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Overview Publishers Description For every bewildered parent, there's a kid longing to be understood. What parent hasn't occasionally looked at their beloved but bewildering offspring and wondered, "What in the world is he thinking? "or "Why is my sweet little girl acting like that?" In this remarkable book, Shaunti Feldhahn and Lisa Rice take you inside the mind of teens and preteens through the same innovative approach that seized national attention in the best-selling books "For Women Only, For Men Only, "and "For Young Women Only." They explore the results of a nationwide survey and personal interviews with more than 1,000 real-life teens and tweens to tackle those things parents often don't "get" about their kids. You'll hear first-hand about the longings that drive your kids' seemingly illogical decisions, the truth behind those exasperating "attitude problems," and what your children would tell you if they could trust you to truly listen.
Awards and Recognitions For Parents Only: Getting Inside the Head of Your Kid by Shaunti Feldhahn & Lisa A. Rice has received the following awards and recognitions -
Christian Retailing's Best - 2008 Finalist - Relationships category
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Shaunti Feldhahn is the best-selling author of For Women Only: What You Need to Know About the Inner Lives of Men, which has sold 1 million copies in 15 different languages since 2004. Best known for her innovative approach to investigating and quantifying what people "don't know that they don't know" about the opposite sex, Feldhahn hails from a background in economics and analysis rather than the more traditional route of psychology.
Feldhahn received her Bachelor’s degree in government and economics from The College of William and Mary in Virginia (Class of 1989); she then went on to serve on the staff of the U.S. Senate Banking Committee. She later attended Harvard’s Kennedy School of Government for a Master in Public Policy, and then worked at the Federal Reserve Bank of New York as one of the principal financial analysts on Japan during the time of the Japanese financial crisis.
Feldhahn began her career as an author after moving to Atlanta to start a family. Her background as an analyst served as a launching point for opportunities to write about eye-opening topics, from a non-fictional work on the Y2K issue (Y2K: The Millennium Bug) to two spiritual fiction thrillers (The Veritas Conflict and The Lights of Tenth Street). While interviewing men to help her write The Lights on Tenth Street, which has a male protagonist, Feldhahn made a series of observations about men that compelled her to return to the non-fiction world, leading her to further research what men are thinking that women tend not to know. That became the basis for her book For Women Only: What You Need to Know About the Inner Lives of Men. For Women Only attempts to provide readers with insight into the inner lives of men and the challenges they face. Feldhahn (co-authoring at various times with her husband, Jeff, and on other books with youth speakers Lisa and Eric Rice) continued the series by authoring For Men Only, For Young Women Only, For Young Men Only, and For Parents Only.
In January 2010, Feldhahn transitioned from books principally about personal relationships, and published her first book for the business market: "The Male Factor: The Unwritten Rules, Misperceptions and Secret Beliefs of Men in the Workplace."
A syndicated weekly newspaper columnist for six years (2003 to 2009), Feldhahn debated hot topics with another opinionated female, Andy Sarvady, from opposite philosophical perspectives in the popular "Woman to Woman" column. Once appearing in 50 papers such as the Chicago Tribune, Atlanta Journal-Constitution and Seattle Times, the column was a casualty of the economic downturn and newspaper crash in 2009, when many client newspapers cut back, dropped all syndicated content, or went out of business altogether.
She and her husband, Jeff, are well known authors of such books as For Women Only and For Men Only. They are active leaders in their Atlanta-area church and the parents of two children.
Shaunti Feldhahn has published or released items in the following series...
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Good Insights on Raising Kids Sep 12, 2008
"For Parents Only" is a great read for anyone who wants to know more about how to be a more effective parent. Among the topics covered include:
1. Kids' desire for freedom. 2. Why our children secretly hope we will stand firm on certain issues. 3. How to help teens feel secure. 4. How to get your teen to open up and talk to you. 5. A teen's mood swings and how to help their confidence.
Throughout the book are helpful survey results that show how teens would like to see their parents respond in a given situation. Many of the survey results and conclusions by the authors reinforced my belief that we are to be our kids' parents and not their friends.
