Item description for Coping With Your Difficult Older Parent : A Guide for Stressed-Out Children by Grace LeBow, Barbara Kane & Irwin LeBow...
Overview Offers particular advice for adults who are caring for previously estranged and/or increasingly difficult aging parents, presenting common-sense advice on ending the cycle of blame, guilt, and anger while volunteering sample dialogues of difficult situations. Original.
Publishers Description Do You Have An Aging Parent Who --
Blames you for everything that goes wrong?Cannot tolerate being alone, wants you all the time?Is obsessed with health problems, real, or imagined?Make unreasonable and/or irrational demands of you?Is hostile, negative and critical?
Coping with these traits in parents is an endless high-stress battle for their children. Though there's no medical defination for "difficult" parents, you know when you have one. While it's rare for adults to change their ways late in life, you can stop the vicious merry-go-round of anger, blame, guilt and frustration.
For the first time, here's a common-sense guide from professionals, with more than two decades in the field, on how to smooth communications with a challenging parent. Filled with practical tips for handling contentious behaviors and sample dialogues for some of the most troubling situations, this book addresses many hard issues, including: How to tell your parent he or she cannot live with you. How to avoid the cycle of nagging and recriminations How to prevent your parent's negativity from overwhelming you. How to deal with an impaired parent who refuses to stop driving. How to asses the risk factors in deciding whether a parent is still able to live alone.
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Studio: Harper Paperbacks
Est. Packaging Dimensions: Length: 8.08" Width: 5.38" Height: 0.56" Weight: 0.45 lbs.
Release Date Feb 1, 1999
Publisher Harper Paperbacks
ISBN 038079750X ISBN13 9780380797509 UPC 099455012959
Availability 0 units.
More About Grace LeBow, Barbara Kane & Irwin LeBow
Grace Lebow and Barbara Kane, the co-founders of Aging Network Services of Bethesda, Maryland, are clinical social workers and care managers, specializing in older people and their families. They created a nationwide network of similar professionals to work with geographically separated families. This is their first book.
Grace LeBow currently resides in Bethesda, in the state of Maryland.
Reviews - What do customers think about Coping With Your Difficult Older Parent : A Guide for Stressed-Out Children?
Terrific May 26, 2008
This book provided a great resource for us in dealing with a difficult mother-in-law. We still have problems with her, but the book has help identify how to cope with some of her behaviros and we seem to be able to cope much better.
You will relate May 8, 2008
If you are dealing with a difficult situation with your older parent, it will help to read this work. The authors present different personality and communication styles that are common toboth the older adult and the adult child. They then describe why older adults say some of the things they do how to respond in a way that is firm yet respectful of the needs of both adult and child. If you had the time and the inclination to think about what these authors suggest you might of come up with some of the same conclusions. They have done it for you. I refer to mine often.
Will you still love me when I'm 64? Apr 20, 2008
Don't buy this book. I'll be good.
I'm not going to the track anymore! See! I'll stop gambling away your inheritance. I'll even stop having sex with that woman. Point is, you don't have to chain me to the radiator.
Remember that time I took you to the baseball game? Wasn't that fun! Ha Ha.
Practical & Helpful Apr 10, 2008
This book is very easy to use as an aide in dealing with difficult aging parents. It starts with a questionnaire which helps categorize what type of difficult person you are dealing with and then has chapters dealing with each category. It includes lots of real examples and gives tips as to how grown children can best deal and cope with the different situations that arise. It also includes an extensive Bibliography for further reading. I recommend this to those who are having a hard time with their aging parents. (It does not address dealing with alzheimers though).
--Karen Arlettaz Zemek, author of "My Funny Dad, Harry"
coping with elders Feb 14, 2008
Although there are some good points in this point, the overwhelming view seems to be that the younger folks have to continually sacrifice their self esteem, personal values, and integrity to coddle an elder. There are some folks who are mean and nasty all of their lives and seem to get worse as they age. The tactics do not work on these people and they are quick to tell you about "your tactics" or demean you for trying. Don't fool yourself that this will work 100% of the time. Too many self help books with quick fixes and trite responses