Item description for Love Busters: Protecting Your Marriage from Habits That Destroy Romantic Love by Willard F. Harley...
Overview How spouses affect each other has a tremendous bearing on the success and failure of marriage. In this fifteenth anniversary edition of Love Busters, Willard F. Harley, Jr., helps couples identify and overcome the most common habits that destroy the feeling of love, including selfish demands, disrespectful judgments, angry outbursts, dishonesty, annoying habits, and thoughtless behavior. Harley also explains how to resolve common marital conflicts, such as career choices and financial planning.
You can't eliminate conflict altogether, but once these Love Busters are eliminated conflicts can be resolved with love and grace. With Harley's expert guidance, couples will be able to avoid those behaviors that tear a marriage apart and focus instead on building their love for each other.
Publishers Description How spouses treat each other has a tremendous bearing on the success and failure of marriage. In this completely updated and revised edition of "Love Busters," Willard F. Harley, Jr., helps couples identify and overcome the most common habits that destroy the feeling of love, including selfish demands, disrespectful judgments, angry outbursts, dishonesty, annoying habits, and thoughtless behavior. Harley also explains how to resolve common marital conflicts such as career choices and financial planning. You can't eliminate conflict altogether, but once these "Love Busters" are eliminated, conflicts can be resolved with love and grace. With Harley's expert guidance, couples will be able to avoid those behaviors that tear a marriage apart and focus instead on building their love for each other. This companion to "His Needs, Her Needs" and "Fall in Love, Stay in Love" is perfect for pastors, counselors, and couples.
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Est. Packaging Dimensions: Length: 9.04" Width: 6.44" Height: 1.07" Weight: 1.25 lbs.
Release Date May 1, 2008
Publisher Baker Publishing Group
ISBN 0800718941 ISBN13 9780800718947
Availability 0 units.
More About Willard F. Harley
Willard F. Harley, Jr. is a nationally acclaimed clinical psychologist, marriage counselor, and bestselling author. His popular website, www.marriagebuilders.com, offers practical solutions to almost any marital problem. Dr. Harley and his wife, Joyce, host a three-hour live radio call-in show called Marriage Builders Radio and Marriage Builders Weekends across the country. They live in Minnesota.
Reviews - What do customers think about Love Busters?
Instructive, wise and entertaining!! Oct 4, 2009
There is a proverb in Arabic which says: "After the month of honey is over, the month of onions start". What does a married couple do in order to avoid such a sad prophecy? One of the advices that Willard F. Harley, Jr. offers in his book is that each person should place more importance on mutual enjoyment and less on tiresome commitments. Through numerous examples he explains the interactions between the two persons that cant trigger positive or negative behaviors. The aim is to be able to keep the romance going. The lessons to learn are to focus on the value of compromise, deal with criticisms, manage one's temper, appreciate honesty, learn how to deal with financial conflicts and avoid annoying habits and manipulative and erratic behavior. This is an instructive, wise and entertaining book.
Joyce Akesson, author of Love's Thrilling Dimensions and The Invitation
A Realistic Look at Marriage Today Sep 28, 2009
"If you want to be in love with each other, you should place far more importance on mutual enjoyment than on trying to follow through on commitments that cause one of you to suffer." ~ pg. 214
Staying married can at times be very difficult in our modern age. You may feel like throwing your hands up and taking the easier route: divorce. If divorce is however not a feasible option for you then "Love Busters" may have a lot to offer.
Willard F. Harley, Jr. explains the dynamics at work in the typical relationship. He explains how our internal "taker" or "giver" encourages a variety of positive and negative behaviors. Throughout the book he gives real-life examples from his own practice. These are very revealing and help to paint a portrait of a successful or unsuccessful relationship.
Some of the topics in this book include a serious discussion about radical honesty, a revealing look at annoying habits and an extremely helpful look at financial conflicts.
Whether you are constantly arguing with your partner or you are in a new relationship that you hope will be successful, this book has a lot of good advice. I would especially recommend this book to newlyweds who want to beat the odds and stay married. You can either learn everything in this book from personal experience (the hard way) or you can use the wisdom in this book to build a very strong relationship.
~The Rebecca Review
Useful insights, helpful information Dec 17, 2008
A wonderful book, full of insight and guidance. It really helps you see both your partner's conduct, and your own, from a different perspective - one unencumbered by emotions and baggage. You begin to understand the reasons why we act and react the way we do, and why things bother us so much - for example, why we can easily disregard an offhanded remark from a colleague, but rip up our loved one for the same thing. Contains helpful strategies for identifying, and hopefully changing, patterns of behavior (habits) that subtract loving feelings. Highly recommended.
A guide to keeping the spark alive in marriages by avoiding certain habits that drive wedges in between people Aug 18, 2008
Keep the romance going - that's the secret of long-lasting marriages. Now in a newly revised and expanded edition, "Love Busters: Protecting Your Marriage from Habits That Destroy Romantic Love" is a guide to keeping the spark alive in marriages by avoiding certain habits that drive wedges in between people, and starve the love that brought them together in the first place. Focusing on important matters such as the value of compromise, dealing with criticisms, managing one's temper, and the severe threats of lies or erratic behavior, "Love Busters" is an ideal read for any married couple. "Love Busters: Protecting Your Marriage from Habits That Destroy Romantic Love" is highly recommended for community library relationship collections.
One of the Best May 25, 2008
I bought this book years ago and have given it away ever since. The update version is even better and is IMHO one of the best marriage books out there. In fact you can not go wrong with any of Dr. Harley's books but a must to have are His Needs Her Needs and Love Busters. Dr. Harley gives principles for guiding a marriage into harmony and explains how to use these principles to feed or deprive love. He moves on to explain how to use the same principle to address and rectify almost every issue you'll ever face together by showing the most common injuries that hurt your mate. I've read hundreds of marriage books and this by far beats 99% of them.