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Overview Product Description Why am I not a more joyful parent? Why aren?t my kids turning out as I expected? Why do I always feel as if I?m not doing enough for my children?
Publishers Description "Why am I not a more joyful parent? Why aren't my kids turning out as I expected? Why do I always feel as if I'm not doing enough for my children?" Is Parenting Supposed to Be This Difficult? As a mother of six, author Leslie Leyland Fields knows firsthand the insecurities and questions that come with rearing children. In this provocative book, she explores with refreshing honesty the myths that can lead to unrealistic expectations and distract us from God's purposes for our children and for us. These nine myths include: - Children make you happy and bring great fulfillment. - You will always feel love for your child. - Your success as a parent can be measured by your child's behavior. - There is one "right" biblical model for family life. - Good parenting will result in happy children. Through a close look at God's own life as a parent as well as stories from real-life families, Fields highlights the transforming biblical truths that release parents from the grip of mistaken assumptions. Fresh, provocative insights will lead you to a deeper understanding of God and yourself-an understanding that lifts the weight of guilt and fear and frees you to love your children as God intended. "Includes "going deeper" questions for individuals, couples, or groups."
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Studio: WaterBrook Press
Est. Packaging Dimensions: Length: 7.8" Width: 5.1" Height: 0.7" Weight: 0.5 lbs.
Release Date Dec 16, 2008
Publisher WaterBrook Press
ISBN 1400074207 ISBN13 9781400074204
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More About Leslie Leyland Fields
Leslie Leyland Fields is the author of six books, including Surprise Child: Finding Hope in Unexpected Pregnancy. She has received the Virginia Faulkner Award for Excellence in Writing and nominations for the Pushcart Prize and has written for journals such as Christianity Today, The Atlantic Monthly, and Today's Christian Woman. The mother of six children, Leslie divides her time among parenting, writing, commercial fishing, and teaching in Seattle Pacific University's master of fine arts program. She and her family on Kodiak Island, Alaska.
Leslie Leyland Fields currently resides in Kodiak. Leslie Leyland Fields was born in 1957.
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A Must Read Mar 17, 2010
Have you every had a passionate belief that you couldn't put into words? You knew it had a Biblical foundation, but for the life of you, you couldn't nail it down or explain it well enough without making you sound like you were making excuses or justifying yourself? This book, Parenting is Your Hightest Calling & Eight Other Myths by Leslie Leyland Fields did that for me. It is a must read for all parents. She outlines 9 myths that many parents buy into that can cause grief and disappointment when their parenting experience doesn't the bring the results they'd expected. As a mother of 15 children, 13 of whom are special needs adopted, I saw how the blame game is easily entered into by those who have a tendency to judge others, especially Christian leaders who take credit for their own children's successes.
Her basic premise is that we as parents are required by God to be faithful, to follow His basic guidelines for holy living and endeavor to teach the same precepts to our children. That's it. We are to leave the results up to Him. He is the one who will woo their hearts, call them to repentance and a life of service to Him. This book will help parents to look to God rather than themselves and quit applying pressure on themselves to satisfy those around them who expect them to take on God's role in their children's lives.
This is a very encouraging book and I recommend it to every parent.
This Book Will Set You Free!!! Jan 18, 2010
This is by far the best parenting book I've ever read--and believe me, I've read more than my share!
If you are someone who gets caught in the anxiety/guilt cycle of constantly questioning whether or not you are making the right (or perfect!) decisions for your children, this book is for you. I'll let it speak for itself:
"We want so badly to get it all right--our marriages, our parenting, our family dynamics. We want to meet all the requirements of a good Christian family. But God takes every hour of our home life, as well as every hour outside of it, and he uses the mistakes, the flaws, the pain as much, if not more, than he uses the good" (from Chapter 9, pg. 203).
This quote epitomizes much of what I love about the book--it keeps pointing back to God, and to God's authority in our lives. While in no way abdicating parents of their responsibilies, the book releases them from the perfectionism that can steal the joy from parenting. It reminds parents that we are, in fact, not God, but fallible human beings who will mess up sometimes--even when we're trying so hard to do our best. How freeing to know that we can trust God to be God, and to use even our mistakes to His good purpose! For the perfectionist who gets paralyzed with all the "what ifs" and "if onlys" of parenting, this message is good news, indeed.
I have a master's degree in pastoral care and counseling, so I am always reading books like this with an eye to their underlying theology. Having said that, I truly feel that the Biblical work in this book is excellent and spot on. Ms. Fields clearly has done her homework, and is neither legalistic nor sloppy in her interpretation of Biblical texts. As a parent, I felt the gospel coming through loud and clear on every page.
Do yourself a favor and buy this book. You won't regret it.
Really great read! Inspiring... Jan 11, 2010
Leslie has written a book that encourages me. I totally agree with Ken Canfield in the recommendations, who says "Chapter 8 [Myth 8: Successful Parents Produce Godly Children] is worth the price of the book alone. I heartily recommend it."
Things that struck me:
"...Yet not many of us have examined our own parenting assumptions and expectations, holding them up to the unsparing light of the Scriptures. In the absence of biblical truth, we quietly absorb the 'truths' our culture offers us: Children are here for our happiness. We're born with a natural instinct to love sacrifically. And if we simply devote ourselves to our parenting, our children will turn out as we want."
"...This book is not a manual to change your child: it is a deep gaze into the parenting heart of God our Father."
As a longtime homeschooling mom and member of moms' groups and a local church, I've seen it over and over. Parents often give sacrificially, and this sometimes happens (quote from Pastor Bradley):
"...I have heard from too many parents who feel like failures and they are especially baffled as they list all that they did or didn't do: no TV, no videos, no video games, no dating, no bad music, no youth group, no institutional church, no neighborhood friends; they homeschooled, dressed modestly, groomed conservatively, memorized Scriptures, and baked their own bread. They were intensely dedicated to rearing their children for God, but their trust was not really in God alone -- it was in what they did for God."
Thank you for this book, Leslie, and being so transparent!!
Misguided use of words and scripture Jan 7, 2010
Having looked closely at the 9 myths I must stand up against the other reviews and shout from a mountain top that "Children are a blessing from the Lord". Done, enough said. The problem is not that we have guilt around our children, the problem is that a majority of American parents are selfish and unwilling to make their children the priority God makes His children - Priority #1. Yes, I said it, they are our #1 priority and by loving our children we prove our love for God.
This book is a classic feel good book that, at best, misleads Christian Families away from their true calling: "Be fruitful and multiply", and at worst flat-out lies to them.
Is Parenting Really Our Highest Calling? Leslie answers this and many other questions. Aug 17, 2009
I can sum up Lesie Leyland Fields' book, Parenting Is Your Highest Calling in one word, honesty. Leslie doesn't claim to know it all as she honestly shares the trials and tribulations of parenting her own six children. She holds nothing back as she recounts the areas in which she struggles as well as where she feels she's succeded. She shows us that we don't need to feel guilty about our parenting skills. Most importantly, Leslie directs us to our Heavenly Father as the ultimate authority on parenting.
The questions at the end of each chapter are challenging and thought provoking. This book is an excellent resource for Bible study groups or those wishing to study on their own. Leslie backs up her ideas with scripture verses with which we are all familiar and dispels the myths that hold us back as parents. I Enjoyed reading this book and would highly recommend it to parents with children of all ages. Every parent-to-be should read this book.