Coming from a Christian perspective, my point of view is to raise our kids in "the fear of the Lord" - a healthy and respectful fear, that is. Teaching our kids to respect us is far more important then winning their friendship. One kid mentioned in the book that if "I wanted friends I can get them at school, but at home I want my parents to be parents instead of my friends". Another conclusion in the book states that kids get more security and confidence when their parents state clear boundaries and are firm to their kids when needed. To that I say a hearty "AMEN!!!!!".
While some folks may not agree with the book's conclusion, I dare say that many (and quite a few from a non-Christian background) will agree that a firm yet loving type of parent is far better than a parent who is more concerned with being the child's friend. Teach the children respect early and the friendship can come later.
Whether or not you agree with the book, the authors present some conclusions that will challenge you to evaluate the effectiveness of your parenting style.
Read and enjoy. Highly recommended!
Strong, solid messages for deciphering what your teen is thinking Jun 24, 2008
Reviewed by Regan Windsor for Reader Views (6/08)
"Happy the generation where the great listen to the small, for it follows that in such a generation the small will listen to the great." - An Ancient Hebrew Proverb
Authors Shaunti Feldhahn and Lisa Rice take a unique approach in "For Parents Only" by going straight to the subject matter experts on the minds of teens - teens! Combining results from their nationwide survey with their own real-life experiences they manage to bring the data to life in a way that can be almost revolutionary for some parents - not because of any earth-shattering finds; it is the subtle ah-ha moments that strike the reader.
"For Parents Only" provides some strong, solid messages for deciphering what your teen is thinking versus what logic might dictate your teen might be thinking. Above all, however, the underlying message is to listen to your kids, try to understand what lies below their message, and understand they appreciate your boundaries no matter how often they test them.
I like to think of "For Parents Only" as a field guide to the teenage years...one I will continue to reference again and again; sometimes for advice but mostly to remind myself to listen, to pay attention, and above all to ensure they feel the love and support they need to get through these confusing and often heartbreaking years.
Worthwhile Read Feb 11, 2008
This book is definitely worthwhile reading for parents of teens, or better yet, pre-teens, so you can get a head start! The authors present a lot of good information - right from the teens themselves, that should help parents learn about relating to their teenagers. I only wish I had read this sooner, my children are in their late teens, early twenties.
Nice reminder/guidance book for parents with teenage kids Dec 24, 2007
This book is apparently the third or fourth volume in a series of "For X Only" (as in: For Men Only, For Women Only, etc.), and now comes a volume that is specifically oriented towards parents with teenage kids.
In "For Parents Only: Getting Inside The Head of Your Kid" (183 pages), authors Shaunti Feldhahn and Lisa Rice set the table nicely by going over the essentials of what is going on with our teenage kids and providing multiple real-life examples as well as suggestions along the way on how to tackle various situations. I was impressed with the way the authors kept both feet on the ground, and they do not come across patronizing, fully realizing that every parent is facing his or her own specific situation. The introductory chapter is essential for the reader, as the authors set forth the ground rules of the book, such as "We are not endorsing the behavior or excusing the poor choices described by some kids in these pages" and "Our finding are nationally representative but we personally approach parenting from a Christian worldview".
At 183 pages, this is a quick read, and nothing revolutionary is set forth in this little book, but then again nothing is quite as aself-evident either and this book does a great job providing insights and/or reminders how we can better approach/understand/appreciate our teenage kids.
For all parents with teens or soon to be teens. Dec 10, 2007
I only have to look to my 13 year old and know we speak a different language. Shaunti Feldhahn and Lisa A Rice who brought us the best-selling books For Women Only, For Men Only, and For Young Women Only now brings us For Parents Only: Getting Inside the head of your kid. In this book they share the results of a nationwide survey and personal interviews they did with more than 1,000 real-life teens and tweens to tackle those things parents often don't "get" about their kids. I am a relatively young Mom of a 13 year old so I figured it has not been that long since I was a teen. I have to admit this book opened my eyes. This book does a great job defining what "We Think is Happening" versus "What's Really Happening."
What is the most intoxicating and addictive thing your teenager seeks?
What is the best way to parent?
What can we do as parents so they don't emotionally shut us out, but actually seek our advice?
What do they really mean when they tell you to "stop freaking out?"
These are all subjects that are addressed in this book, along with so much more. I highly recommend it,