Item description for When His Secret Sin Breaks Your Heart: Letters to Hurting Wives by Kathy Gallagher & Beverly LaHaye...
Overview Behind every husband enslaved to sexual sin, there is a woman reaping the horrible side effects of his self-centered life-style. What can be more devastating for a wife than to discover her husband has a secret obsession with pornography and other women? Yet, this is what countless Christian wives face every day. Kathy Gallagher has been there; she understands the pain of rejection, the feelings of hopelessness and the questions that plague a hurting wife.
In this collection of letters, Kathy imparts heart-felt encouragement by providing the practical, biblical answers that helped her find healing in the midst of her most trying storm. The 30-day journal offers wives a place to prayerfully reflect and meditate upon Kathy?s letters. When His Secret Sin Breaks Your Heart testifies that there is hope for the most dejected of souls and the bleakest of marriages.
Publishers Description Behind every husband enslaved to sexual sin, there is a woman reaping the horrible side effects of his self-centered life-style. What can be more devastating for a wife than to discover her husband has a secret obsession with pornography and other women? Yet, this is what countless Christian wives face every day. Kathy Gallagher has been there; she understands the pain of rejection, the feelings of hopelessness and the questions that plague a hurting wife. In this collection of letters, Kathy imparts heart-felt encouragement by providing the practical, biblical answers that helped her find healing in the midst of her most trying storm. The 30-day journal offers wives a place to prayerfully reflect and meditate upon Kathy?'s letters. When His Secret Sin Breaks Your Heart testifies that there is hope for the most dejected of souls and the bleakest of marriages.
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Studio: Pure Life Ministries
Est. Packaging Dimensions: Length: 8.3" Width: 5.4" Height: 0.6" Weight: 0.55 lbs.
Release Date Jun 1, 2003
Publisher PURE LIFE MINISTRIES #492
ISBN 0971547017 ISBN13 9780971547018
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More About Kathy Gallagher & Beverly LaHaye
In 1986, Kathy Gallagher helped her husband Steve found Pure Life Ministries, a ministry for men struggling with habitual sexual sin. Kathy soon found herself spending countless hours ministering to the hurting wives of these men, pointing them to Jesus and giving them hope through the very answers that worked for her. Today, because of Kathy?'s passion to help these women, hundreds of wives receive counseling through Pure Life?'s Overcomers At Home Program each year. She and Steve make their home in rural Kentucky where she serves as the CFO of Pure Life Ministries.
Kathy Gallagher currently resides in the state of Kentucky.
Reviews - What do customers think about When His Secret Sin Breaks Your Heart?
Whats the point? Mar 2, 2007
This is a very unorganized book and it doesn't even include the letter that the author is responding to. The responding letter may have good points to it but it may or may not apply to your situation. I couldn't assess whether the advice given in the letters were in my best interest or not because I didn't know the situation surrounding the advice.
Very helpful resource Jan 10, 2007
The reason for purchasing this book is obviously a heartbreaking one, but I found so much encouragement in its pages. This book really helped me begin to shift my focuss off myself and on to God. The author has been through what you may be going through and what I am facing and truly offers much hope.
Unorganized May 1, 2006
This book is a series of letters to various women (real or fake? who knows) and has pretty much zero structure to it. I'm pretty sure the whole "letters" idea is just an excuse for not having any kind of organization at all. It's hard to even know where the author is coming from, or going, with whatever she is saying. It's just a bunch of random thoughts thrown together. Not only that, but some of the things this lady says don't really line up with scripture. It's just not a very helpful book at all, and is pretty frustrating to read, and like I said before, not really sound scripturally. It's unorganized and "chatty" and basically depthless, which is a pretty impressive feat to accomplish with a subject as deep as sexual sin. Unless you just want an attractive book with a catchy title, save your money and time and pass this one up.
May not suit everyone's needs.... Jul 16, 2005
If you are looking for a book to help with a personal situation in your life or in the life of someone you love that is hurting, this is not the first book I would recommend. Each letter is written with a different situation in mind and it is likely that only a few of the letters she writes will touch your personal situation, especially if your situation involves other forms of abuse. If you are looking for a more professional or pyschological approach, you may want to look elsewhere. However, if you want to have a greater understanding of how the sexual addictions of husbands hurt their wives or to let you know you are not alone, this book will help give you that. Kathy, the author, has experienced a great deal of hurt in her own marriage and identifies well with the various situations. Although I didn't always agree with her advice, I admire Kathy's consistency as she points each woman back to the Lord where all Truth and healing ultimately lies.
This book is written by an uneducated hillbilly Mar 10, 2005
Her advice is eratic and inconsistant. I'm worried that the women who recieved these letters from her will actually continue to remain in horrific degrading marriages.
In one letter she asks, ". . .does having a comfortable, pain-free life mean so much to you that you would end your marriage for it? Does his pornography addiction really warrant divorce?" As a person who has been in recovery for several years for co-dependency and co-addiction and is married to a sex addict who actually went to a rehab program (Del Amo Hospital in Los Angeles) for it, I think that I can answer her rhetorical questions. When you are married to a narcissist (and yes, most sex addicts qualify as narcissists)who is emotionally abusive and you have lost your sense of self and self respect and you feel like you're losing your sanity, yes you should end the marriage. It is o.k. to do what is in your best interests. I can't believe this woman would suggest that other women remain in a painful demoralizing relationship with no end in sight of the suffering. Marriage takes work on both sides and if your husband is not in a recovery program for sexual addiction and seeking professional help then it is time to hit the road ladies. It's not going to get any better unless you focus on your own recovery AND he focuses on his.
To answer her second question, again my answer is YES. Pornagraphy is cheating which in biblical terms is grounds for divorce. I can't believe this woman waters it down and suggests that a woman suffer through it. Sexual addiction is progressive, that means without treatment it gets worse. If your husband is looking at porn and is not earnestly seeking help for getting free from it, then get out of the relationship. Why wait until he's sleeping with prostitutes and gives you a V.D.?! Don't be naive, that is what it leads to. Even if he is seeking help, still if you want to get a divorce, then yes of course you have biblical grounds for it it. It's your life and no one in their right mind would suggest you put up with this, just like no one would suggest you remain with an alcoholic or a drug addict. It's the same across the board. Any professional will tell you that addiction is addiction is addiction - they all tend to have the same root causes and they are all destructive.
Please do not take this book seriously. Instead seek out a support group such as COSA. Stand up for yourself and get counseling, not just marital counseling or counseling for your husband, but one on one counseling for YOU!