might be inadvertently attracting mean girls-by being confident, shy, good looking inside and out, and assertive. There are solutions to these problems, she stresses-by thinking of others and how they might perceive you-by thinking of others first.
Next, we have the section I presume is reserved for us unmarried girls who get offended by the fact that so and so stole our man-and we blame her. Realizing that the guy is more at fault than the girl, you should hold him to it-not her. I can agree with that-because half the time when a guy is on the prowl, he doesn't tell the women he is considering that he has a significant other. I've been in that situation-when I find out I bail-but, frankly, in every instance I've noticed the same guy keeps trying until he can find a woman who doesn't care that he is taken and will become his second girlfriend/mistress. (In which case, if you are married to the guy, you should get some counseling for the guy-not for the girls he is hitting on). So obviously, the man is more than the problem there-get him some help.
Next there is the mean girl cycle-laid out is the habit most women have of getting even, then the woman comes after them to get even-and on and on it goes. It talks about the difference between seeking vengeance or revenge and rebuking. It is at this point that the trail for repentance begins-and the prayer for the mean girl follows.
The next two sections deal with trials and tribulations (that ever recurring theme that trials are put into your life for a reason) coupled with never getting offended, unless of course Jesus has been insulted (in which case you are supposed to take offense-kind of like how most people do when their siblings are being ganged up on-you know-no one torments my brother/sister except me type of deal-you are doing it for them, not for yourself.)
Next comes the part where DiMarco talks about dying to self, getting rid of certain psychological theories (self-esteem being one of them, along with introspection). The next section talks about making nice with a mean girl, loving her, giving her gifts-even when she doesn't return the favor. Next is my all-time favorite: she kills off that theory that the average American Christian has that non-believers are to be held to the same standard as believers. (e.g., boycotting a certain toy company because of a stance on abortion when they are not a Christian company until they surrender to the Christian stance on abortion; whining about the lack of mention of Christmas). Untrue, DiMarco mentions, because they are unrepentant and do not believe that Christ died for their sins. (That was one lesson I learned very painfully from the Mormons). Next: the two times when you should confront a believer-to reconcile and to hold accountable. I was taught that one a long time ago-the accountability part I've noticed goes unpracticed in most churches-people would rather gossip about the problem than confront the person about it-to the point where I live you have to use that verse often because people let the problems get so out of hand that it is disturbing. Next is Jesus on mean girls-and finally, the "Non-Proliferation of Mean" pact-but if you like what you've read in this review so far then you should probably read the book-buy it or borrow it-to find out what is in that last part.
In parting, I noticed that one of the reviewers talked about the Biblical basis for this book-most of it, I will say, is right on the mark-my former pastors, mentor, and several other Christian authors (Susie Shellenberger, Nancy Rue) talk about the concepts in this book. Some of these concepts were mentioned in one of the Lily Robbins non-fiction companion books, as well as in Robin Jones Gunn's Christy Miller and Sierra Jensen books. I would never read "Boundaries" by Cloud and Townsend. Not even my non-Christian therapist would recommend that book (she had a preference towards the "Five Love Languages.") Self-esteem as a concept is not even a theory backed by all the many theories of psychology. For the most part, DiMarco's book did not disagree with what I have been taught, her scripture use jives with most of what I've been taught. The NASB Bible is regarded by many to be one of the more accurate translations of the Bible. I read Spanish as well, and when the Bible says the same thing in both langauges, well, there is not much to argue with.