Item description for Out of Touch: When Parents and Children Lose Contact after Divorce by Geoffrey L. Greif...
Overview "Out of Touch" vividly and often heartbreakingly presents all the ways that fathers and mothers, even with the best intentions, can lose contact with their children after a divorce. Greif draws on 26 in-depth interviews with estranged parents and their children to show how families can employ support systems, communication, and other strategies to overcome the most difficult obstacles.
Publishers Description The breakdown of the family has moved in recent years to the forefront of national consciousness. All manner of social ills, from poor academic performance to teenage drug use and gang crime, have been attributed to high divorce rates and the collapse of the traditional two-parent family. Targets of particularly harsh criticism are parents who lose all contact with their children after a divorce. So-called "deadbeat dads" are denounced in political speeches and ridiculed on billboard advertisements; mothers who lose touch with their children are stigmatized as emotionally unstable or lacking maternal instincts. Everyone seems to understand the importance of children being raised by two-parent families and the damage that can occur when one parent loses contact completely. What is significantly less clear is why this loss of contact occurs and what can be done to prevent it. In Out of Touch, Geoffrey Greif explores these issues with clarity, compassion, insight, and an evenhandedness rarely encountered in an arena far more susceptible to acrimonious debate than sympathetic understanding. Setting out to find the reality beneath the catchall categorization of out-of-touch parents as deadbeats, substance abusers, child mistreaters, or criminals, Greif focuses on those parents who tried and, for a vast array of reasons, failed to maintain contact with their children. It is their voices, in a discussion dominated up till now by the custodial parent, that we most need to hear, Greif argues, if we are to uncover ways to avoid such failures in the future. Rather than offering dry statistics and abstract generalizations, Greif lets us hear these voices directly in 26 in-depth interviews with estranged parents and with children caught in the crossfire of painful divorces. Extending over a period of two to ten years, these interviews, and Greif's perceptive analyses of them, reveal the whole spectrum of logistical, emotional, and legal difficulties that keep parents and children apart. From the ordinary problems of visitation rights and child support to the more complex and troubling issues--bitter court battles, accusations of sexual abuse, domestic violence, children rejecting a parent, child kidnapping, and many others--Out of Touch vividly and often heartbreakingly presents all the ways that fathers and mothers, even with the best intentions, can lose contact with their children. But the book does more than tell the stories of failed relationships. Its concluding chapter offers a series of specific and extremely helpful suggestions for families--parents, children, grandparents--who find themselves in danger of complete estrangement. Greif outlines how families can employ support systems, communication skills, mediation, and many other strategies to overcome the most difficult obstacles that occur after a divorce. It is here that the lessons gleaned from the broken relationships of the past become invaluable advice for the future. Informed by fresh perspectives, moving personal accounts, and a clear-sighted approach to a tangled issue, Out of Touch is a timely and deeply important book about both the forces that drive parents and children apart and the understanding that can keep them together.
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Studio: Oxford University Press, USA
Est. Packaging Dimensions: Length: 9.48" Width: 6.38" Height: 1.15" Weight: 1.2 lbs.
Release Date Apr 3, 1997
Publisher Oxford University Press
ISBN 0195095359 ISBN13 9780195095357
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More About Geoffrey L. Greif
Geoffrey L. Greif is Associate Dean and Professor at the School of Social Work at the University of Maryland at Baltimore.
Geoffrey L. Greif has an academic affiliation as follows - University of Maryland, USA University of Maryland School of Social Wo.
Reviews - What do customers think about Out of Touch: When Parents and Children Lose Contact after Divorce?
This book explained a lot. Apr 21, 2007
As a mother of a child who's father chose to stop any contact with him despite living in the same town, I purchased this book in hopes that I could somehow understand what would motivate someone to do that, and so that I could somehow explain to my son someday why he would leave messages for his father and never get a return phone call. Giving those kinds of answers are not easy, and they are not fully given in this book - perhaps because there are no easy answers in situations like this.
The book was well researched, and reading other people's stories was very comforting. It was also a great help to hear from the children in the situations as adults, and their perspectives on their own pain and, sometimes, their own choices not to talk to their absent parent.
I would recommend this book to anyone dealing with the situation of an absent parent, though I think the book's lack of wholly blaming one side or the other completely and its balanced approach of looking at all sides to the story may not sit well with someone looking to read a book that validates the idea that their ex is solely, and that they are completely blameless in the situation.
I was not impressed. Aug 9, 1999
As a father who has not been allowed to see his daughter for 4 years, and who continually hopes that the courts will enforce their many orders issued, I was extremely interested in this book -- and in particular the sections on dealing with children after having been out of their lives for so long. This book deals only with solutions would only apply in the most uncommonly of friendly situations, which is likely a reflection of the one-sided look taken at most cases dealt with. I was most disappointed with this book.