Item description for For Young Men Only: A Guy's Guide to the Alien Gender by Jeff Feldhahn, Eric Rice & Shaunti Feldhahn...
Overview Presents advice for young men on girls, sex, and relationships, and includes interviews of teenagers that clear up many misconceptions and assumptions about the opposite sex.
Publishers Description Just for guys...the inside scoop on girls from the girls themselves. Okay, the authors aren't girls. But to bring you the facts they surveyed more than 1,000 of them. Every teen guy wants to know how girls are wired, what they want, and how they really think... Or at least how to talk to a girl without feeling like an idiot. Here's your chance to find out.
Awards and Recognitions For Young Men Only: A Guy's Guide to the Alien Gender by Jeff Feldhahn, Eric Rice & Shaunti Feldhahn has received the following awards and recognitions -
Christian Book Award - 2009 Winner - Children & Youth category
Citations And Professional Reviews For Young Men Only: A Guy's Guide to the Alien Gender by Jeff Feldhahn, Eric Rice & Shaunti Feldhahn has been reviewed by professional book reviewers and journalists at the following establishments -
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Studio: Multnomah Books
Est. Packaging Dimensions: Length: 8.6" Width: 6.7" Height: 0.71" Weight: 0.55 lbs.
Release Date Sep 16, 2008
Publisher Multnomah Books
ISBN 160142020X ISBN13 9781601420206
Availability 0 units.
More About Jeff Feldhahn, Eric Rice & Shaunti Feldhahn
Jeff Feldhahn is an attorney by training and an entrepreneur by inclination. He received his law degree from Harvard and has worked at law firms in New York and Atlanta specializing in corporate law and nonprofit organizations. Jeff is the president and CEO of World2one, a tech company that he helped found in 1999. He is also a founding partner at FSB Legal Services, a unique partnership of high-skill, independent, entrepreneurial attorneys who enjoy the challenge of working as a "virtual law firm" for major corporate clients. Jeff and and his wife, Shaunti, are active leaders in their church, and lead a small group for married couples. They make their home in Atlanta with their two young children. Eric Rice is the owner/director/producer of 44 Films. Eric lives in Atlanta area with his wife, Lisa, and their four teenage children.
Reviews - What do customers think about FYMO-For Young Men Only?
Flawed Mar 6, 2010
Good book but with some flawed conclusions and advice. Author depends on survey of young women's answers to reach conclusions. Unfortunatly, females tend say one thing and act completely different. For example, author indicates females would much prefer a good guy with character over a very handsome jock. True, that is the what a good women is supposed to do. But, they don't. Women will always go for the good looking guy first if they can. If you are not good looking, getting dates can be very difficult. You will have to settle unless your money. Sure, personality is important, but it isn't as much of a factor as the author concludes. Another conclusion I thought was flawed was that women like guys who may not be confident when approaching them. Author claims women see this as attractive because it indicates guys like them. This maybe the kind of guy women say they like, but is not the guy they are actually attracted to. They want the guy who is confident and doesn't care. Good guys usually finish last with the gals. It's a fact of life. Jerks get a lot more dates than the 'good guys'. This is true for Christian and non Christian women.
To repeat, not a bad book. But, always take what females say with a big grain of salt. Instead you need to observe what they do. On the other hand Shanti's book made conclusions based on male surveys, which I think is an ok way to go. But, this not always the case with women.
Book was the hit of the Christmas Presents Jan 17, 2010
We sent this book to our nephews for Christmas this year and it turned out to be a great hit. It describes how young men can understand young women from a Christ honoring perspective. Young men, who normally do not like to read will probably enjoy this book, due to the subject matter. My niece even read it to verify that the information was correct. It is now being passed around to other friends.
Thankful Parents of Teen Boys Nov 27, 2009
We've read all of Shanti and Jeff's books, and we were delighted with this new addition! Both of our teenaged boys were shocked to discover that girls think so differently than boys. Our boys are blessed to enter the dating world with a wealth of knowledge about young ladies. :-)
good book Nov 15, 2009
Good book with good material. Bad part is that most of it (not all of it) I'd already learn another way, but I'm 21. If I was 13 or 15, this would have help me infinitely. Good book, and a very good way to explain things.
Only (http://justinfarley.blogspot.com/2008/09/only.html) Sep 12, 2009
I would recommend a book by Jeff Feldhahn and Eric Rice (with Shaunt Feldhahn) titled, For Young Men Only: A Guy's Guide to the Alien Gender, for any parent of an adolescent boy (especially useful for a father/son discussion about identity, relationships, and sex). I was fortunate enough to receive three copies in a special pre-release (I have already given a copy to each of my male interns in hopes that they might consider using such a resource in mentoring a middle or high school student). [...]
