Item description for Desperate Pastors' Wives (Secrets from Lulu's Cafe Series #1) by Ginger Kolbaba...
Overview Seeking fulfillment in their lives as pastors' wives, Jennifer, Felicia, Lisa, and Mimi secretly connect with one another during monthly lunch meetings at a cafe several miles from their town and congregations.
Publishers Description Four pastors' wives. All desperate for something. "Is it possible that their desperation will lead to hope?" Mimi, Lisa, Jennifer, and Felicia all live in the fishbowl of Red River, Ohio. Everyone expects something from them. Gourmet casseroles. Perfect husbands. Well-behaved children. They expect even more of themselves. The constant demands and always-ringing phones are enough to drive any sane woman crazy. Add to all that the condescending Katherine Fleming Katt -- self-promoting pastor's wife of the town's largest church -- who loves to flaunt her superior position. In the midst of such chaos, will each woman find the one thing she longs for? When the unflappable Kitty Katt starts showing up at odd places, the four friends get suspicious. Is Kitty hiding something? What secrets lie behind her "perfect" exterior? But even more significant than unraveling Kitty Katt's secrets is finding answers for themselves.
Citations And Professional Reviews Desperate Pastors' Wives (Secrets from Lulu's Cafe Series #1) by Ginger Kolbaba has been reviewed by professional book reviewers and journalists at the following establishments -
Christian Retailing - 03/05/2007 page 22
Library Journal - 04/01/2007 page 69
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Studio: Howard Books
Est. Packaging Dimensions: Length: 8.16" Width: 5.64" Height: 0.81" Weight: 0.79 lbs.
Release Date Jul 18, 2015
Publisher Howard Publishing
Series Secrets From Lulus Cafe
ISBN 1582296324 ISBN13 9781582296326
Availability 0 units.
More About Ginger Kolbaba
Ginger Kolbaba is the managing editor of Marriage Partnership magazine. As her husband's second wife, she offers a refreshing perspective on the adjustments of remarriage. The author of Dazzled to Frazzled and Back Again: The Bride's Survival Guide, Ginger and her husband live in West Dundee, Illinois.
Ginger Kolbaba currently resides in West Dundee, in the state of Illinois.
Reviews - What do customers think about Desperate Pastors' Wives (Secrets from Lulu's Cafe Series #1)?
Extremely disapointed. Nov 22, 2008
I bought this book thinking that since I had been a "Desperate pastor's Wife" at one time thinking i could identify with it and being i love mysteries-of which it stated it was-I was disapointed. It was silly and had very little of what could be called, "Mystery" about it. It was a light read for those that might like that, but I like a little more substance.
It's a Hard Knock Life for Us Jan 24, 2008
Being a pastor's wife is tough. Everyone judges you, tells you what to do, and you're always in the spotlight. You can't complain about this to anyone else because you're supposed to be a spiritual leader in the church with no problems at all. That's what it's like for Mimi, Felicia, Lisa and Jennifer. The foursome get together bi-weekly to share their problems, frustrations, stories and laughter. This is their chance to let it all out because no one else understands what life is like for them.
This book was a refreshing realistic view into the hardships of what it's like to be a pastor's wife. Reading books about members of a pastor's family are always difficult for me to read. It really irks me about the absurd expectations people place on the the pastor and his family. Why do we as church members think that the pastor's family should be perfect and that we have a right to judge every move they make? We're hypocrites. We think that because we "pay for their salary" we have the right to tell them what to do, call they up at anytime for our bidding, and pass along our advice on how to raise their family. There were several interesting revelations I discovered while reading. One was how competitive pastor's wives are with each other which was the case with Kitty. Now that was a character you love to hate. I actually enjoyed reading all her scenes because she's the type of Christian who's walking around with the plank in her eye. While I enjoyed the book, there were several things that irked me. Out of the four women, Mimi was my least favorite. Her story just doesn't make as much of a statement as the other 3. I know she was tired of having the church members constantly dictating what they could do but it didn't seem as important as the other 3 stories. And honestly I found her refusal to stop joining things rather annoying. Mark comes off as the most supportive husband in fact. Now as for the other three wives, I could understand their plights more. It's not fair for Felicia to be looked down on simply because she wants to work outside the home. The pressure put on Jennifer to have a baby is very realistic in this day and age but it's not right for church members to make her feel unworthy for not having a baby. However, the story seemed to portray Catholics as completely different from other Christians. Also I don't blame Lisa one bit for her anger towards Joel for not treating her with love and respect. I've said before, what's the point in helping others if you can't keep your own family intact? I just felt though lot of the misunderstanding and tension in the story could have been made up very easily if people would just talk to each other. It would have made for a shorter story but a lot of drama could have been avoided. Still it was an enjoyable read and I am looking forward to the rest of the books in the series.
