Item description for The Intimate Mystery: Creating Strength And Beauty In Your Marriage (Intimate Marriage Series) by Dr. Tremper Longman Dr. Dan B. Allender, III...
Overview Dan B. Allender and Tremper Longman III have together written this brief, simple and charming introduction to help couples build healthy and happy marriages. Their model follows the "leave, weave and cleave" imagery of the Bible: leave your parents, weave a life together and cleave to each other. This book is part of a kit that includes everything needed to mentor individual married couples or to lead a group discussion. It will be especially helpful for newlyweds or young married couples who are just beginning their new life together.
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Studio: InterVarsity Press
Est. Packaging Dimensions: Length: 8.8" Width: 5.6" Height: 0.8" Weight: 0.54 lbs.
Release Date Jul 31, 2005
Publisher IVP-InterVarsity Press
Series Intimate Marriage Bible Studies
ISBN 0830821317 ISBN13 9780830821310
Availability 0 units.
More About Dr. Tremper Longman Dr. Dan B. Allender, III
Dr. Dan B. Allender received his MDiv from Westminster Theological Seminary and his PhD in counseling psychology from Michigan State University. Currently, he serves as professor of counseling psychology and president at Mars Hill Graduate School. Dr. Allender travels and speaks extensively to present his unique perspective on sexual abuse recovery, love and forgiveness, worship, and other related topics. He and his wife, Rebecca, have three children and live in Seattle, Washington.
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Reviews - What do customers think about The Intimate Mystery: Creating Strength And Beauty In Your Marriage (Intimate Marriage Series)?
Excellent book! Feb 22, 2009
Allender presents a down-to-earth view of the way God intended the intimate relationship between man and wife. He is candid about his own struggles in marriage and he does not candy coat the hard times. But he does offer tremendous hope in having a marriage that God designed through love, mercy, grace, taking responsibility for one's own issues and forgiveness. This is an encouraging read!
Heavy, but great Jan 17, 2009
This book is really heady and dense, just in the way Allender writes. It is so full of great content though. I found it really helpful as I read it with my fiance. It gave us a lot to talk about and a lot of good advice for our marriage.
best marriage book Jun 26, 2008
After 32 years of marriage, my husband and I find this to be the most helpful marriage book we've found.
Decent but underwhelming... May 31, 2007
I was extremely excited to read "The Intimate Mystery," having read a number of solid marriage books over the years but nothing new recently. And I had heard good things about Dan Allender. My wife and I read the book along with a small group of young married couples from our church.
To its credit, the book has many strengths. Most significantly, the paradigm of leaving, weaving, and cleaving that Allender and Longman extract from Genesis 2 is extremely helpful. This framework for a successful, God-honoring marriage is biblical and simple.
It is also clear that these are some smart guys. I consider myself to be relatively well-read, but I literally had to check a dictionary several times to look up words in this short book. Beyond vocabulary, the book presents some higher level concepts than other marriage books, which often settle for mere self-help approaches instead.
The final positive points are more trivial. I appreciated that the book was shorter than some, which made it more readable and digestible. And the book jacket manages to be attractive without being unnecessarily feminine.
Having admitted these strengths, I will briefly explain a few disappointments. First, I was very frustrated with the experience of trying to fit together the various curriculum pieces that accompany this book. There are six different study guides, a DVD, and a leader's guide, which are all explained to be essential to working through the material. Beyond the construction of a money-making franchise, I cannot imagine why the authors would seemingly require so many different separate (and costly) pieces. We decided to skip the DVD, and the study guides and leader's guide were not particularly helpful. I'd encourage others to just read the book.
I was also surprised by how difficult it was for me to follow some of the authors' points. I'm not the brightest guy in the world, but I can read Lewis, Foster, Willard, McGrath and other intellectual heavyweights. Yet, I really struggled to get through some of the chapters. I just found some of the ideas to be almost hastily or sloppily thrown together, in a way that was not clear to the reader.
Finally, our group was somewhat taken aback by some of the examples that were used. Though I suspect that the authors were using a rhetorical approach that was intended to jar and even shock the reader on occasion, our group found it to be off-putting.
In conclusion, I am glad that I read this book, as the leave-weave-cleave paradigm was presented in a way that made sense to me. I imagine that this framework will stick with me and continue to shape my understanding of Christian marriage. However, I was not overly impressed with the book and cannot recommend it highly. If you're looking for a great book to strengthen your marriage, read Gary Thomas' "The Sacred Marriage" instead.