Chapter four, titled "When Girls Stop Making Sense," happens to be my favorite chapter. One of the biggest complaints by guys, no matter their ages or experiences, is that girls' actions seem to be completely random. The authors adamantly disagree. They claim that there is something very real going on deep down in each girl which bubbles up to the surface in the form of their behavior. The responsibility of each guy is to actually take the time to understand her (one of the main reasons that being a good husband is not that easy). The authors invite each reader to contemplate moments in their lives when they were baffled by the actions of the opposite gender . . . and then reflect upon how they chose to respond to the situation. The truth is that God made males and females different for a purpose . . . maybe one reason behind this creative genius was so that we would actually take the time to understand each other (rather than make fun of the differences like so many "self-help" doctors do or worse yet pretend like the differences just don't exist - sameness is not equality).
The study revealed four main reasons why women respond the way they do to men (from the mouths of over six thousand ladies interviewed). First, the guy did something (even if he did not realize that he had done anything - the story of my life!). Second, the girl might be dealing with another situation that the guy is unaware of (clueless might be an appropriate word here). Third, there might be something going on inside her heart and mind (uncertainty, insecurity, etc.). Finally, the girl might be dealing with some biological difficulties (it happens). For some of us, the previous conclusions might have been obvious (probably not), but for a teenage boy these truths are golden as they interact with the ladies in their lives.
The authors highlight the words of an apostle, "The same goes for you husbands: Be good husbands to your wives. Honor them, delight in them. As women they lack some of your advantages. But in the new life of God's grace, you're equals. Treat your wives, then, as equals so your prayers don't run aground" (1 Peter 3:7, The Message). What a refreshing message - the authors actually have the courage to challenge men to take responsibility in taking the extra time to understand and help women! Guys are asked to imagine a scenario where a girl that they are interested in is not being herself one day . . . how will the guy choose to start a conversation (a novel idea for all of us)? How will he respectively and gently invite her to actually share her feelings (great question)? What are some things that he should never say? Don't we want to see healthy relationships occur between our students? How much better would it be if guys actually looked for the reason behind what girls did? Picking up nonverbal clues? Asking considerate questions instead of making terrible assumptions? Seems like sound advice for all of us!
My only complaint about the book had nothing to do with the content (the substance was from a biblical perspective) but more to do with the communication (the style of writing). To often, more so earlier on the book, the authors attempted to speak in a "youthy" tone. They used some phrases and illustrations in order to connect with the audience but actually distracted attention from their credibility as adults. Too often youth leaders make the mistake of believing that they have to "be one of them" to relate to all of them - when students know very well that we are not one of them (and never will be). They want us just to be us. Whatever that might be. They just want to know that we care and that we can be trusted. Yes, we have every responsibility to interpret the bible and the culture . . . . and then to bridge those to worlds together. However, do not mistake relevance with that which is recent. Knowing all the latest lingo will never change a life . . . but looking into the heart of a student and calling them to be Christ-like in their context will!
Official Description: The best-selling ONLY series returns with a one-of-a-kind guide for teen guys on how to figure out girls. Drawing on a fresh national survey of 600 teen girls, as well as hundreds of personal interviews, For Young Men Only reveals the real truth about what teenage girls think, what they want, and how average teen guys can build healthy friendships with high quality girls. Full of surprising revelations and practical advice, For Young Men Only delivers help straight from the girls themselves in a fun, easy-to-read, easy-to-talk about format. Warm, witty, and honest, authors Jeff Feldhahn and Eric Rice tell plenty of personal stories and draw on solid biblical principles to guide young guys through the often daunting world of the opposite sex. Their goal is to help teen guys build self-confidence and understanding, and show them how to pursue a relationship with a girl while giving her the respect and protection she deserves.
Official Bio: Jeff Feldhahn is an attorney and the owner of the tech company, World2One. With his wife, Shaunti, he wrote the best selling FOR MEN ONLY. Eric Rice is the owner/director/producer of 44 Films. Eric lives in Atlanta area with his wife, Lisa, and their four teenage children. Shaunti Feldhahn is a nationally syndicated newspaper columnist, public speaker, and best-selling author whose books include FOR WOMEN ONLY, FOR YOUNG WOMEN ONLY (with Lisa Rice) and FOR PARENTS ONLY. [...]