Desperate... a Little Nov 8, 2007
This is an interesting book to review. There is, first off, the book itself. The writing is pretty typical of Christian Fiction. Fluffy with moments of complete clarity and spiritual insight. Those moments make it very worth the read. Then, there is the subject matter - Pastors' Wives. Being a youth minister's wife, I found myself sometimes relating. Other times, I felt that the portrayal wasn't very realistic. But, perhaps it is because my husband isn't a "Senior" pastor and we no longer live in a small town.
There were times when I almost rolled my eyes. For instance...
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Felicia's husband was spending so much one-on-one time with Nancy Borden. Really? Ministry-wise, what an idiot. And, the younger kids seemed much older than their years. The three year old son did things and spoke like he was about 5 or 6. Same with the 4 year old daughter. And "Kitty Katt?" I'd give anything to have had her with a different name, for starters. And the perfect timing of Mimi puking on her? Not very believable. But, satisfying, so it's still cool. Her hidden past? Eye rolling material. The way none of the PWs stood up to her? What was that?! Does being a PW mean you have to be a doormat?
I do, in part, sympathize with the idea of not being able to be fully yourself in your church and around your church members. But, not quite to the degree they took it. For instance, Jennifer was terrified of what people thought when she missed a service. I have no idea how often our Senior Pastor's wife is at church on Sunday morning. When I miss a Sunday, no one berates me or makes odd assumptions about my personal life. I have pierced my nose and dyed my hair funky colors and the church members just laughed with me. I HAVE had people be mean. At one church, a lady actually complained because I was pregnant. I should not, in her opinion, have been around the teenagers in "that condition." *mega eye roll* Anywho... I don't know how Jennifer could have been married to her husband for 15 years and not have known anything about his first wife and their life together. That would simply not be acceptable in my marriage.
I suppose, every marriage is different. Corey and I certainly aren't perfect. Nor do we have a perfect relationship. Reading this book, I realized just how blessed I truly am. My husband always (99% of the time) puts me first. He knows how to say "no." The phone DOES ring a lot, but there are plenty of times that he turns it off, because we are having family time or "us" time. He doesn't spend time alone with other women. He doesn't expect me to be super woman. I can be as involved as I want to in the youth ministry. If I don't want to go to a meeting, then I don't. He doesn't compare me to Suzy Homemaker. He doesn't compare me to ANYONE for that matter.
This was the best passage in the book:
"...as a pastor, he's expendable. He could leave the church tomorrow, and God would find someone else to fill his role. But nobody else can or should fill his role as my husband and the father of our children."
I am blessed to have a husband who knows this without me having to tell him or remind him constantly.
So, overall, the book was pretty good. Not life-changing, but I read it for an easy-read, so I wasn't expecting C. S. Lewis or anything. It was okay. I might even read the next in the series: A Matter of Wife or Death.
Couldn't Put it Down Sep 17, 2007
I was preparing a presentation for pastors' wives (I'm one too), when I found an interview on the internet with the authors of this book. Their responses prompted me to buy the book. I read it in two days because I couldn't put it down. In the over-the-top style of Desperate Housewives, the book addresses some of the very real problems of being a pastor's wife in a humorous way as it follows four wives and their various problems. Any pastor's wife will recognize the truth of husbands forgetting to tell their wives about meetings at the house, the phone ringing constantly, and the unrealistic expections of church members. This is a book I'll keep.
Wonderful Read!!!! Aug 27, 2007
I just finished reading this book and was impressed. As a Pastor (Chaplain) wife, I found the stories to be relevant and touching. Although my husband is a military chaplain, the struggles are the same. I was pleasantly surprised at the issues that women many struggle with in this position. It was nice to see a group form to support one another, but it was better to see the love and compassion in supporting one another. They supported one another with wisdom and scripture. These ladies were able to be authentic with one another...feeling safe and transparent with each other and I loved that!!! The book was an easy and comforting read. I finished the book and passed it on to another Chaplain's wife. I can't wait until the next book comes out. I will definably add the second book to my collection. Thank you Christy and Ginger for writing our stories.