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Loving Your Parents When They Can No Longer Love You [Paperback]

By Terry Hargrave (Author)
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We live in the age of aging. Because of this, there are a number of challenges presented to the family?among the most complex is the job of caring for frail parents. Weaving practical help together with personal stories, this book will help people embrace the job of caregiving as an opportunity to learn more about life and God.

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Insights on Caring for Any Aging Parent * Timely guidance for the challenges * Encouragement for the journey You had plans for this time in your life, but now a parent needs care. It s a confusing, stressful, and exhausting time. But it can also be a time of remarkable spiritual growth. Loving Your Parents When They Can No Longer Love You helps you navigate your role as caregiver with God s grace and guidance. And it alerts you to the difficult issues you may face, such as: * Legal and financial decisions * How much care will be needed and when * Evaluating different living options * Depression, dementia, and Alzheimer s disease * Caring for a parent who has mistreated you * Accepting and planning for death Most important, this book helps you embrace caregiving as a spiritual journey that will deepen your faith and strengthen your character. It not only opens your eyes to the realities of caregiving; it also teaches you how to allow God to change your life for the better."

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Studio: Zondervan
Pages   251
Est. Packaging Dimensions:   Length: 8.04" Width: 5.25" Height: 0.69"
Weight:   0.47 lbs.
Binding  Softcover
Release Date   Mar 1, 2005
Publisher   Zondervan Publishing
ISBN  0310255635  
ISBN13  9780310255635  
UPC  025986255633  

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Required reading for anyone with aging parents  May 3, 2005
Taking on a tough and timely issue for millions of Americans, Terry D. Hargrave's book is much more than the title would suggest. It is about more than dealing with aging parents with Alzheimers or another mental problems where they can no longer express affection for you the way they once did. It also examines the problems of how the need to care for aging parents may disrupt your life and plans. How do you deal with dependent parents? How do you deal with forgetfulness, not taking medicine, doing things they should no longer be doing, etc. The book and the advice it contains is both practical, such as finishing up family business, and enlightening.

The author deals with this problem in part by changing perspective and viewing the process of caring for aging parents as a spiritual journey that you undertake. He also looks from the perspective of the parent - trying to deal with declining health, a lack of independence, and other normal changes that come with age.

One particularly valuable aspect of the book is that it provides a clear vision of areas that need to be discussed and dealt with as parents age. These areas include legal and financial decisions, how much care is needed, when it needs to be done, by whom it should be done, various living options, depression, dementia, alzheimer's disease, dealing with a parent who has been unkind, and accepting and planning for death. Loving Your Parents When They Can No Longer Love You is highly recommended for anyone dealing with aging parents and the life changes that come about as a result.
An excellent treatise on caring for aging parents   Apr 2, 2005
Despite the misleading title of LOVING YOUR PARENTS WHEN THEY CAN NO LONGER LOVE YOU, this is an excellent treatise on caring for aging parents at any stage of their decline. Author Terry Hargrave (FINISHING WELL, FAMILIES AND FORGIVENESS) offers competent, concrete, and compassionate help for adult children specifically addressing the spiritual, emotional, physical, and mental ramifications of caregivers and their aging parents.

Hargrave acknowledges that caring for an aging parent can be a wearisome, seemingly thankless task. "When we give care to an older person, however, we sacrifice for one who grows weaker, interacts less, and eventually will die," writes Hargrave. "It is a service and sacrifice for which we see very little --- maybe even nothing. Caregiving for an older person is purely about servanthood." In providing care for the elderly, we care for our own souls, he believes.

For those whose parents are in the early stages of decline, Hargrave offers a simple chart, the "Instrumental Activities of Daily Living and Activities of Daily Living" that allows adult children to assess how much care the parent requires. Can he cook a meal safely? Is she capable of unassisted walking? Can he take his medications unassisted?

Once it's established that some sort of intervention is required, he explains the four ways an aging parent might respond. There is the "make lemonade" type who makes caregiving pleasant; the "pretend it's not happening" type who insists he doesn't need help; the "poor pitiful me" type who acts helpless to do anything on her own; and the "whatever" type who is passive and possibly depressed. Hargrave offers suggestions for responding to each type with compassion and firmness.

He points out three areas that must be addressed: Medications, incontinence, and driving, and ideas for sensitively assessing and confronting each issue with the parent. A whole chapter is devoted to housing: Where should the failing parent live? What modifications can be made in the home so the parent can stay independent as long as possible? What are the positives and negatives about hiring a caregiver? What options are available when full-time care becomes necessary?

Another chapter helps the adult child open up conversations about finances, and avoid disagreements and misuse of the family's money by ill-intentioned siblings. His illustrations are firmly grounded in reality --- not all families will agree on how a parent should be cared for, and not all stories end happily-ever-after. However, his practical advice will help a number of readers avoid many of the common conflicts in caregiving.

There's a specific chapter on the warning signs and the implications of caring for elderly parents who have dementia and Alzheimer's. "No one can quite describe the pain of having your parent, who has loved you with all of his or her heart, look at you and not have the slightest idea who you are," writes Hargrave, who is a caregiver for his mother-in-law, who has Alzheimer's. "It is a slow, excruciating grief, something like pulling off an enormous Band-Aid wrapped around your heart --- but you don't get it yanked off quickly with one sharp pain; rather, it gets pulled off slowly and painfully over many years."

A controversial, but necessary, chapter deals with the inevitable death of the parent. Hargrave discusses such difficult decisions as when to intervene, and when prolonging death becomes its own tragedy. He emphasizes the importance of a living will, and making sure adult children have access to it. He also believes in the importance of helping an elderly parent die well, and shows several scenarios that illustrate what this might look like (giving the parent permission to die, hospice, talking about death and what the parent would like to see happen at the funeral).

You'll want to keep the Kleenex handy as Hargrave shares his own experiences and stories of those families he has counseled when he worked in a personal care facility for the elderly. Each poignant story illustrates factual information, vividly showing what the response to a situation with an elderly parent might look like in "real life." Questions for discussion or personal reflection end each chapter.

This helpful book will smooth the way for adults to care for their aging parents with compassionate wisdom.

--- Reviewed by Cindy Crosby

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